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re: Is a secksless marriage reason enough for divorce?
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:12 am to Turnblad85
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:12 am to Turnblad85
Depends. If a young couple ain't having sex regularly and there isn't a health related issue there is a problem...young healthy folks be fricking....if they ain't fricking their spouse there's a good chance they are fricking somebody else. That flame dies for ALL couples...otherwise we would be worn out and would look like the rooster in a hen house...skinny, featherless and beat up...but grinning from ear to ear. Even in most people's 30s and 40s and even 50s if a married couple isn't attracted to one another enough to be having sex a couple of times a week something may be askew. Sometime around 50 most women go through menopause and their interest in sex drops significantly....fortunately for the institution of marriage most men experience a similar decline in libido....many will pretend otherwise but for most men it happens....it just isn't the driving force at 55 that it is at 25 for most men. Despite this intimacy is an integral part of a happy marriage for men and women....so the quantity most likely drops off but making the effort to be intimate usually means the quality is far better. It takes 2 to tango....if a marriage is sexless it is probably both partners to blame....barring a physical issue of course. If you are having a dry spell and your wife is showing no interest....put in the effort - wine, dine and do things that let her know she is your would. If it don't work you will know you tried....and chances are pretty good it will work if your relationship is strong. If it ain't and the lack of sex is an issue for you and there aren't any kids dependent on you any longer divorce may well be the healthy course of action.
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Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:12 am to Turnblad85
There is no 100% correct way. Believe me I tried. To those that say you made a promise to honor your spouse in sickness & health I can tell you that was the whole reason I stuck it out as long as I did. But what are you supposed to do when your wife no longer wants you? Stay married just to avoid sin? I’m talking about a spouse who refuses to put forth any effort. How long do you give it? Because at some point you have to be honest with yourself. You have to admit you didn’t sign up to be celibate.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:15 am to cbree88
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Women don’t frick men.
Men frick women.
Bless your heart. I thought this was the case until I was 16 or so....now that I am 60 I know full well women frick men every bit as much as men frick women....there is NOTHING sexier than a sexually confident woman who is an equal in the sack....
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:23 am to Lou Loomis
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Wait until you see the naked body of a woman in her 50’s, after having kids. You’ll understand. It will all make sense to you.
My wife has delivered 2 kids and is 59. We have been bumping uglies since she was 20 and I was 22. She was as sexy if not more so this morning when I left her warm body and kissed her goodbye as she was when she was 20 and her tits pointed skyward and you could bounce pennies off her belly. She is my wife, best friend, mother of my kids and has my back no matter what. We have laughed and cried together, we have cussed one another for anything other than a child of god, we have been broke, we have had money....she knows me better than I know myself and I am the same person for her....that is sexier than ANY physical characteristic of female sexuality. If you aren't as physically attracted to your wife after 38 years as you were the day you first saw her I feel badly for both of you....
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:32 am to TDsngumbo
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Does this really happen to some men? Seriously can not imagine what that would be like. I’d imagine that would be enough to make even the most faithful man have an affair.
I suspect it is rare. It would certainly be a driving force behind an affair. My wife and have sex about 1-2 times a week....we both know this intellectually. Sometimes it might be 2 weeks between sex but then it might be 5 times over a week. If you ask her off the cuff how often we have sex she would probably say 4-5 times a week....if I was asked off the cuff I might say about once a month. Same couple. Different perspective, neither which is entirely accurate. If either of us thought about it for a second the answer would be 1-2 times a week. We have been married for 32 years and exclusive, as far as I know or care, for 38.....like most young people if you would have asked us this question at 25 the answer would be daily and in reality the truth might be 2-3 or more times daily depending on the day. I think the longest we have ever been without sex of some sort would be about a month or so when one of us was out of town or recovering from surgery...but even then something sexual would have occurred between us. It is, at least in our marriage, and always has been highly important to both of us. I don't think she'd stand for not having sex, even at 59 and post menopausal, for a year. I like to think I would if it was due to a physical condition on her part but I am not sure I would...and I don't think we are freaks...I think we are pretty normal adults. A year is a LONG damn time....
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:37 am to Turnblad85
Self love is better than no love
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:37 am to alajones
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Yes.
Assuming that other factors have been ruled out like
Resentment, physical attraction, high stress, depression, etc. often lead to women not being attracted to their spouses.
Why women stop having sex
Men are largely to blame, in my experience. When we are "courting" our spouse we stay in shape, dress nicely, hell bathe and use cologne. When this starts to wane and the woman is no longer as attracted to the man because that is all he had to offer the relationship is in serious danger....and then men will do the same thing for ANOTHER woman. The initial excitement over getting some strange is a basic DNA fact but sex with a trusted and long time partner is, for me and hopefully my wife of 30+ years, far more satisfying because its more than physical.....its deeply emotional and far more satisfying.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:46 am to Turnblad85
Yeah
What’s the point of being married if you never have sex?
What’s the point of being married if you never have sex?
Posted on 2/10/26 at 6:48 am to Dawgfanman
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Women who are fricked properly like sec as much as men. Don’t feel sorry for men who don’t know how to frick or treat their wives.
Seriously, sometimes a woman just needs to be fricked. I hear men talk about their wives being crazy and I have said it more times than I can recount but I learned early on that a good fricking can work miracles for my wife. I am no cocksman but I can do the work required from time to time and many times when I started noticing my wife was in an ill mood and there was no real reason for it a good fricking would set things right again. It ain't magic, not insinuating it is, but if you haven't been in a foul mood yourself that suddenly seemed trivial after getting laid you are either very lucky or unlucky....
For years and years I have quelled many a moment of bitchiness by grabbing my wife and simply kissing her passionately....I mean a serious kiss.....and it has, many times, lead to fantastic sex for both of us. Men tend to think of women as outlets for their own satisfaction and most often that is sufficient....any man who claims his partner is fully and deeply satisfied every time is probably lying or completely ignorant....but women are human, every so often they just need to have sex....its is part and parcel of being a healthy human being regardless of plumbing....
Posted on 2/10/26 at 7:31 am to Chad504boy
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Is secksfull marriage reason enough to stay married?
I can put up with a lot of BS if I'm getting it regularly
Posted on 2/10/26 at 7:44 am to AwgustaDawg
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Bless your heart. I thought this was the case until I was 16 or so....now that I am 60 I know full well women frick men every bit as much as men frick women....there is NOTHING sexier than a sexually confident woman who is an equal in the sack..
None of you are understanding what I meant. I went over your heads, unsurprisingly.
I said that men frick women because we’re the ones with the penis, and we’re the ones pushing it into the woman’s body during intercourse. She’s receiving it.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 7:47 am to AwgustaDawg
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Men tend to think of women as outlets for their own satisfaction and most often that is sufficient...
What you’re describing in this post makes it sound like they are. Lol
Basically, if you’re wife is in a bad mood or acting up in any way then just get on her and frick here and she will be made right.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 7:55 am to Turnblad85
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I know its suppose to be till death and whatnot but I can't help but feel sorry for some baws who say they get it once a year or some shite like that.
Yes. It's usually a sign that something else is wrong in the relationship. I think the longest my wife and I have gone since we have been married is a week (assuming I'm not on a hunting trip or something) and that was after I called her sister a lazy count to her face at thanksgiving.
Also, I wouldn't want to be with a woman who made it purely transactional or used it like a weapon all the time. I have buddies who are constantly trying to "get points" by folding towels and sh*t until they've done enough to get some tail.
This post was edited on 2/10/26 at 8:21 am
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:17 am to Loup
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I called her sister a lazy count to her face at thanksgiving.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:23 am to Turnblad85
Just suck it up and go to those Asian massage parlors. That’s what my married bud does. I got married and divorced once. Learned my lesson. Now I just stay single and catch and release every 3-6 months are so.
This post was edited on 2/10/26 at 8:24 am
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:25 am to AwgustaDawg
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there is NOTHING sexier than a sexually confident woman who is an equal in the sack...
Big ole nasty titties.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:25 am to Loup
"Also, I wouldn't want to be with a woman who made it purely transactional or used it like a weapon all the time. I have buddies who are constantly trying to "get points" by folding towels and sh*t until they've done enough to get some tail."
I've actually had to do that to my ex- husband. My questions is, how lazy do you have to be, that your wife is holding out sex, just to get some help around the house? shite was hard with three kids and a husband that wants to be taken care of like one too. Lol
I've actually had to do that to my ex- husband. My questions is, how lazy do you have to be, that your wife is holding out sex, just to get some help around the house? shite was hard with three kids and a husband that wants to be taken care of like one too. Lol
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:28 am to Tigers2287
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shite was hard with three kids and a husband that wants to be taken care of like one too. Lol
This is just as wrong as the subject of the thread. But I’m not sure that’s what he’s talking about (though it could be, of course).
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:31 am to Tigers2287
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"Also, I wouldn't want to be with a woman who made it purely transactional or used it like a weapon all the time. I have buddies who are constantly trying to "get points" by folding towels and sh*t until they've done enough to get some tail."
My last relationship was like this. Dude would straight up say “well what are you going to do to earn it?”
I’d rather next have sex again than go thru that.
Posted on 2/10/26 at 8:41 am to dyslexiateechur
quote:Earn what? Did this dude have a cooter?
Dude would straight up say “well what are you going to do to earn it?”
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