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re: Why don't parents hit their kids anymore?
Posted on 12/1/22 at 11:31 am to LSUCOCK
Posted on 12/1/22 at 11:31 am to LSUCOCK
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It pains me to watch this crap. These are the type of kids who become bullies in school bc they always get what they want.
Don't get upset. Look the parent right in the eye and laugh out loud. Humiliate the losers.
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Posted on 12/1/22 at 11:59 am to monsterballads
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literally every expert
Oh my. I mean, I'm an actual, real-live mother with extremely well-adjusted teenagers who never get in trouble and have an excellent relationship with us (the mean parents). I did have to give them a few pops when they were younger. So what?
Also, what exactly do you think happens to a small child if they get a spanking? Some deep, psychological trauma?
Do you think it's worse than, say, the burn they're going to get if they crawl up on the counter to a hot pot? (True story). Spankings are meant to scare them so they don't repeat said behavior.
Some children will respond to a harsh "no" while you remove them. Others will almost laugh at you and try to do it again. Sorry, but establishing alpha is important in these types of instances.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:06 pm to LSUCOCK
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Why have parents gotten so soft that they can't discipline their kids anymore?
I don't hit my child or spank, because that isn't a form of behavior modification that works for him.
I do get some weird looks for how I speak to him or ignore him in public sometimes though.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:21 pm to HouseMom
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And I guarantee prisons are full of people who were not, in fact, disciplined as children.
I'd love to see your guaranteed proof. Every study I've seen says spanking leads to the opposite. Frankly, I don't care one way or the other if you spank. That's your kid.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:26 pm to LSUfan4444
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All too often parents mistake their desire to give a kid a spanking for the thought that a kid or kids NEED a spanking.
No parent wants to spank their kid, but sometimes, discipline is needed.
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No kid needs it.
Sure they do. I got spankings when I was a kid, and deserved it. It would be rare for a kid not to need it, especially in the entitled world we live in by not spanking when needed for 3 decades now.
Go talk to a school teacher or principal.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:28 pm to The Third Leg
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No. I had a lot of friends who got hit growing up and they never disrespected their parents—they feared them and secretly resented them.
This. I got in trouble a lot as a kid. My dad would beat me with his belt in some cases until I bled. Then would make me wear shorts the next day for school. Different time though. I have really never respected my dad because of that. Never respected my mom for allowing that to happen. His parents were just like that as well. I would never put my hands on my kids like that. I would never use, what amounts to a weapon, on either of my boys. I haver other means to control them. I admit I have hand spanked my oldest on the butt when he was younger, but that never did anything but scare him. I decided several years back, that I wouldn't do it anymore. I don't want my kids to be scared of me like that. I was terrified of my dad when he got mad, because I knew what was coming. And it had zero effects on my decisions on whether I would do it again.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:30 pm to Cdawg
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I'd love to see your guaranteed proof.
I was using the same wording as the poster who asserted the opposite. Also, I said "disciplined" not "spanked."
Do you think prisons are full of people whose parents disciplined them appropriately? That's certainly an interesting take. Please elaborate.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:31 pm to kywildcatfanone
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No parent wants to spank their kid, but sometimes, discipline is needed.
Is physical discipline the only one you know?
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:39 pm to HouseMom
OK, maybe we're on the same page. So in your terms, is discipline punishment or structure? I think prisons are filled with people who were abused/neglected as children and also the mentally ill.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:39 pm to LSUCOCK
The child may have had a disability. As the parent of a child on the Autism Spectrum, I can tell you, you don’t know when that tantrum is coming. Sometimes it’s all you can do to get out of the situation (and you can’t do that on a plane).
Before you judge parents, you may want to consider all the possible scenarios.
Before you judge parents, you may want to consider all the possible scenarios.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:46 pm to LSUCOCK
I can't believe this got more downvotes than upvotes...proof that the pussification of america is real. Hell when I was in school we got paddled at school...mush worse than the spankings i got at home.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:47 pm to HouseMom
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Sorry, but establishing alpha is important in these types of instances.
you're really tough for hitting someone 1/20th of your size
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:48 pm to Marciano1
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*they kids
*dey kids
Posted on 12/1/22 at 12:59 pm to yellowfin
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Is physical discipline the only one you know?
No why? There are lots of forms of discipline, and I said sometimes spanking is needed. Is that hard to understand?
Posted on 12/1/22 at 1:09 pm to monsterballads
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you're really tough for hitting someone 1/20th of your size
My kids weren't even that small at birth, so no. How big do you think I am?
Again, a pop on a 5 year olds thigh is far from "hitting" them, and I wasn't trying to be "tough," I was trying to get their attention and redirect behavior.
You have got to be a troll OR you have no kids and are studying child psychology.
Plus, why keep coming at me personally? This topic is 8 pages long and many posters have said what I said.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 1:38 pm to LSUCOCK
The thing about corporal punishment is that (most importantly) it must fit the crime committed.
Growing up, I was a kid who needed a lot of... adjustment, shall we say. Most of my whippings were justly deserved in terms of the shite I did. However, by and large, there were steps between my actions and an arse-whipping. If you're hauling off and beating arse for everything, there is no learning, and you're just a dick who likes to hit.
Also, when necessary, the whipping should be severe enough not to permanently damage but to serve as a deterrent. My friend's dad had an a-hole father who used to beat the shite out of him, and even worse when he would drink. He swore he would never repeat that, and he didn't. He could count on one hand the number of times my friend and his brother warranted a whipping. Because he did it right.
Corporal punishment is an answer. But it should always be the last, most severe answer.
Growing up, I was a kid who needed a lot of... adjustment, shall we say. Most of my whippings were justly deserved in terms of the shite I did. However, by and large, there were steps between my actions and an arse-whipping. If you're hauling off and beating arse for everything, there is no learning, and you're just a dick who likes to hit.
Also, when necessary, the whipping should be severe enough not to permanently damage but to serve as a deterrent. My friend's dad had an a-hole father who used to beat the shite out of him, and even worse when he would drink. He swore he would never repeat that, and he didn't. He could count on one hand the number of times my friend and his brother warranted a whipping. Because he did it right.
Corporal punishment is an answer. But it should always be the last, most severe answer.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 1:44 pm to HouseMom
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How big do you think I am?
You’re a housewife posting on the OT. Do I need to answer that?
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Again, a pop on a 5 year olds thigh is far from "hitting" them,
A “pop” is literally hitting them. Are we really going to argue the difference between a “pop” and a “hit”. The mental gymnastics you’re doing is sad.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 1:48 pm to TheFitfulFire
As my kids get older, 7,7, and 10, I use other ways of punishing them. There's a lot of creative ways out there that suck and give them time to think about what they did.
The only time that spankings happen is when I hear them mouthing off or being defiant against my wife. If she has to ask them to do something or think they get to talk back to her I step in. One of my daughters is pretty strong willed which I like, but when her manners/respect are lacking I give her the you need to tighten up warning before it happens.
The only time that spankings happen is when I hear them mouthing off or being defiant against my wife. If she has to ask them to do something or think they get to talk back to her I step in. One of my daughters is pretty strong willed which I like, but when her manners/respect are lacking I give her the you need to tighten up warning before it happens.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 2:03 pm to Topwater Trout
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I can't believe this got more downvotes than upvotes...proof that the pussification of america is real. Hell when I was in school we got paddled at school...mush worse than the spankings i got at home.
Several of the teachers and the principal in grade school had wooden paddles hanging behind their desk. I got cracked on the arse a time or two.
In third grade there was a female teacher who spanked kids with an oven mitt on her hand so she wouldn't hurt them.
Posted on 12/1/22 at 2:13 pm to monsterballads
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You’re a housewife posting on the OT. Do I need to answer that?
For the 100th time, not a housewife.
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A “pop” is literally hitting them. Are we really going to argue the difference between a “pop” and a “hit”. The mental gymnastics you’re doing is sad.
You're sad. Again, why do you keep personally attacking me? Answer my question. Pages of men are saying the same thing I'm saying, so what's your deal?
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