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re: Do you give your life the credit it deserves?
Posted on 4/18/20 at 10:39 am to FightingTigers138
Posted on 4/18/20 at 10:39 am to FightingTigers138
quote:I just convince myself I'm superior to everyone else.
What if you compare yourself to the people below instead of above?
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Posted on 4/18/20 at 10:45 am to FightingTigers138
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What if you compare yourself to the people below instead of above?
I've never given a single shite about how other people are doing in life. I worry about myself and the wife and that's about it.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 10:54 am to Ross
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Sometimes I think I need therapy because I’ve done quite well by most standards for someone my age, but I set the bar impossibly high for myself mentally and it never seems like I’ve accomplished or done enough. Not being able to meet this mental criteria often lands me in a really depressed place.
one of the most freeing things in my life was realizing and accepting about age 32 that, compared to my gifts, i am a failure
and not it's not because i post a lot on message boards (b/c we all waste time somehow even if it's over-working in inefficient ways), because by that point i had already failed. it's just because i never fully utilized my talents and developed them in a way worthy of their immense potential and benefiting the world comparatively.
hell, looking back, i was even involved in 2-3 societal inflection points where, had i honed my gifts at that time, i could have become immensely successful and wealthy. being an expert on social media in the early 00s or a poker player in the mid-00s are opportunities that most people in the history of the world don't get access to. however, even if i had focused and developed to an expert point, there isn't a guarantee of success. that's just the nature of life
by the time you hit 30, brilliant ideas are almost impossible. our brain is past that point. so you kind of have to accept life, figure out how badly you've failed, and what you can do moving forward
and that doesn't mean that even if you figure out the perfect plan that you will either be guaranteed whatever limited success your devolved potential allows you OR that you will maintain that plan. that's just being human. our journey is all about the journey itself.
having too high or too low of expectations is the problem, along with the inertia of life. that's why keeping on moving forward is all we can do, because that's how we figure out out actual expectations at that point in life.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 10:54 am to FightingTigers138
Count your blessings
Posted on 4/18/20 at 11:00 am to madddoggydawg
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I just convince myself I'm superior to everyone else.
I try doing the opposite. Accepting things as they are and try not to value insignificant items or events that don't enrich internally.
When you're younger, what you are is the most important thing. As you age a bit, who you are takes precedence.
I'm pretty damn glad I dust pursue what I wanted to be In my 20s.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:33 pm to Lsupimp
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Can you accept the fact that your entire life is just a ripple on a single wave in a vast ocean and STILL pursue a life of meaning ? If so, you are doing it correctly, even if your “ achievements “ seem small and insignificant.
No. Next question.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:36 pm to FightingTigers138
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Do you give your life the credit it deserves?
To be honest, I’m just happy to be on this side of the dirt. Don’t ever take it for granted because it can all be over in the next few seconds.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:44 pm to RogerTheShrubber
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Some harsh truth to that. We still have primitive yearnings that are being pushed aside for artificial substitutes. There's a peace we feel with challenging nature and providing in a basic way. As this is glossed over for creature comforts mankind has become restless and anxious. Depression is rampant.
Measuring life in accomplishments and milestones is counter productive to the way we are hard wired. Breaking free from the national rhythms of life has been a detriment to the individual and Collectivism is not an identity.
It's weird, but some people subconsciously sabotage their lives when the border on superficial success. Basic insticts related to survival are being ignored, but are hard wired.
Agreed.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:47 pm to FightingTigers138
The old saying “comparison is the thief of joy” is pretty appropriate.
I have to remind myself to take stock of the good things I have in my life. I’m married, Ive had a good job for the past 21 years, a healthy child and a roof over our heads in a house that’s much nicer than I imagined I’d ever own. I’m not in great physical shape (need to lose some lbs) but I’m working on that and this “quarantine” has helped me break some poor habits.
I have friends who make much more money than me and live in nicer houses and neighborhoods and such, but it doesn’t bother me much now. It used to, maybe if I dwelled on it, but only because I was oblivious to the good things on my life.
I have every thing that I need. I just have to remember that when my mind wanders to what others have and don’t have.
I have to remind myself to take stock of the good things I have in my life. I’m married, Ive had a good job for the past 21 years, a healthy child and a roof over our heads in a house that’s much nicer than I imagined I’d ever own. I’m not in great physical shape (need to lose some lbs) but I’m working on that and this “quarantine” has helped me break some poor habits.
I have friends who make much more money than me and live in nicer houses and neighborhoods and such, but it doesn’t bother me much now. It used to, maybe if I dwelled on it, but only because I was oblivious to the good things on my life.
I have every thing that I need. I just have to remember that when my mind wanders to what others have and don’t have.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:47 pm to SlowFlowPro
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:52 pm to Saint Alfonzo
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I've never given a single shite about how other people are doing in life. I worry about myself and the wife and that's about it.
This is how it should be, but you are lying. Everyone is envious of someone else for one thing or another; whether small or large.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 12:59 pm to SlowFlowPro
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one of the most freeing things in my life was realizing and accepting about age 32 that, compared to my gifts, i am a failure
and not it's not because i post a lot on message boards (b/c we all waste time somehow even if it's over-working in inefficient ways), because by that point i had already failed. it's just because i never fully utilized my talents and developed them in a way worthy of their immense potential and benefiting the world comparatively.
hell, looking back, i was even involved in 2-3 societal inflection points where, had i honed my gifts at that time, i could have become immensely successful and wealthy. being an expert on social media in the early 00s or a poker player in the mid-00s are opportunities that most people in the history of the world don't get access to. however, even if i had focused and developed to an expert point, there isn't a guarantee of success. that's just the nature of life
by the time you hit 30, brilliant ideas are almost impossible. our brain is past that point. so you kind of have to accept life, figure out how badly you've failed, and what you can do moving forward
and that doesn't mean that even if you figure out the perfect plan that you will either be guaranteed whatever limited success your devolved potential allows you OR that you will maintain that plan. that's just being human. our journey is all about the journey itself.
having too high or too low of expectations is the problem, along with the inertia of
There is a chance that you could do something better than anyone else; on one particular day, in one particular hour, in one particular moment. That moment can happen at any time. At least one time, you will be the best. I believe that. That's what makes life worth living.
This post was edited on 4/18/20 at 1:12 pm
Posted on 4/18/20 at 1:33 pm to Powerman
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the bad cognition trap of comparing myself to my older brother who is doing a bit better.
I know the feeling. My little brother more than doubles my income. At the end of the day, I make enough to be happy with my lifestyle and end up with some money in the bank after. Life has been pretty good lately
Posted on 4/18/20 at 2:07 pm to FightingTigers138
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This is how it should be, but you are lying. Everyone is envious of someone else for one thing or another; whether small or large.
Lol. You ask a question, I answer it and then you call me a liar? Don't be a dick.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 2:10 pm to FightingTigers138
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Do you give your life the credit it deserves?
99.999999999999999% of the people will never matter in the grand scheme of things, so it's easy to argue almost nobody's life deserves credit.
You should have phrased it as are you valuing your own life like you should.
Posted on 4/18/20 at 2:23 pm to FightingTigers138
Me deserving credit does not compute. I literally don’t understand the question. So I’ll just leave this here:
Q. What is the chief end of man?
A. Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him for ever. -Westminster Shorter Catechism
Q. What is your only comfort in life and in death?
A. That I am not my own, but belong—body and soul, in life and in death—to my faithful Savior, Jesus Christ. - Heidelberg Catechism
Q. What is the chief end of man?
A. Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him for ever. -Westminster Shorter Catechism
Q. What is your only comfort in life and in death?
A. That I am not my own, but belong—body and soul, in life and in death—to my faithful Savior, Jesus Christ. - Heidelberg Catechism
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