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re: Engaged but second guessing getting married- advice
Posted on 1/15/17 at 7:57 pm to Tigerfan56
Posted on 1/15/17 at 7:57 pm to Tigerfan56
Next time I think about getting married, I am just going to find some bitch I dont like and buy her a house.
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Posted on 1/15/17 at 7:57 pm to Honky Lips
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GET OUT NOW and I'm not even joking.
You won't though. You'll go through with it and in 10 years wonder why you're miserable.
The OP got the best advice with the very first reply.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 7:59 pm to Tigerfan56
Best advice is delete your account and thread because when she finds this your fricked
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:02 pm to Tigerfan56
Me and my girl started seeing each other at 17 and 18 years old, respectively. We had been friends for about a year or two before that. We moved in together almost immediately. Lived together unmarried for maybe 12 years or so. Got married to save money on taxes.
Everybody would always ask us why were werent married and we would always give them the same answer. Theres no real reason to. If you love each other and youre committed then whats the point? All marriage does is make it harder to break up. Im convinced women invented marriage.
I think people get married because they feel like thats just what youre supposed to do. Society puts all kinds of pointless pressure on people to do things without real reason.
BTW, we are the most stable couple I know.
FWIW.
Everybody would always ask us why were werent married and we would always give them the same answer. Theres no real reason to. If you love each other and youre committed then whats the point? All marriage does is make it harder to break up. Im convinced women invented marriage.
I think people get married because they feel like thats just what youre supposed to do. Society puts all kinds of pointless pressure on people to do things without real reason.
BTW, we are the most stable couple I know.
FWIW.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:05 pm to Tigerfan56
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I'm 26.
You're too young to get married. You've pissed away your 20s up to this point. There will always be another girl who is "the one." You only get one decade as a twenty something. A decade where you should be on your own, making some money or in grad school and hanging with friends doing all the stuff you wanted when younger but couldn't afford. Eventually you'll all get married and you'll see less of each other and you'll settle into the well worn groove of married life during your 30s. When your 40s hit and that wife is giving you shite for drinking five beers in your backyard listening to some music while you smoke a brisket and mind your own business, you'll be able to find a modicum of joy reflecting back on your 20s, the freest decade of one's life.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:09 pm to Tigerfan56
Swingers club?
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:18 pm to Tigerfan56
You know we need da pics baw
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:18 pm to Tigerfan56
I'd say break it off, but before you do, tell her you like to bone outside...
See how she reacts, if she's cool, she might be a keeper
See how she reacts, if she's cool, she might be a keeper
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:20 pm to Tigerfan56
Why did you even propose if you were not sure?
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:34 pm to lsunurse
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Why did you even propose if you were not sure?
Marriage is a huge commitment. I'd be willing to guess most people second guessed their decision ato least once during the engagement phase.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 8:47 pm to Tigerfan56
In my opinion I would move out and live apart for some time. Even if means postponing the wedding for later in the year. Living together prior to marriage can potentially set you up for failure. Marriage is not easy. You have to work at it daily.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:00 pm to HoustonChick86
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Marriage is a huge commitment. I'd be willing to guess most people second guessed their decision ato least once during the engagement phase.
While this is true, he mentions that he feels like things have gotten stale....and he is only 4 months into his engagement. I would guess he has felt that things were "stale" before he even proposed. Which is why I ask why did he even propose.
Honestly...based on his OP he sounds like he has very unrealistic expectations of marriage and relationships in general. A marriage and serious relationship isn't supposed to feel exciting all the time. If he thinks things feel too boring for him now...he doesn't seem to realize that marriage is NOT gonna change that for the better.
Doesn't sound like his relationship is necessarily doomed, just that he may need to rethink what a realistic marriage actually looks like.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:02 pm to Tigerfan56
You need to have an honest conversation with her. Talk about the relationship as you see it. Won't be easy, but it will pay off in the long run.
Luckily for me, I had that conversation many years ago with my hs sweetheart. It was her who initiated the convo. Now, we are both happily married... to other people.
Who knows, she may feel the same as you. Maybe it's just cold feet. Won't know without talking to her.
Luckily for me, I had that conversation many years ago with my hs sweetheart. It was her who initiated the convo. Now, we are both happily married... to other people.
Who knows, she may feel the same as you. Maybe it's just cold feet. Won't know without talking to her.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:04 pm to lsunurse
quote:could also be because since the engagement the chick is all about the pending marriage and the stress of planning and the lifetime commitment has gotten in the way of just loving one another
While this is true, he mentions that he feels like things have gotten stale....and he is only 4 months into his engagement. I would guess he has felt that things were "stale" before he even proposed. Which is why I ask why did he even propose.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:05 pm to lsunurse
Tell her that the only way you can go through with it is if she will accept anal
You can't lose
You can't lose
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:06 pm to OWLFAN86
True. I've heard some women get insanely annoying when they are engaged.
I mean, not that I know anything personally about that or anything
I mean, not that I know anything personally about that or anything
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:09 pm to lsunurse
Which is why he is having second thoughts.
Life gets stale. But it's also awesome. It is natural to get scared of that.
People see marriage as the stepping stone into life's boredom.
Life gets stale. But it's also awesome. It is natural to get scared of that.
People see marriage as the stepping stone into life's boredom.
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:10 pm to lsunurse
quote:sweatergawd I wasn't just thinking of you
True. I've heard some women get insanely annoying when they are engaged.
I mean, not that I know anything personally about that or anything
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:11 pm to Fun Bunch
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If she's a great girl marry her. Marriage isn't about love it's a business arraignment. Can you stomach her existence? Will she make a good business partner? Mother?
Marry her.
Excitement is for mistresses. Get some, don't get caught. Don't listen to the prudes here
Posted on 1/15/17 at 9:11 pm to Tigerfan56
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Things just have gotten stale, no more excitement. Feels like we're already a boring married couple.
Just sit down and discuss this with her.
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