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re: Just got served divorce papers today
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:48 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:48 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
That's tough.
I'm sorry you're in that position. Prayers to you all.
I'm sorry you're in that position. Prayers to you all.
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:52 am to fr33manator
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Look friend. You don't want to hear this, I know. But a woman doesn't just up and jump ship without at least a lifeboat ready.
She's cheating. If she isn't, she will be. I've seen the pattern from both sides of the coin. And the sooner you swallow that bitter truth, the better off you'll be. Get the emotion out of the way because at the end of the day you have to man up and be above her bullshite.
Best of luck. Lawyer up. Life ain't over.
This is likely true. A friend of mine still hates her mom because she went through more than a year of marriage counseling to fix the marriage, but it turned out she was cheating on him the entire time.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:58 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
1. ask her to go to counseling.
2. go to group therapy. pretend for a second that your words do come across as bullying.
Stop trying to be in charge all the time. Listen.
You can save the marriage. you will have to be humble, and look for how she is right, and then apologize profusely, and then never do it again.
2. go to group therapy. pretend for a second that your words do come across as bullying.
Stop trying to be in charge all the time. Listen.
You can save the marriage. you will have to be humble, and look for how she is right, and then apologize profusely, and then never do it again.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:59 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Start gathering all your financial information together now. Those sworn financial statements are a blast.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:06 am to lsu480
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If they have been together 23 years I hope the kids that live at home are all his but the first part wouldn't surprise me. Women all cook up this fantasy that if they leave their man he is going to turn into a psycho from a lifetime movie no matter how great he is.
I collected a ton of evidence called the cops and had mine kicked out the house when she wasn't there, then went on a financial gathering marathon.
She screwed up bragging to her friend how much money she was blowing and how much she thought she could get in a divorce. Her friend wasn't so loyal.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:08 am to jmcs68
Please tell me over those 18 months of therapy you've been slowly stashing away your money for the inevitable. Therapy doesn't work for someone who's already made up there mind. It just buys time to get shite in order. You better believe she has a plan. She's already executed it and it starts with you being a bully. You're about to get your nuts dragged through broken glass. Sounds like she is already 2 steps ahead of you. Enjoy your studio apartment. You're about to be poor.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:17 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Do not go to counseling she will use that shite against you in court. Get a lawyer now do not say anything to her or on social media.
I just went through this the last year, do not trust anything she says she is now the enemy she only wants your $$$$$$$ as of today.
I just went through this the last year, do not trust anything she says she is now the enemy she only wants your $$$$$$$ as of today.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:23 am to bulldog95
She may say she was being faithful but all women cheat either before leaving or she is leaving to be with someone else. Trust me get a PI it will be worth it especially after she tells everyone what a so and so you are and that you were cheating then you can pull out the stuff the PI got for you and let everyone know the real her.
Trust me if she's not cheating she has her eye on someone that she wants to be with, I know believe he I know.
Don't trust anything her, her friends, or her family say to you anything you say or do that can be used against you will be used.
Trust me if she's not cheating she has her eye on someone that she wants to be with, I know believe he I know.
Don't trust anything her, her friends, or her family say to you anything you say or do that can be used against you will be used.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 1:29 am
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:34 am to CelticDog
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You can save the marriage. you will have to be humble, and look for how she is right, and then apologize profusely, and then never do it again.
WTF is this shite? If you listen to this beta's advice you'll lose all dignity and it'll take years to get your confidence back.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:37 am to Chuckiee
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What gives her that impression then? She didn't just wake up after 23 years feeing afraid of you
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:39 am to countryboy2
quote:must be "the rest of the story" up in here.
You were served divorce papers while you were still living together?
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:41 am to Walt OReilly
quote:yep, I was headed to bed - then this little jewel popped up.
So glad you decided to air your dirty laundry on the OT
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:42 am to Tubedog13
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quote: You can save the marriage. you will have to be humble, and look for how she is right, and then apologize profusely, and then never do it again.
WTF is this shite? If you listen to this beta's advice you'll lose all dignity and it'll take years to get your confidence back.
Exactly you'll wake up with nothing except the shirt on your back and she will be riding some other dudes dick if not already. They don't just wake up one day and say shite I'm done. It takes months of planning.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:48 am to The Boat
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You bully that womb.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 2:00 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
"Then Jesus said to his disciples: If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me." Matthew 16:24
Posted on 7/14/15 at 3:12 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Chick that was cheating on me told me the same thing, but I have a bad temper. Wasn't ever once aggressive towards her, but she was probably scared what I'd do if/when I found out
Posted on 7/14/15 at 3:30 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Use email for EVERYTHING, and ALWAYS take the high road in the email conversations. This gives you a record.
Be flexible on non-important stuff so the judge sees that you are not the cause of the litigation.
And BTW, if what you say is true about not lifting a hand, there's a strong chance she's feeling guilty and is afraid of what you'd do if you find out something. Might be time to get a PI or something... Cerberus is your friend.
Good luck.
ETA: There is legitimacy in what she says about bullying... even though it may be subtle. This is an opportunity to make yourself a better man. But, as you do, she will hate you more for improving the things that she says she hates about you. Listen and be humble about it. If she comes around and loves you again(and you're willing to take her back), then great. If not, you're that much more of a stud and you can hold your head high and find someone a lot better.
The more you succeed at becoming a better man, the more random and hateful her attacks will be. Keep the high ground, no matter what. DO NOT BREAK and fight her in argument, as it will only serve her mental purposes.
Good luck man.
Be flexible on non-important stuff so the judge sees that you are not the cause of the litigation.
And BTW, if what you say is true about not lifting a hand, there's a strong chance she's feeling guilty and is afraid of what you'd do if you find out something. Might be time to get a PI or something... Cerberus is your friend.
Good luck.
ETA: There is legitimacy in what she says about bullying... even though it may be subtle. This is an opportunity to make yourself a better man. But, as you do, she will hate you more for improving the things that she says she hates about you. Listen and be humble about it. If she comes around and loves you again(and you're willing to take her back), then great. If not, you're that much more of a stud and you can hold your head high and find someone a lot better.
The more you succeed at becoming a better man, the more random and hateful her attacks will be. Keep the high ground, no matter what. DO NOT BREAK and fight her in argument, as it will only serve her mental purposes.
Good luck man.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 3:43 am
Posted on 7/14/15 at 4:05 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Were you teenagers when you got married?
Posted on 7/14/15 at 4:07 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
As others have said, if you don't look at her as your biggest enemy at this point, you are a fool. She will get everything she can from you without any regard to your well being. You will find that hard to believe because all of the time and love you have invested in each other, but it's the truth. You have to become as evil as she will be or she will walk all over your arse.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 4:41 am to MykTide
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As others have said, if you don't look at her as your biggest enemy at this point, you are a fool. She will get everything she can from you without any regard to your well being. You will find that hard to believe because all of the time and love you have invested in each other, but it's the truth. You have to become as evil as she will be or she will walk all over your arse.
Worst advice ever.
When it gets to the point of no return, it must be considered a purely business situation. There must be nothing evil about this man. She should and likely will be evil... he should be professional. Any other tactic is asking for trouble.
Emotion, and all actions that typically occur as a result of them, should be left completely out of it.
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