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Hoova1202004
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re: RIP Jimmy Buffett
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 9/2/23 at 12:50 pm to Buck Magnum
I literally was in tears hearing of Jimmy’s passing. His music helped me during my darkest time in life after my wife passed away. After she died I went from Louisiana to Tennessee back to Louisiana. Turned right around to go Texas and finally back to Louisiana. He is all I listened to during the drives. There were many nights, in the beginning that his music was all I had to keep me somewhat sane. RIP and hopefully my wife and Jimmy are singing together in heaven.
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The final update about my wife passing away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 6/12/23 at 6:34 pm
This is my final update about everything that’s been going on since she passed away. I apologize in advance if this runs long. June 10th made a year since I found my wife passed away in our home. A year ago at this time, my whole life and the lives of my children were flipped completely upside down. So much has happened in the past year. Sold our home, moved to an apartment, bought another home etc.
All the first of everything happened within the past year. Holidays, birthdays, anniversary etc. I remember back in October, taking my oldest daughter to the salon to get her hair done for her senior homecoming dance. I was the only dad there that afternoon. The salon was filled with happy, laughing and smiling mothers and daughters. I thought to myself, how life is so unfair at times. But we have made it through all these events and I am proud to say my daughter graduated with honors and received a scholarship to attend SELU in the fall.
We just returned from Tennessee, we spent a week up there. The Great Smoky Mountains were my wife’s favorite place to be. We found a nice beautiful spot in the mountains and spread her ashes in her favorite place. I will be honest, I thought it would be very emotional but it wasn’t. It was an amazing sense of peace. Some may think I am crazy but I heard my wife’s voice saying “Thank You” It was our dream to one day retire up there. That dream is still in my heart and when the time comes, I will live out that dream for both of us.
The last few things I wanted to say was “THANK YOU” to all the strangers that have prayed for my family and myself. Words can’t describe my gratitude. God is good, even in tragedy. I have been beyond blessed as well this past year. I know that God has great things in store for my family and myself and I can assure everyone. That I wouldn’t have made it this far without him. I will never, ever forget my wife but I also know life must go on. God wants us to continue living and to never give up. I know in my heart, that it’s ok to live again, it’s ok to try again and when that time comes, it’s ok to love again.
All the first of everything happened within the past year. Holidays, birthdays, anniversary etc. I remember back in October, taking my oldest daughter to the salon to get her hair done for her senior homecoming dance. I was the only dad there that afternoon. The salon was filled with happy, laughing and smiling mothers and daughters. I thought to myself, how life is so unfair at times. But we have made it through all these events and I am proud to say my daughter graduated with honors and received a scholarship to attend SELU in the fall.
We just returned from Tennessee, we spent a week up there. The Great Smoky Mountains were my wife’s favorite place to be. We found a nice beautiful spot in the mountains and spread her ashes in her favorite place. I will be honest, I thought it would be very emotional but it wasn’t. It was an amazing sense of peace. Some may think I am crazy but I heard my wife’s voice saying “Thank You” It was our dream to one day retire up there. That dream is still in my heart and when the time comes, I will live out that dream for both of us.
The last few things I wanted to say was “THANK YOU” to all the strangers that have prayed for my family and myself. Words can’t describe my gratitude. God is good, even in tragedy. I have been beyond blessed as well this past year. I know that God has great things in store for my family and myself and I can assure everyone. That I wouldn’t have made it this far without him. I will never, ever forget my wife but I also know life must go on. God wants us to continue living and to never give up. I know in my heart, that it’s ok to live again, it’s ok to try again and when that time comes, it’s ok to love again.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 9:32 pm to OweO
The wife and I use to have season tickets to the Pels. My son and have have gone to a few games this year. I think we take care of business against the Thunder. Hopefully we don’t have to play the Lakers in LA for the 8th seed.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 9:20 pm to Will Cover
My uncle is a pastor in Texas. He is an amazing person that I have leaned on.He said something to me right after she passed that I will never forget. “ You have 2 choices.” “You can either run away from God or you can run to him.” I would’ve never made it as far as I have without God. Its true, the LORD is close to the brokenhearted. He truly knows every tear that we cry.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 9:00 pm to dallastiger55
I have my wife’s toy poodle. That little dog has been with me every step of the way. She use to aggravate me but I would be lost without her. She is my sleeping buddy now! Lol
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 8:58 pm to LaLadyinTx
Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry for your loss as well.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 8:56 pm to NorthEnd
I am so freaking sorry man. We have 3 kids together and it is tough at times but they are what keeps me getting up every morning. I miss my wife so much as well. If you ever want to talk please feel free to reach out.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 8:52 pm to Tigergal9311
I will definitely say a prayer for you and you husband tonight. I am sorry y’all are having to go through this.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 8:51 pm to JimEagle
I am sorry for you loss. This is not a club that we want to be apart of. I am not ready to meet anyone at the moment. But I have faith that when the time is right. God will send my children and myself an angel.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/10/23 at 8:48 pm to MudIslandTiger
I am sorry for your loss as well. I have attended grief share. They people there were nice but they were all 20-30 years older than me. My kiddos is what kept me going through the first few months. I would be lost without them.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/9/23 at 9:42 pm to Will Cover
I really do appreciate the kind words. I believe the worst days are behind us as well. I actually drove by our old home the other day. I didn’t cry this time, I just smiled and thought of the memories we shared in our home.
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/9/23 at 9:36 pm to madamsquirrel
Yes, we moved into our new home in January. We actually celebrated Easter at our new home today. It is an awesome feeling having a home again!
re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/9/23 at 9:27 pm to Tantal
I know it’s just words but I am truly sorry. I will keep your wife and yourself in my prayers. There is a video online that I watched it’s called. We don’t “move on” from grief. We move forward with it. We aren’t alone man and you aren’t alone. If you ever want to talk hit me up.
Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 4/9/23 at 7:22 pm
It’s been awhile since I have posted so I apologize if it is a little long. Time really does go by fast. It’s hard to believe that it’s going to be a year soon. So much has happened in the past 10 months. At times it all seems like a blur to be honest. It’s cliche to say but I really just take one day at a time. The storms don’t happen as often and when they do pop up, the storms don’t last as long. I am at the point where I am able to listen to her voicemails and not breakdown. I am now able to think about and remember the good times and that brings a smile to my face. I love my wife and miss her so much. But I also know that life goes on and I must continue to keep living. God wants me continue living and I will. I believe my wife is proud of us and I believe she is watching over us. I have faith that God has amazing things in store for my family and myself. For everyone that has prayed for my family and myself, all I can sincerely say is “Thank You” and I will leave everyone with this……CJ McCollum sucks!!!
re: My sister passed about a week ago
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 2/7/23 at 5:57 pm to ColdTurkey
I just finished reading your post. First I am terribly sorry for your loss. I know that words don’t do any justice. I will most definitely say a prayer for you and your family. I lost my wife in June and have often asked why? I will never know the answer to why. I am not sure if you are religious or not but God has helped me tremendously. My advice is to take it one day at a time. In the beginning I often cried out to God and asking him why? I screamed through my tears “God I don’t understand what is going on but I trust you.” You are in the early stages of grief and everyone grieves differently. I know you might not be ready to hear it but I promise you it does get easier. Next week will make 8 months since she passed and I can assure you it feels like yesterday. I will never forget this saying, “ you don’t move on you just move forward” I also joined a grief share group as well and that has helped. If you ever need to talk or anything. Just know that I am here for you and I am sure others are as well. You aren’t alone in this.
re: Update since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 12/30/22 at 8:51 am to NorthEnd
I am sorry, I know it F-ing sucks. I am almost 7 months out and it does get a little better. I compare it to a storm, when it first happened the storms were often and severe. As time goes on, the storms still come and pop up out of the blue. But they aren’t as severe and they don’t last as long. It’s cliché but take it one day at a time. You aren’t alone and if you ever want to reach out and talk I am here for you. I will pray for you and your family.
Update since my wife passed away.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 12/29/22 at 5:45 pm
I will try to make this a short as possible, I know we all don’t like reading a book on here. As some of y’all may or may not know, my wife passed away earlier this year in June. Her and I have 3 wonder, beautiful kids together. I made the difficult decision to sell our home back in July. I found my wife passed away in our home and it was simply too much pain to continue living there. I was able to sell our home and in August my 3 children and myself, along with my wife’s toy poodle, all moved into a 2 bedroom apartment. It certainly has been an adjustment from living in a 4 bedroom home to an apartment. But, I am happy to say that tomorrow we close on our new home. You see, it’s just not a new home for us but it’s also a new beginning. Tomorrow is the start of a new chapter in our lives and even though my wife may not be here physically, she is indeed here. I am a man of faith and know when God calls me home, I will see her again in Heaven. But I also know life must go on. God wants us to keep living and we as a family will continue to do so. I was told from the beginning, when this happened. That you don’t move on you move forward and that’s what we are doing.I don’t want to get too religious because I know it’s not for everyone but I can assure you God is real and I know 100% we would not have made it this far, if it wasn’t for God. I want to personally thank everyone that prayed for myself and my family. It means more than y’all will ever know. I will NEVER lose hope!Hope isn’t just a feeling hope is a path.I am going to leave with this pray that my good friend sent me this morning. I hope each and everyone of y’all have a Happy New Year.
Dear Heavenly Father, please be with me, I pray, as I move on from the old to the new.The joy, memories, and hardships of the last season of my life are behind me. Help me to leave them there, Lord, and not carry them with me into this new season.Help me to let go of all hurts, anger, and grudges, and see all people as the blessing they are, Your children.
Thank You, Lord, for this opportunity to begin this new adventure with You. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
Dear Heavenly Father, please be with me, I pray, as I move on from the old to the new.The joy, memories, and hardships of the last season of my life are behind me. Help me to leave them there, Lord, and not carry them with me into this new season.Help me to let go of all hurts, anger, and grudges, and see all people as the blessing they are, Your children.
Thank You, Lord, for this opportunity to begin this new adventure with You. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
Update on everything going on.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/28/22 at 7:17 pm
Just wanted to give a little update. It’s been over 2 weeks since we have moved from the house and moved into the apartment. I can’t wait until our new home is finished being built because apartment life isn’t for me. The kids have definitely enjoyed the pool though. Today I went to mass for the first time in over 25 years. It felt amazing to be there it’s hard to put into words how I felt. There were numerous times I had to hold back my emotions. It’s amazing how God works. Literally the first verse in the mornings first reading was Psalm 68:5 “A father of the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in His holy habitation”. After mass was over my friend introduced me to the priest and we talked about what happened. He asked if it was ok for him to pray for my wife and myself. I said of course and I closed my eyes and he put his hand on me and we prayed. The tears starting rolling down my face and I had an amazing sense of peace and I knew at that moment that my wife is in heaven and I know that everything is going to be ok.
This is the hardest thing I have ever been through.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/12/22 at 4:43 pm
I find it comforting to keep everyone posted on what’s going on. Since my wife passed away in June it has been very difficult. Today has been the most emotional I have been since it happened. We are packing up the house and tonight is our last night here. Been going through her things and finding old pictures of us when we first met. We looked like kids, we were so young and full of life. Over 18 years went by in the blink of an eye. I found notes we wrote to each other, her wedding dress. Just so many memories of the kids when they were little. I lost it earlier today while taking down our bed and my son said Dad everything is going to be ok. I am blessed to have many people that care about us in my life but damn this is so hard and I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy. I forgot to add since she passed away the bedroom lamp has been on. I didn’t want her to be in the dark. Tomorrow night the room will be dark…and that hurts a lot.
re: Feels like I am about to close a chapter in my life.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/6/22 at 9:39 am to jambrous
I couldn’t have made it this far without God. When there was nothing left to hold on to. Literally the only thing that I held onto was hope. I continue to hold on to hope for better days ahead. I know God is with me and my family and I know he feels every tear I cry. My plans in life were not his plans and when the timing is right. God will reveal his plans and I know they will be more glorious than I can ever image.
re: Feels like I am about to close a chapter in my life.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/6/22 at 9:33 am to Tiger985
I am praying for you and family as well. I am sure your father is a strong person and I hope God continues to strengthen me for our journey ahead.
re: Feels like I am about to close a chapter in my life.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/5/22 at 7:04 pm to Texas Ram
I have heard you don’t move on. You just move forward.
re: Feels like I am about to close a chapter in my life.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/5/22 at 7:03 pm to Stagliano
Your cousin a very strong individual. I can’t imagine seeing what he seen and making the decision to stay. Everyone is different but for me and my own sanity. I need a fresh start.
re: Feels like I am about to close a chapter in my life.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/5/22 at 6:59 pm to Mid Iowa Tiger
I have talked to people that say divorce is worse than a death. You are not weak to grief man. For me so far the emotions come in waves. I seen an old friend the other day that I haven’t seen in years. I was at work and we ran into each other. He gave me a hug and said I am so sorry to hear about your wife. I broke down in the middle of the store in front on everyone. I will definitely say a pray for you.
Feels like I am about to close a chapter in my life.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 8/5/22 at 6:36 pm
In a way it helps me to post here. As many of you know I lost my wife back in June. August 10th will already make 2 months since I found her in our master bathroom on the floor. It is one week away until we move from the home that my wife and I built. I have mixed emotions about leaving. I know in my heart that it’s the right decision to move out. I haven’t even been able to properly grief over her. Staying here in the house is like pulling a band aid off each and every time I am here. The image of finding her dead is burned into my mind. In a way I feel like I am leaving her behind. Since she passed away I have only been in our bedroom a couple of times. But here lately I have found myself just laying in our bed for the last few times before we leave. Just smelling her before her smell is gone forever. I just lay here and talk to her about everything going on. I ask her to watch over us. It’s about to be a new beginning in my life and this chapter of my life is about to close forever. I somehow found this song on YouTube that has helped me with the moving process that is about to begin. LINK
re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 7/24/22 at 8:45 pm to tigergirl10
I appreciate that and will definitely say a prayer for you as well tonight.
re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 7/24/22 at 8:44 pm to OWLFAN86
I just try to do the best that I can for them. They are the reason I wake up each morning. I will never lose faith and hope because of them.
re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 7/24/22 at 8:21 pm to Barbellthor
Update: It’s been a minute since I have posted here. I made the decision to sell our home. I have a purchase agreement signed on it. Closing date is in August. After talking to my kids, they didn’t want to leave Louisiana. They have been through too much so I didn’t want them to have to move to a completely different state. I also signed a purchase agreement on a new home. Won’t be ready until January. So we will have to lease something for 6 months. It’s another step in moving forward. I heard you don’t move on, you just move forward. Staying at our home was just too much. I feel sad in a way because I feel like I am leaving her behind. This is truly the end of that chapter in my life. I still hope to leave Louisiana one day but right now isn’t the time.
re: When You Feel Like You're Lost In Life
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 7/20/22 at 2:15 pm to TrueLoveofNature
Trust me, I know how you feel. As some may know. I found my wife dead on the floor in our bathroom. Believe me I know and feel the loneliness at times. You have to stay busy. Get into something you are interested in. Keep your mind occupied and I know it’s cliché to say but just focus on one day at a time. Never be afraid to ask God for help. I have not given up on hope. As tough as things are right now and I know the road I am on will get even tougher, I still have hope. As long as we are still breathing we have hope.
re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 7/7/22 at 1:58 am to Cajun75
As I am laying here in my daughters room on her princess bed. I firmly believe in God. I haven’t shared this I don’t believe but she died the day before we were suppose to go on vacation to Tennessee. After speaking with family and friends, my children and I decided to still go, as a way to honor her. It was the best decision I have ever made. Everyday God reviled himself to us. I will take a moment to discuss a few of them. My wife wanted to hike up Laurel Falls, so our first thing to do that Monday was hike up the trail to the falls. In the rush of things and plus our minds not being 100% focused. We accidentally left the water in the car. Now by the time I noticed we forgot the water, it was too late to turn around. So we continue the hike and it’s hot, like miserable. We are about halfway up and the kids are done, they are ready to turn around. I am at the point of saying screw it, I can’t go anymore. When out of the blue, a man comes up to us and says “Brother y’all look like y’all need some water, I got y’all.” If it wasn’t for that man we would’ve never finished getting to the waterfall and the look on my kids faces, I will never forget. I believe in my heart that was an angel of God helping us.
My oldest wants to be a veterinarian when she graduates high school. So she asked if we could go to Ripleys Aquarium. So we go and it’s packed. I go sit outside of a minute to catch some fresh air and I meet an older gentleman and his wife. He tells me he just got remarried. He than proceeds to tell me that he lost his first wife a few years ago. I tell him my story and he says to me “I know the pain you feel, I know the path that you are just starting. I have walked the path you are on and I am proof that you can make it.” That’s God strengthening me for what lies ahead.
Lastly, I get tear up thinking about this one.The kids wanted to see a bear the whole time. Unfortunately, we didn’t see one. We pack the car up and head out. Start driving down the mountain and we get to the absolutely last place before we hit the main road and guess what comes out of the woods right in front of us…a bear. That was Gods way of saying “ Everything is going to be ok.” If that doesn’t prove that God does exist. I don’t know what will.
My oldest wants to be a veterinarian when she graduates high school. So she asked if we could go to Ripleys Aquarium. So we go and it’s packed. I go sit outside of a minute to catch some fresh air and I meet an older gentleman and his wife. He tells me he just got remarried. He than proceeds to tell me that he lost his first wife a few years ago. I tell him my story and he says to me “I know the pain you feel, I know the path that you are just starting. I have walked the path you are on and I am proof that you can make it.” That’s God strengthening me for what lies ahead.
Lastly, I get tear up thinking about this one.The kids wanted to see a bear the whole time. Unfortunately, we didn’t see one. We pack the car up and head out. Start driving down the mountain and we get to the absolutely last place before we hit the main road and guess what comes out of the woods right in front of us…a bear. That was Gods way of saying “ Everything is going to be ok.” If that doesn’t prove that God does exist. I don’t know what will.
re: Prayers needed….any words of encouragement or advice.
Posted by Hoova1202004 on 7/6/22 at 9:18 pm to Crimson1st
Thank you for sharing your story with me. It helps hearing from others. If that makes any sense at all?
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