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TheInvisibleMan
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re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 3:56 pm to SEClint
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Unless you have mutual friends, they'll take her side.
We don't have mutual friends so I'm good there. Yes I know some of her friends but since I'll no longer be hanging out with her they aren't people I'll see again.
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re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 3:55 pm to AmosMosesAndTwins
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I mean this can’t be real. You emailed someone for sex?
Yep 100%.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 3:50 pm to QJenk
Thank you all for the responses. I've gotten the point. I screwed up. I should've never asked and I should've definitely never asked by email. Of course at this point it's done and I can't take it back. All I can do is move on. But there's been some good advice on here and I will look to utilize some of it in the future. I don't like the idea of ruining friendships and yes it stinks that I have one less friend today than I did yesterday, but hopefully this will be a good learning experience that will help me down the road. A negative that I can turn into a positive. And yes you all have succeeded in making me feel like crap over what I did. But I do thank you all for your honestly and advice.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 1:33 pm to Godfather1
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Dude, don’t let this place get you down.
I get the impression that you’re pressing too hard.
Try relaxing and working on other aspects of your life. It will improve your confidence in yourself and before you know it, all this will seem very unimportant. That’s whe love unexpectedly falls into your lap, and having an adjusted attitude, it will be successful for you.
Yes this place has been harsh as I expected but there's been some good advice. I'll definitely admit that I am someone who overthinks things and probably presses too hard. Like others have said I've always believed in honesty but I know there can be too much information. Showing desperation due to lack of sex is definitely not something that is going to help me and I see that now.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 1:25 pm to Indefatigable
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You seem like a massive loser, and your lack of sex and relationships is not surprising from your posts here. Log off and reevaluate everything about yourself.
Who sends that type of email and thinks they will get a positive response? Are you on the spectrum?
Seeing the response on this forum I should probably just give up and just pay for an escort a few times a year. I'll admit I'm invisible to women and it's probably too late now for any type of meaningful relationship. Might as well just attempt to get some sex (even if I have to pay for it) to have some fun.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 1:20 pm to Godfather1
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What part of
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Please don't contact me again.
didn’t you understand?
You sound kinda creepy. No wonder she wanted no part of you.
If she was going to do that and we were going full gloves off I was going to get the last word in.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 1:06 pm to soccerfüt
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Again, please describe in two or three paragraphs your relationship with your father.
Don't really know what this has to do with it but I'll bite.
Relationship with my father, decent but distant. We don't have a lot in common. He worked a lot while growing up. Too much of an old school black and white mentality. No hostility or anything and overall it's a decent relationship but I wouldn't say I'm crazy close to him. Luckily I have a small immediate family and get along with everyone.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:55 pm to davyjones
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Not only is this a setback for you, but the reverberations from this is going to set us all back. One giant leap backwards for mankind.
Haha now I think you're giving me too much credit.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:43 pm to WylieTiger
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Didn't you screenshot a text message. If so, then why this question on pg 2?
SCAM
TROLL
She replied via text message, not by email.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:43 pm to VABuckeye
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So you in your infinite wisdom decided to double down on stupidity. IF this is true you're one of the most socially awkward people ever to post on this site. This thread puts you into Boo Krewe and Trillhog territory.
It is true and yes I did send that to her. I'll admit that response was probably pure emotion. No real thought put into it.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:29 pm to AMS
If you all really want the reply here it is:
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So be it. I won't contact you again. I don't regret asking and I won't apologize. If you're going to be that immature about it and not be an adult then I guess I didn't know you as well as I thought. I asked because I trusted you. It seems that trust was misplaced. You are the one who ended the friendship, not me. But I'm not sorry for asking and I know at the bottom of my heart that I did the right thing. I took my chance. Goodbye.
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That was my response. She most likely blocked my number so I doubt she ever saw it anyway.
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So be it. I won't contact you again. I don't regret asking and I won't apologize. If you're going to be that immature about it and not be an adult then I guess I didn't know you as well as I thought. I asked because I trusted you. It seems that trust was misplaced. You are the one who ended the friendship, not me. But I'm not sorry for asking and I know at the bottom of my heart that I did the right thing. I took my chance. Goodbye.
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That was my response. She most likely blocked my number so I doubt she ever saw it anyway.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:25 pm to lsubuddy
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But ! IF you're a average looking dude and have any charm and charisma at all, you can get the friendship back. It'll take time!
Sorry but if that's the way she's going to react I have no interest in getting the friendship back. I trusted her and it's obvious that trust was misplaced. The way I look at it better to just leave it and move on.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:15 pm to Sisselpud81
I must admit I didn't realize I had screwed up that much until I started this thread. I guess I deserve it. 
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 12:02 pm to Warfarer
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I don’t think the idea of bringing it up was out of bounds but this came across as desperate for all I read. As mentioned, you should have done it in person while hanging out.
I know that's probably where I went wrong. I was just too reserved to ask something like that in person to her. From her reaction it was probably the correct decision. I'm sure she could have lost her sh*t if we were hanging out somewhere. Obviously at this point I'll never know if asking out in person would've changed the answer but I'll know for next time.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 11:43 am to SuperSaint
Ask and you shall receive. I no longer have the original email but I have something better. Her response which she sent by text. I was wrong, she sent it last night. I just didn't see it until this morning. Obviously for security purposes I have blacked out the number.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 10:25 am to Vamos Brandonos
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Yeah this is a troll, but please keep going. I am curious to see how you contradict yourself more.
Haha the funny thing is it's completely true. Not only single thing I've said is a troll. We met off a dating site 6 years ago as we both enjoyed golf. Went to a state park on our first date and went to a concert on our second date. I thought we hit it off but at the end of the second date I went in to kiss her and she indicated that she just saw me as a friend but wanted to stay friends.
We ended up golfing together at times as well as working out together (though she couldn't lift heavier weights like I could). We became good friends and were friends for just over 6 years. I felt there was starting to be a division in the last year. She was one of those who got super afraid of COVID and until a few months ago wouldn't even go inside a restaurant or bar. I've only seen her a few times the last 2 years due to the pandemic. Mostly just chatted over the phone and did a few golf outings.
So it's all true. I decided I was ending my years of not having sex this year and that I wanted to be more comfortable physically and sexually around women. I was hoping she would be willing to have sex with me to help both of us on the dating scene but we see the answer to that question.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 10:16 am to dyslexiateechur
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Didn’t even progress to kissing at any point. Dude was kinda awkward but we got along well enough. I thought we were building an actual friendship because he gave me no sexual signs at all before propositioning me out of the blue.
Definitely reminds me a lot of OP.
Not to get off track but it does seem to relate a little. Why is it always the guys responsibility to make the first move? Why did you let him keep taking you out on dates when you knew you weren't interested sexually? Did you offer to split the bill? If you were sexually interested at all did you ever think about giving the guy a sexual sign? I'm tired of women having it both ways. Wanting equality in society and the workplace but then wanting "traditional gender roles" in dating and in the bedroom. To me it's hypocritical.
Not judging you but I would be interested to know how you handled the situation knowing that you were on dates but you weren't interested in anything beyond friendship.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 10:12 am to bird35
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I’m a big believer in take your shot with women friends.
I always had tons of friends I enjoy spending time with mostly guy friends.
What I wanted from a women was love which included a combination of partnership, friendship and sex.
When I was single and found a female friend that I got along with and I found attractive I asked her out. On that date I liked to do something to establish I was not interested in a friendship only such as hold her hand or kiss her.
If she was interested good. If not then at least I would find out quickly and move to the next.
I learned at an early age that spending a long time building a relationship with a girl I hoped would turn into more was a waste of time.
To OP: Don’t send emails or texts. Have a Conversation in person.
Good advice and definitely something I learned today. Women friends will always essentially betray you. Like you said shoot your shot early, hopefully get sex and if not move on.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 10:10 am to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
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This is my favorite line. OP alter told his friend that she was ugly and unlovable, so her only other option was to frick him since it would benefit both of them. Alter OP already said he was gonna suck at sex, so how would this benefit the chick if you suck at sex?
It would've allowed both of us to gain experience so that if we actually got into relationships with other people we wouldn't suck at sex.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 10:01 am to 50_Tiger
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You're invisible to the modern woman.
Hence my desperation and my username. I guess it's time to just go the escort route several times a year.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 10:00 am to CunningLinguist
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I want to believe this but it seems so fake. The fact you post on Reddit gives you more cringe credibility. Final verdict: great troll
What could I do to prove to you it's not a troll?
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:56 am to SlidellCajun
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It’s a nice transparent gesture and I think if you send it to enough women, you’ll net a few.
It’s more of a trawl approach imo
Thank you. I was trying to be transparent and honest. I wanted her to know why I was asking. But I missed the mark a little bit. Maybe I'll tailor it a little and use it for dating sites and play the numbers game.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:54 am to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
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Are you fat? What is your salary? What is your clothing style?
Not fat. OT poor but still $60/k year salary which isn't completely awful. The woman in quested dated far worse.
Clothing style isn't great. I value comfort over style which I'm sure doesn't help.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:52 am to cable
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Get her to post ITT - oh lawd this would be epic if it actually happened. Even if you make up an alter we could have some hilarity.
Considering she doesn't want me to contact her again I doubt this will happen but I'll oblige and give it a try.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:50 am to Big EZ Tiger
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Yes, yes you are.
Sadly I've accepted that I am invisible to women unless I'm paying for the woman. That's why the name seemed appropriate.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:47 am to Maynard James Keenan
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1) This didn't happen
2) If it did, you're literally an incel
But it did not happen
I'll admit I have read some incel stuff before but I've attempted to stay away from the incel/manosphere stuff.
re: Arrest made in slaying of girl walking on NYC street
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:46 am to L.A.
The picture matched exactly what I was thinking going in. Big shocker there.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:44 am to Maynard James Keenan
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1) This didn't happen
2) If it did, you're literally an incel
But it did not happen
I promise you it did. Trust me the woman on the other side could verify.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:40 am to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
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Vacationing alone at Universal Studios will give you crazy thoughts.
Actually Smokies/Gatlinburg but I guess the same could apply. Could've been all the moonshine.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:36 am to LSU Grad Alabama Fan
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ro, all you had to do was tell her that you've been attracted to her for a while. Read her body language and see if that gets her juices flowing. Don't try to take her on a date though or that will be her expectation. You have to get her back to your place or her place. Don't expect sex the first couple of times, but work on getting her to trust you.
That wouldn't have worked. We met off a dating site 6 years ago. We went on two dates and I was attracted to her and it seemed like she was interested as well. Then she surprised me and friend zoned me. Even if I had told her I was still moderately attracted I don't think it would've helped.
re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?
Posted by TheInvisibleMan on 4/10/22 at 9:33 am to NorthGwinnettTiger
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Think of how many of her girlfriends she has sent this to. Not only are you not getting laid, now they are all weirded out by you.
Luckily I only know 2 of her other friends and I never hung out with them unless she was part of the group. We had different friend groups so there was no risk of that. Her girlfriends aren't the type I would be interesting in getting laid with anyway. I mean we knew each other for 6 years. I think it's safe to say she was never going to hook me up with one of her friends anyway.
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