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re: Shared Custody
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:40 am to fr33manator
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:40 am to fr33manator
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Look, you get dealt a shite hand, you can sit there and cry when you don’t have them
(And you will at times) or you can get a move on with your life and keep living.
Make the best of a bad situation.
Of course, although it's not much use to try & talk sense into some clueless a-hole who's just looking to be critical of others.
And yeah, that week without him sucks. I call it "Transition Wednesday", and every other one is absolutely heartbreaking. I was his primary caregiver when he was a baby (his mom was still in school), so we have a very deep bond. But he usually texts me or FaceTimes me sometime during that week, so that helps me deal (he's 9, and has a phone at his mom's that only uses wifi).
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Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:43 am to Grit-Eating Shin
I also don't think this a-hole realizes that for a full week you are 100% hands on. Every night is homework, dinner, bath, bed. Up in the morning, work, pick up. Rinse repeat. There's no break. And I'm sure for your week off you'd rather have your son. Even when I don't have my kids it's not like I'm out partying. I'm at home doing laundry and chores. Lame.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:44 am to GAAtty70
My oldest two are 18&14 but we’re 9&5 at the time I got divorced. I have a flexible work schedule so I was able to get them a couple times a week from school in addition to ever other weekend and every Thursday. Also, being able to attend most extracurricular activities was beneficial.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:46 am to Grit-Eating Shin
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talk sense into some clueless a-hole who's just looking to be critical of others.
Normalizing the culture of divorce is a net negative on our society.
Your children suffer because you and your wife we're selfish and trashy. There are very few situations where I could understand a divorce happening.
Falling out of love (bullshite), infidelity (horrible people), and other typical excuses are bullshite that show major character flaws in all involved.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:47 am to here4thepopcorn
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Every night is homework, dinner, bath, bed. Up in the morning, work, pick up. Rinse repeat.
Oh, you mean like the everyday activities of involved parents in non divorced families? Tell me more....
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:55 am to Displaced
You're telling me every single day you do it 100% by yourself? Your wife has no help in assisting with any of it? You're telling me you cook dinner every single day, bathe the kids, and do bedtime? Get out of here man. You know damn well you don't do this 100% of the time. You pick up your kids from school every day and take them to school every morning?
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:57 am to GAAtty70
My friends all do week on week off...Friday afternoon to Friday afternoon.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:58 am to Displaced
So you rather have your children watch a toxic relationship, fighting every day, and show them what a terrible relationship is?
Listen man, I hope you never have to get divorced. You act like people go in thinking let's have a kid, let's get divorced.
I was married 11 years. We had years and years of counseling. We didn't just decide one day to F it and get divorced.
I want my daughter to know what a real happy loving relationship marriage is. I didn't get that with my ex. I want my daughter to know if she isn't getting what she wants out of a partner to GTFO and she can be a strong single woman.
I don't want my daughter to think a marriage is just two people who don't talk to each other and who don't communicate.
Listen man, I hope you never have to get divorced. You act like people go in thinking let's have a kid, let's get divorced.
I was married 11 years. We had years and years of counseling. We didn't just decide one day to F it and get divorced.
I want my daughter to know what a real happy loving relationship marriage is. I didn't get that with my ex. I want my daughter to know if she isn't getting what she wants out of a partner to GTFO and she can be a strong single woman.
I don't want my daughter to think a marriage is just two people who don't talk to each other and who don't communicate.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 11:59 am to here4thepopcorn
No, I don't do it 100% by myself, but we typically do it together as we are both involved parents...
Good God, you people will jump through hoops to jump off your shitty actions.
Good God, you people will jump through hoops to jump off your shitty actions.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:03 pm to here4thepopcorn
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want my daughter to know what a real happy loving relationship marriage is.
Divorce sounds like a great first step.
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I want my daughter to know if she isn't getting what she wants out of a partner to GTFO and she can be a strong single woman.
Jesus fricking Christ... And we wonder why single mom culture is so prevalent.
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don't want my daughter to think a marriage is just two people who don't talk to each other and who don't communicate.
Don't marry the wrong person for the wrong reasons and then think you never have to change or work on it.
The onus is on you for your character flaws and your jump to divorce and your daughter is the casualty.
This post was edited on 1/4/19 at 12:04 pm
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:05 pm to Displaced
I'm happy you're in a happy relationship but sometimes people make mistakes.
My parents have been married over 50 years. And honestly, they should have gotten divorced years ago. You know why? Because I grew up thinking a normal relationship was arguing, bickering, fighting and yelling. I didn't know any difference. So while you say I f-ed up my daughter's life, I think I did the right thing but not allowing her to see a toxic relationship.
It takes two people to keep a relationship alive. Both have to be working together and sometimes life is shitty and you get dealt a shitty hand.
My parents have been married over 50 years. And honestly, they should have gotten divorced years ago. You know why? Because I grew up thinking a normal relationship was arguing, bickering, fighting and yelling. I didn't know any difference. So while you say I f-ed up my daughter's life, I think I did the right thing but not allowing her to see a toxic relationship.
It takes two people to keep a relationship alive. Both have to be working together and sometimes life is shitty and you get dealt a shitty hand.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:05 pm to Displaced
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Your children suffer because you and your wife we're selfish and trashy. There are very few situations where I could understand a divorce happening.
Falling out of love (bullshite), infidelity (horrible people), and other typical excuses are bullshite that show major character flaws in all involved.
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clueless a-hole
Yep.
I don't give one single frick if you could understand it, podnuh. It's best to just shut the frick up instead of assuming that you know the nuances of others' situations.
You talk pretty high & mighty for someone who seems to get off on trashing others.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:05 pm to GAAtty70
I had 4 kids, we did shared custody, 50/50. 1 week with her, 1 week with me. They would switch every Friday. It worked great. Never seemed chaotic.
My best advice is to truly get along with the ex, and NEVER disparage her in front of the kids. Even if it's deserved. Keep that between you two. Also, we were both always flexible. If for whatever reason, one are all wanted extra time with the other, great. Or if they had something planned that week with their mother, I never cared. And same went for me. Many times, they wanted to stay over a few extra days, it was never an issue.
Kids appreciate parents that love them, and appear to love each other, even when they can't be married. It's not ideal by any stretch, but just put the kids' needs first, before yours, and it will all work out in the end.
Good luck. The first time watching them leave is a heart breaker, but it gets easier.
My best advice is to truly get along with the ex, and NEVER disparage her in front of the kids. Even if it's deserved. Keep that between you two. Also, we were both always flexible. If for whatever reason, one are all wanted extra time with the other, great. Or if they had something planned that week with their mother, I never cared. And same went for me. Many times, they wanted to stay over a few extra days, it was never an issue.
Kids appreciate parents that love them, and appear to love each other, even when they can't be married. It's not ideal by any stretch, but just put the kids' needs first, before yours, and it will all work out in the end.
Good luck. The first time watching them leave is a heart breaker, but it gets easier.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:07 pm to Grit-Eating Shin
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It's best to just shut the frick up instead of assuming that you know the nuances of others' situations.
bullshite. It's best to bring back the shame and judgement towards trash like you folks who are destroying the nuclear family values that made this country great.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:09 pm to Displaced
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Don't marry the wrong person for the wrong reasons and then think you never have to change or work on it.
You are drowning in an ocean of assumptions, and you need to stop acting like you're gracing us with some divine knowledge that we've never considered. You should really just move on.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:09 pm to Displaced
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your daughter is the casualty.
First step? I was married 11 years, I assure you, it wasn't the first step. Jump to divorce? It wasn't a jump.
And yeah, I got married young and made mistakes. That also doesn't mean I have to stay unhappy forever.
You're so oblivious to life.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:09 pm to here4thepopcorn
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It takes two people to keep a relationship alive. Both have to be working together and sometimes life is shitty
A shitty life and marriage you chose
quote:Children of divorce...
you get dealt a shitty hand.
quote:and you're now showing your children to cut bait and run away when her life/marriage gets hard...
Because I grew up thinking a normal relationship was arguing, bickering, fighting and yelling.
This post was edited on 1/4/19 at 12:10 pm
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:10 pm to Displaced
quote:Well, good luck with that!
bullshite. It's best to bring back the shame and judgement towards trash like you folks who are destroying the nuclear family values that made this country great.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:11 pm to here4thepopcorn
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And yeah, I got married young and made mistakes
... I already knew you were trashy from the divorce.
Posted on 1/4/19 at 12:11 pm to Displaced
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It's best to bring back the shame and judgement towards trash like you folks who are destroying the nuclear family values that made this country great.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Okay, Mr. Leave it to Beaver.
Let me guess, you also force your wife to have dinner on the table at 5 PM, with a house clean, and your shirts ironed?
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