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re: Anybody else hate the holidays?
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:13 pm to Salmon
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:13 pm to Salmon
I am curious to see how this Christmas plays out with my inlaws.
My MIL gets really weird over the holiday stuff. Ex:She was upset at the thought of her Thanksgiving day being split up by her two married children going to their own inlaws for the holiday...she just cancelled doing anything for Thanksgiving herself.
She is used to me and my husband spending all day with them on Christmas. Her daughter splits the day up with her own inlaws which always upsets my MIL. With my family in AZ now, that changes it. I work Christmas Eve so will take a nap Christmas morning and go to his parents first for 1 pm. Then to my aunt's house to be with my parents at 5. Already told my husband "your mom can get upset but I haven't seen my family on Christmas in 12 years so I'm spending time with them as well. To me...they come first this year."
So we shall see how that plays out. His mom is the queen of passive aggressiveness though so she won't directly show you she is upset. You will just hear about it later on when the next holiday comes along.
My MIL gets really weird over the holiday stuff. Ex:She was upset at the thought of her Thanksgiving day being split up by her two married children going to their own inlaws for the holiday...she just cancelled doing anything for Thanksgiving herself.
She is used to me and my husband spending all day with them on Christmas. Her daughter splits the day up with her own inlaws which always upsets my MIL. With my family in AZ now, that changes it. I work Christmas Eve so will take a nap Christmas morning and go to his parents first for 1 pm. Then to my aunt's house to be with my parents at 5. Already told my husband "your mom can get upset but I haven't seen my family on Christmas in 12 years so I'm spending time with them as well. To me...they come first this year."
So we shall see how that plays out. His mom is the queen of passive aggressiveness though so she won't directly show you she is upset. You will just hear about it later on when the next holiday comes along.
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Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:14 pm to Salmon
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Christmas is the biggest day of the year for my MIL, so its hard for my wife to tell her that we would just do our own thing
Not that there's necessarily something wrong with this, but I will never understand these types of people. Assuming you see/speak to your family regularly, why is it the end of the world if they opt out of a holiday every so often? I've considered a vacation during the holidays, and it would suck if someone was to throw a fit because I decided to use my 10 days off of work to travel.
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we wanted to be home for Christmas morning for our daughter
Neither side of my family does Christmas morning stuff because it is understood that everyone with young children is doing Santa on Christmas morning.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:17 pm to lsunurse
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She was upset at the thought of her Thanksgiving day being split up by her two married children going to their own inlaws for the holiday...she just cancelled doing anything for Thanksgiving herself.
Wow. Kudos to you. My eyes would roll so hard they'd fall out if a MIL (or my own mother) pulled this type of childish pout.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:17 pm to LouisianaLady
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Not that there's necessarily something wrong with this, but I will never understand these types of people. Assuming you see/speak to your family regularly, why is it the end of the world if they opt out of a holiday every so often?
it is generally the only time of the year everyone comes into town
we might see everyone throughout the year, but it is the only time everyone is all there together
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Neither side of my family does Christmas morning stuff because it is understood that everyone with young children is doing Santa on Christmas morning.
yeah my MIL is going to have to accept this now since my SIL just had a baby as well
one thing about my family not doing Christmas is that it does make the holidays easier, in that we spend TG with my family and Christmas with my inlaws
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:18 pm to LouisianaLady
I'm pissed that the gym is closed too often during the holidays. How are you supposed to keep up the routine?
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:21 pm to LouisianaLady
I felt really bad for my husband. We told her we were willing to come over whatever time she wanted. That my parents were willing to work around her schedule or even do one big Thanksgiving together and my mom would gladly help with the cooking, etc.
Nope..she played the martyr and told us to spend the day with my parents. We were supposed to meet up and do family stuff with them the day after thanksgiving. A car show with his dad then back to his parents to hang out. We did the car show then as we are driving all the way to his parents...we get a call saying she isn't "feeling well" and is cancelling the get together. So instead we just drove to his sister's to spend time with our nephew. The whole time I could tell my husband was upset that his mom was acting this way.
Nope..she played the martyr and told us to spend the day with my parents. We were supposed to meet up and do family stuff with them the day after thanksgiving. A car show with his dad then back to his parents to hang out. We did the car show then as we are driving all the way to his parents...we get a call saying she isn't "feeling well" and is cancelling the get together. So instead we just drove to his sister's to spend time with our nephew. The whole time I could tell my husband was upset that his mom was acting this way.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:28 pm to lsunurse
This is why I understand that some people dislike the holidays. It shouldn't be like that. :/
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:32 pm to LouisianaLady
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It shouldn't be like that.
No it shouldn't. She makes me want to take a tropical getaway that week
Thing is...if we chose to go on vacation that week my parents would understand and tell us to have a great time. And plan for us to do Christmas before or after we got back. His mom....would never let us live it down. We would be led to believe we ruined Christmas for her.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:40 pm to lsunurse
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That my parents were willing to work around her schedule or even do one big Thanksgiving together and my mom would gladly help with the cooking, etc.
If it were me I would have just invited your parents from the beginning if I were hosting. Especially knowing everything they had been through.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:46 pm to lsunurse
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Nope..she played the martyr and told us to spend the day with my parents. We were supposed to meet up and do family stuff with them the day after thanksgiving. A car show with his dad then back to his parents to hang out. We did the car show then as we are driving all the way to his parents...we get a call saying she isn't "feeling well" and is cancelling the get together. So instead we just drove to his sister's to spend time with our nephew. The whole time I could tell my husband was upset that his mom was acting this way.
sounds like she is a narcissist or has a related personality disorder.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 2:47 pm to HoustonChick86
I don't really like the holidays. I don't have any bad family history or reason like that behind it. But whenever Christmas commercials and 24-hour Christmas songs on the radio start playing incessantly in late October, by the time it actually gets to Christmas I'm just over it.
Spending the holidays in NYC with my family this year though, so that could be fun.
Spending the holidays in NYC with my family this year though, so that could be fun.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 3:15 pm to Salmon
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quick question since I am new to this whole Christmas thing...
how do you all open presents? because we go to my inlaws and it takes 5 fricking hours to open presents because everyone had to go 1 by 1 and show each gift and do the fake smile and dance
I do hate that part of Christmas very much...
you have kids right?
do you do their christmas at the in laws too?
Posted on 12/16/16 at 3:15 pm to jvilletiger25
i dont have a big family like some posters here
Posted on 12/16/16 at 3:19 pm to Boo Krewe
family:the best...and the worse part of the holidays
Posted on 12/16/16 at 3:22 pm to jvilletiger25
Sometimes yes. Sometimes no.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 3:37 pm to jvilletiger25
Change your username to loser.
Posted on 12/16/16 at 3:42 pm to jvilletiger25
You obviously have no clue what Christmas is really about. Try not to ruin the joy for your kids.
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