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DNA testing for my moms siblings
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:28 pm
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:28 pm
Long story short
My mom is 81
Her two siblings are deceased, but she suspects they are her half-siblings.
I do have contact with my first cousins via my moms siblings (daughters).
What’s the most efficient way to sort this out through genetic testing?
My mom is 81
Her two siblings are deceased, but she suspects they are her half-siblings.
I do have contact with my first cousins via my moms siblings (daughters).
What’s the most efficient way to sort this out through genetic testing?
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:31 pm to dexy82
Jeez dude they're dead and she's 81 why go to all that trouble at this point
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:35 pm to dexy82
What in the Alabama is this ?
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:37 pm to dexy82
If she and your cousins take the Ancestry DNA test, there's an option to view possible family members based on what percentage DNA you share.
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:39 pm to dexy82
Trashiness as far as the the eye can see
This post was edited on 2/3/26 at 2:53 am
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:39 pm to dexy82
quote:
I do have contact with my first cousins via my moms siblings (daughters).
Your mom’s sibiling’s daughters? Good lord baw just say her nieces
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:40 pm to dexy82
Any of those heritage DNA services should be able to do it.
We gave my parents the kits a few years back, a couple years after they did it I got a message from a guy in Arizona saying his dad got linked to my dad. Turned out my great grandfather had a sidepiece and atleast 2 kids no one knew about until just recently.
We gave my parents the kits a few years back, a couple years after they did it I got a message from a guy in Arizona saying his dad got linked to my dad. Turned out my great grandfather had a sidepiece and atleast 2 kids no one knew about until just recently.
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:43 pm to dexy82
quote:
I do have contact with my first cousins via my moms siblings (daughters).
They kinda hot and you are hoping there's a chance?
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:44 pm to Pelican fan99
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Jeez dude they're dead and she's 81 why go to all that trouble at this point
She’s 81
She grew up on the westbank of NO.
There are tons of boomers that had different fathers than they realized.
Guys left for the war and the soldiers and women lived in uncertainty.
All that to say, my mom just wants to know
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:50 pm to dexy82
You could always just say “the results came in and your mother was faithful.”
Seems easier and with less potential for drama that could hurt an 81 year old woman
Seems easier and with less potential for drama that could hurt an 81 year old woman
This post was edited on 2/2/26 at 1:50 pm
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:50 pm to Lonnie Utah
I agree for the most part, but I think it’s nagged at her all her life
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:52 pm to dexy82
I guess if it's for closure for her for whatever her reason is, you could try. But careful what you end up with.
I was adopted. Never really questioned my adoption and viewed the parents that raised me as my parents. In later years, my daughter wanted to know my medical history. I started the process with using Ancestry.com. For years, I'd get 3rd/4th cousin type hits. Then one day, I got a hit for a "half sibling". Turned out I had 2 sisters and a brother on the Dad side. One of the half-sisters shared some information and often prefaced that "he was a good man" type stuff. Then, got a hit of a first cousin. On the Mom side. He was a retired engineer and all over this genealogy stuff. He'd found his mother and father, both living, and suspected his father was my mom's brother.
I had to go to court (virtually) to have my reason records opened in the State of Florida and get my original birth certification (the one I had was with my adoptive parents named). The original had a fake name for the mother and no father listed.
Turned out dad got her pregnant while in the Air Force in NY. Her parents shipped her to a friend's house in Central Florida where she later gave birth to me (in Miami of all places?) and lived for 2 years. Guess the "shame of it all".
Long story short, I had a sister and brother on the mom side. Of the 5 half siblings, only the sister on the mom side wanted to get in touch. The State of Florida arraigned a call for me and we talked. Turned out she lived near my daughter in Oregon. We have since gone out to visit as families several times.
The brother on the Dad side follows me on Facebook and eventually we talked about a Zoom call with the other sisters. One of them freaked out basically about doing that and we've never been back in touch since (I guess imagine being in our 60's and hearing all this shite!)
Anyway, I'm more of the analytic type, and from that angle, the "journey" was interesting and I'm glad I know my roots. On the mom side, Grandfather was Syrian. Came over at age 12 and was put in a home. Later at age 14 enlisted in the Army and lost his arm in WWI. (Too bad my parents were both from New York and I wasn't a true Southerner, but I was born in Miami, so that counts, right??). On the Dad side, it was Polish. Not the mix I had envisioned.
I was glad I did it. Know the heritage now. Have at least 1 real sister we now stay in touch with. I also experienced how much of a shock this can be to people at advanced ages. My cousin's parents, both living, don't want to really hear from him. And that's pretty sad to me.
I was adopted. Never really questioned my adoption and viewed the parents that raised me as my parents. In later years, my daughter wanted to know my medical history. I started the process with using Ancestry.com. For years, I'd get 3rd/4th cousin type hits. Then one day, I got a hit for a "half sibling". Turned out I had 2 sisters and a brother on the Dad side. One of the half-sisters shared some information and often prefaced that "he was a good man" type stuff. Then, got a hit of a first cousin. On the Mom side. He was a retired engineer and all over this genealogy stuff. He'd found his mother and father, both living, and suspected his father was my mom's brother.
I had to go to court (virtually) to have my reason records opened in the State of Florida and get my original birth certification (the one I had was with my adoptive parents named). The original had a fake name for the mother and no father listed.
Turned out dad got her pregnant while in the Air Force in NY. Her parents shipped her to a friend's house in Central Florida where she later gave birth to me (in Miami of all places?) and lived for 2 years. Guess the "shame of it all".
Long story short, I had a sister and brother on the mom side. Of the 5 half siblings, only the sister on the mom side wanted to get in touch. The State of Florida arraigned a call for me and we talked. Turned out she lived near my daughter in Oregon. We have since gone out to visit as families several times.
The brother on the Dad side follows me on Facebook and eventually we talked about a Zoom call with the other sisters. One of them freaked out basically about doing that and we've never been back in touch since (I guess imagine being in our 60's and hearing all this shite!)
Anyway, I'm more of the analytic type, and from that angle, the "journey" was interesting and I'm glad I know my roots. On the mom side, Grandfather was Syrian. Came over at age 12 and was put in a home. Later at age 14 enlisted in the Army and lost his arm in WWI. (Too bad my parents were both from New York and I wasn't a true Southerner, but I was born in Miami, so that counts, right??). On the Dad side, it was Polish. Not the mix I had envisioned.
I was glad I did it. Know the heritage now. Have at least 1 real sister we now stay in touch with. I also experienced how much of a shock this can be to people at advanced ages. My cousin's parents, both living, don't want to really hear from him. And that's pretty sad to me.
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:52 pm to SCLSUMuddogs
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You could always just say “the results came in and your mother was faithful.” Seems easier and with less potential for drama that could hurt an 81 year old woman
My mom is not concerned about that.
She’s 81, she is a women, and she loves a bit of drama.
Drama/women…yes?
Posted on 2/2/26 at 1:55 pm to dexy82
Ask her this. What information is she going to gain from the info? Assuming the worst, at this point in time, she won't be able to figure out the dads just if they are the same or different. The only outcome that changes at the end of the path is heartbreak...
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