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Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:45 pm to Golfer
quote:
it's not like they don't allow 21 year old Freshmen
Want to do your step son a service? Send him to college as a 21 year old freshman... girls wont care if he made the high school team on not
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:45 pm to PCRammer
quote:The best way for him to learn is to experience either success or failure. It's going to happen, either way. Your job is to support him and help him be the best he can be, period.
Nah, I don't have any of my own, so seeing him happy is the best. I also feel like I'm not doing my job if no one is preparing him for life after. But I'm staying out of it.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:46 pm to PCRammer
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Stay out of it
BTW whats wrong with letting the kid give it his best shot at something he loves?
If he fails then he will go through life knowing he did the best he could. AND didn't quit.
Man you helicopter parents ( excluding you BHP, if you have kids) that have to always be trying to make a soft landing for your kids are not dong them any favors. Let your kids experience the pains of growing up. t's the only way to raise healthy productive adults.
This post was edited on 10/22/18 at 3:47 pm
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:46 pm to PCRammer
quote:I didn't make the freshmen team in basketball and probably only made JV because we moved and I went to a small private school. I was always a good player, but skinny as a rail and moved around so coaches didn't know me. Hit a growth spurt as a junior and play d2 ball on a full ride.
D2 and D3 guys still were able to make JV.
Chances are your step son won't make it even onto the HS team. He can learn some valuable lesson and enjoy playing the sport he loves along the way. He doesn't need your negativity, just your support.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:47 pm to Thias2685
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start hitting the weights.
He likes to hit the gym with me on Saturday mornings. We have a good time.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:48 pm to PCRammer
quote:Probably wouldn't hurt to go more than just on Saturday's.
He likes to hit the gym with me on Saturday mornings. We have a good time.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:51 pm to DemonKA3268
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Probably wouldn't hurt to go more than just on Saturday's.
Yeah...but he's signed up for batting 3 times a week and then also a team practice all after school. So that leaves him and I Sat morning. He's able to sneak over to the high school with a buddy of his on some days and use their weights too. Its helping.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:53 pm to PCRammer
quote:Good deal, I hope everything works out for him. The main thing is having fun and getting better at it.
Yeah...but he's signed up for batting 3 times a week and then also a team practice all after school. So that leaves him and I Sat morning. He's able to sneak over to the high school with a buddy of his on some days and use their weights too. Its helping.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:54 pm to PCRammer
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Nah, I don't have any of my own, so seeing him happy is the best. I also feel like I'm not doing my job if no one is preparing him for life after.
I get this. I don’t have kids, but have a 10 y/o (soon to be) step daughter. I agree with the others: be happy he’s putting in the effort with something he loves, even if he isn’t great. He’s learning valuable lessons about commitment, teamwork, and discipline. Those are invaluable skills.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 3:58 pm to PearlJam
Just to be clear...I'm not negative at all toward his hopes. I'm honest with him, something he doesn't always get from his mom or dad, but I'm still selective in what I tell him. I don't say hey, your too small, thus you'll never make the team. I'm more like, hey man, let's hit this tire 200 times to build those forearms instead of playing video games for the 354539 day in a row. Or let's go mountain biking, surfing, fishing something else that might engage his interest that he doesn't realise yet.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 4:01 pm to PCRammer
You’re doing the right thing, but don’t confront him on the baseball. Just be there for him when he fails.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 4:03 pm to PCRammer
quote:I think that's fair. Figure out what his goals are. Let him know some of the challenges you think he might face reaching them and then help him develop a plan to try to overcome those challenges. If he fails, see if he has the guts to sit down with the coach and ask for some guidance on things to improve his chances to make the team the next season. Maybe ask if there is a role he can play on the team (keeping stats, helping with field prep, etc) as he works toward making it next season.
I'm not negative at all toward his hopes. I'm honest with him, something he doesn't always get from his mom or dad, but I'm still selective in what I tell him. I don't say hey, your too small, thus you'll never make the team. I'm more like, hey man, let's hit this tire 200 times to build those forearms instead of playing video games for the 354539 day in a row.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 4:40 pm to PCRammer
Quit being this guy
Posted on 10/22/18 at 4:49 pm to PCRammer
My dad coached high school baseball. He had hung it up by the time I played, but the coaches all knew him. I maybe dont make the team my freshman year if they dont know him. I could hold my own, but was chubby, slow, nothing that stood out. Easily could have been cut, but they probably gave me more of a chance due to my dad. I was 14 at that time. Not making that team might have been the end of baseball for me.
Sophomore year I shot up and got thin. Started a few varsity games. By senior year I was 1st team all region. Screw any parent who destroys what a kid likes because they dont look like a pro prospect at 14.
Had a cousin saying the same thing about his son when he played travel ball in middle school. His son is now like 6'3" and getting looks from d1 schools as a pitcher last I heard. All his dad could talk about was how his son wasnt as good as a few teammates 4 years ago. Things change quickly at that age. May not...but no reason to snuff it out on an assumption.
Sophomore year I shot up and got thin. Started a few varsity games. By senior year I was 1st team all region. Screw any parent who destroys what a kid likes because they dont look like a pro prospect at 14.
Had a cousin saying the same thing about his son when he played travel ball in middle school. His son is now like 6'3" and getting looks from d1 schools as a pitcher last I heard. All his dad could talk about was how his son wasnt as good as a few teammates 4 years ago. Things change quickly at that age. May not...but no reason to snuff it out on an assumption.
This post was edited on 10/22/18 at 4:55 pm
Posted on 10/22/18 at 4:49 pm to JPLIII
I would think everyone would be happy that he is not sitting on his butt playing video games all day!!!
Posted on 10/22/18 at 5:39 pm to PCRammer
1) I’m glad the OP is not my dad.
2) Let the kid do what he wants. If he loves it enough, maybe he will find a way to make it. Maybe he hits a growth spurt at some point.
3) If he doesn’t, he learns a valuable lesson. Learning how to lose and not get what you want is an important lesson in life. If he regrets it, he can consider those thing later in life when he’s great at math but doesn’t want to be an accountant and wants to be a mucisian.
2) Let the kid do what he wants. If he loves it enough, maybe he will find a way to make it. Maybe he hits a growth spurt at some point.
3) If he doesn’t, he learns a valuable lesson. Learning how to lose and not get what you want is an important lesson in life. If he regrets it, he can consider those thing later in life when he’s great at math but doesn’t want to be an accountant and wants to be a mucisian.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 5:46 pm to PCRammer
Sounds like the problem will take care of itself when he doesn't make the team? Just be there for the kid when he gets cut ...
Posted on 10/22/18 at 6:32 pm to PCRammer
You aren't his dad. This isn't your job.
Just like my GFs kid. I don't make decisions even if he lives under my roof. Unless asked. His dad is a douche but loves his kid, so I am simply there to do what I can to help the kid when needed.
Just like my GFs kid. I don't make decisions even if he lives under my roof. Unless asked. His dad is a douche but loves his kid, so I am simply there to do what I can to help the kid when needed.
Posted on 10/22/18 at 6:38 pm to PCRammer
If he enjoys it and never plays past high school, then maybe he'll enjoy playing rec league fast pitch after work one day instead of drinking alone at home like half the OT.
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