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Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:20 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
I will pray for you. I was served just a bit shy of my 21st anniversary. We were separated, but I thought we were working through things. In fact, just the week before I was served, we agreed that it was time for me to move back home.
I was also told that she was intimidated by me, even though I never even came close to raising my hand to her. In fact, she had a police officer serve me papers "in case I got violent". I actually know that officer now, and we laugh at the absurdity.
My kids were, 19, 16,and 11 at the time. They were all surprised and angry at there mom for divorcing me "when I hadn't really done anything wrong".
Five years later, my relationship with my kids is better than ever - and it was already good. They saw me fight for our family. They saw me be a solid source of support for them. And - they see me treat their mom with respect even now.
My prayer will be that your marriage is healed, but please now that if it is not, you will be o.k.
As a final aside, having a girlfriend 11 years younger than me makes the transition a bit easier too.
I was also told that she was intimidated by me, even though I never even came close to raising my hand to her. In fact, she had a police officer serve me papers "in case I got violent". I actually know that officer now, and we laugh at the absurdity.
My kids were, 19, 16,and 11 at the time. They were all surprised and angry at there mom for divorcing me "when I hadn't really done anything wrong".
Five years later, my relationship with my kids is better than ever - and it was already good. They saw me fight for our family. They saw me be a solid source of support for them. And - they see me treat their mom with respect even now.
My prayer will be that your marriage is healed, but please now that if it is not, you will be o.k.
As a final aside, having a girlfriend 11 years younger than me makes the transition a bit easier too.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:20 am to BugaPainTrain7
quote:
would never hit a girl but if I got one clean shot on that count I'd break her fricking jaw
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 10:22 am
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:20 am to arcalades
quote:
The word I used was quitter. Maybe you have the short term memory of a table.
my apologies
ATL is a quitter, not a pussy
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:21 am to More beer please
quote:Where are these articles? And were they written by God? Otherwise, they are subject to imperfection.
Ignore the articles I provided which disagree with your baseless facts about life.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:21 am to arcalades
quote:
No. One person can absolutely wreck a marriage. One person can absolutely save one.
It doesn't take two. Two can wreck a marriage, but just one can wreck a marriage.
Two can save a marriage, but one can save a marriage, also.
They're not getting this because they are not thinking of a marriage as a living thing.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:21 am to arcalades
quote:
Where are these articles? And were they written by God? Otherwise, they are subject to imperfection.
oh man you're fun
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:21 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Why you so many kids?
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:22 am to Salmon
quote:I'm sure Atl won't lose any sleep now that he know you think he is a quitter.
ATL is a quitter, not a pussy
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:22 am to BugaPainTrain7
quote:Sounds like you'd hit a girl.
I would never hit a girl but if I got one clean shot on that count I'd break her fricking jaw
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:23 am to Salmon
He trollin'
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:23 am to HuRRiCaNe MiLeS
quote:
by HuRRiCaNe MiLeS
Why you so many kids?
You should ask him which one he would throw away since obviously it was the wrong decision to have so many now that things are hard.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:24 am to Fermat
quote:
As a final aside, having a girlfriend 11 years younger than me makes the transition a bit easier too.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:24 am to arcalades
And for my first post on the OT.....
I have not read through the pages before this post.
I do this every day by profession.
The best advice I can give you is that you need to do your best to get through the emotional issues because this is likely the single largest business transaction in your life.
You will still be the father of the children and you must protect them from any problems in this process. Your children will be around for your entire lifetime, treat them like it.
You cannot let emotions drive decisions.
This is likely the single largest business transaction in your life.
Best of luck to you during this most difficult time.
You cannot control what your wife does or says, but you should always hold your head up high and do the right thing.
I have not read through the pages before this post.
I do this every day by profession.
The best advice I can give you is that you need to do your best to get through the emotional issues because this is likely the single largest business transaction in your life.
You will still be the father of the children and you must protect them from any problems in this process. Your children will be around for your entire lifetime, treat them like it.
You cannot let emotions drive decisions.
This is likely the single largest business transaction in your life.
Best of luck to you during this most difficult time.
You cannot control what your wife does or says, but you should always hold your head up high and do the right thing.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:27 am to Genius_Mofo
quote:
A lot of holes in the desert, and a lot of problems are buried in those holes.
But you gotta do it right. I mean, you gotta have the hole already dug before you show up with a package in the trunk. Otherwise, you're talking about a half-hour to forty-five minutes worth of digging.
And who knows who's gonna come along in that time? Pretty soon, you gotta dig a few more holes. You could be there all frickin' night.
I read this in Jeff Bridges voice from the Big Lebowski.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:27 am to uway
quote:Unfortunately, I didn't articulate things as well as you have. I'm simply trying to get the guy to keep working. He obviously wants to/is going to. Otherwise he wouldn't have come here. I also think his wife wants to work things out
They're not getting this because they are not thinking of a marriage as a living thing.
They are prisoners to the thought that if she filed for divorce, she must be 100% done. These are probably the same kind of people that would say "think outside the box," yet they don't do it when challenged. They have let a mountain scare them.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:27 am to JDCPA76
quote:I'm going through an at fault divorce as we speak. I've had my head held high the entire time and my 2 kids respect me for it. And as i said earlier about her making a play for custody and domiciliary parent by having him arrested for domestic abuse,it's a real thing. I know first hand.
And for my first post on the OT.....
I have not read through the pages before this post.
I do this every day by profession.
The best advice I can give you is that you need to do your best to get through the emotional issues because this is likely the single largest business transaction in your life.
You will still be the father of the children and you must protect them from any problems in this process. Your children will be around for your entire lifetime, treat them like it.
You cannot let emotions drive decisions.
This is likely the single largest business transaction in your life.
Best of luck to you during this most difficult time.
You cannot control what your wife does or says, but you should always hold your head up high and do the right thing.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:28 am to TheOcean
quote:No, I'm not trollin and am ashamed to even use the word trollin.
He trollin'
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:36 am to Hangit
quote:
Do you think that is worse than people who live off of what other people earn? Those who want to get paid but refuse to work are absolutely killing us.
You gotta spread the wealth around. Income inequality and opportunity inequality are the worst problems facing this country socially right now. They are at the root of most of our problems.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 10:37 am to genuineLSUtiger
You and your wife still married? Not trying to troll. Honest question
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