Sounds like you have a lot going for you, so good for you. I think the best thing for you to do is to see a therapist. One on one with a professional could help you more than any advice you get here.

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Posted by Rockbrc

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Posted on 5/1/16 at 9:51 am to MouseBenQ

Happiest man I know goes to Vegas every 3-4 wks, parades a foxy escort/hooker for about 3 days and then comes home.

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Posted by Pistol...2K4

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Posted on 5/1/16 at 11:03 am to MouseBenQ

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Kinda look back at life and finding that I never had a relationship and I am 28

First I'd explore why you feel a need to be in a relationship at all. If you aren't in one , then you're free like a bird. Women control sex , but men control the relationships. Remember , you are the prize...what sort of bird flies into a cage willingly? Focus on building YOU and your resources and they will come. The question is after that , do you want or need a relationship(that allows the government to get involved in removing you from your resources)?

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Posted by ctiger69

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Posted on 5/1/16 at 11:29 am to MouseBenQ

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Been pretty depressed lately. Kinda look back at life and finding that I never had a relationship and I am 28. Never had someone I got close to one. Specially being in a party school like UGA and grad school, but never building any bond with a significant other. Been very shy most of the time and not very confident. I guess that may be it. Is it impossible to find the right person specially if you can't change ur personality?

Sounds somewhat like me except I had a few serious relationships that I wish I didn't. I felt like when I was 30 that all the great women were already married and my only options were young immature women who did not have a real career, crazy women, beatiuful women who were gold diggers, or divorced women who already had kids. None of those options gave me an urgency to buy a ring and settle down.

It sounds cheesy but just do it. Get online and do online dating. Sigh up for Match, Eharmony, or Farmers only if you want. Do them now. I did two at the same time, Eharmony and Match. Match had hotter women. Be very picky on your selection criteria. For example I had mine set to match me ONLY with women: athletic to average build, 5'6" to 5'10" (I'm tall), non smoker, college degree, white, religious, no kids, age range was my age minus 5 years. Now, that is freaking picky on my part and I had more matches and dates than what I could choose from. I would go on two dates every Saturday and another two dates on Sunday until I finally met my wife. I tried online dating for awhile before this and it was my first time. But I would maybe have one date a month if I was lucky and then I gave up on online dating after 6 months. I tried it again a couple of years later and I did this blitzkrieg tatic and it worked.

Lastly, you got to up your game. Improve your career. Know your goals and future plans. Tell her about them. Work out, get a personal trainer if you are over weight, tan, get your teeth whitened, get a good haircut, wear nice expensive clothes on your first couple of dates. This stuff matters to women in 25-30 age range. Go on a few trips such as camping at Yosemite, visiting Alaska or Europe, do triathlons, or scuba dive. Be active and involved. Tell her about your recent activities and she will think your exciting.

Good luck man.

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