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re: Parents, any of your kids have severe anxiety?
Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:51 am to tigerfoot
Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:51 am to tigerfoot
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you coulda tied me to a post like an African slave and beat me and I wasn’t sitting in school. My parents prob had overuse injuries prior to realizing it had no benefit. Science did actually work.
Sadly, a lot of people wear trauma like some kind of badge of honor. There's a lot of adults that are permanently fricked up because they were beat as kids. There's so many people that can't make eye contact or talk to strangers because they were abused physically, emotionally, or both.
Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't discipline your kids. I am 100% on board with boundaries and lessons about respect, kindness, sharing, fairness, work ethic, etc. It's important for kids to be kept in line. That said, way too many people go straight to screaming and hitting their kids. (Probably because that's how they were treated.)
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Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:53 am to lsuCJ5
quote:Man up and stop pumping pills in to your child. Tell you girl that she has to learn to deal with these emotions and that life is not always comfortable
Looking for any advice guys.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:54 am to TigerTatorTots
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Step 1,, get her off of this shite. Control/cure her ADHD through diet.
I'd be willing to bet the anxiety lessens or corrects itself from there. ADHD medicine is the "easy route" but it is one of the single worst things you can give a kid.
I agree. While drugs help a kid focus, it also dulls their intelligence.
The Nazis did extensive studies on stimulants, sleep deprivation, acuity, etc. The overall was that it was great for making better soldiers, but terrible for making better academics. (Drugs like amphetamines, nicotine, caffeine, etc.)
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Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:55 am to Ricardo
quote:never felt that way. My parents were more loving and nurturing than any I know. It had to be incredibly frustrating. This was in the mid 70s and on The fact that they found me the help I needed is a testament to their love. No internet back then to research. As a parent myself I can’t imagine how they managed it as well as they did.
a lot of people wear trauma like some kind of badge of honor. There's a lot of adults that are permanently fricked up because they were beat as kids
Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:58 am to tigerfoot
I think it's great that you maintained your perspective and were able to break that cycle. However, there are a lot of people that don't. Even if they don't mean it, they end up using negative reinforcement because it's all they understand.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 9:59 am to Ricardo
quote:the adults that are fricked up because they WERE NOT beat are worse
There's a lot of adults that are permanently fricked up because they were beat as kids
Posted on 8/28/24 at 10:08 am to GreenRockTiger
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There's a lot of adults that are permanently fricked up because they were beat as kids
the adults that are fricked up because they WERE NOT beat are worse
You two are both saying beat, but are describing two different things.
Beating a kid is never ok. Controlled discipline using spanking as one of many tools, IMO, is ok.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 10:16 am to SaintEB
Yeah - I made my comment in jest
I’ve heard people say they are traumatized from being spanked as a kid and won’t spank their kids. Their kids are sometimes little shits, and need to be spanked - just like their parents needed it.
Adults who were not spanked are the worst people to work with because they have no idea about consequences.
Beating a child is not ok, and maybe I should’ve clarified or used the sarcasm font.
I’ve heard people say they are traumatized from being spanked as a kid and won’t spank their kids. Their kids are sometimes little shits, and need to be spanked - just like their parents needed it.
Adults who were not spanked are the worst people to work with because they have no idea about consequences.
Beating a child is not ok, and maybe I should’ve clarified or used the sarcasm font.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 10:16 am to sidewalkside
For my family it is. It provides answers and reassurances. It provides strength. World is crazy - either drugs, alcohol, sex, or spiritual to cope - your choice. What do you suggest?
Posted on 8/28/24 at 10:18 am to GreenRockTiger
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GreenRockTiger
Posted on 8/28/24 at 10:22 am to SaintEB
Posted on 8/28/24 at 10:42 am to Potchafa
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Anxiety my arse. Kids these days are soft and need tough love! So glad my kids are grown. I hate the word anxiety. Hey, I have an idea. Go get a prescription for your kids anxiety. Everyone's doing it! Nevermind......you already have her on legal meth. Which I would think is the worse for treating so called....anxiety.
I feel the same way about high blood pressure. Just calm down, amirite?
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:00 am to lsuCJ5
Not all kids are made for school. Small private schools or home school co ops.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:09 am to Uncle Diddles
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That's why it is important to get kids in sports and programs that builds friends, confidence, etc. Just give her, her iPad like you probably did when she was a toddler. That should calm her down. She could also become a furry Jk, Godspeed. Get counseling for her.
That.
And kids learn what they have to say or do to get their way. They’re manipulative little shits sometimes. That and be careful with that meth. I hear it smells great but has some nasty side effects.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:17 am to AZBadgerFan
AZBadger: Your friends have crippled their daughter as much as if they cut off her legs. Sounds they have hamstrung themselves, too, in the process.
When you slay all your kids dragons, they never learn to slay their own. When my husband taught at LSU I was amazed at parents calling him on behalf of their kids.
When you slay all your kids dragons, they never learn to slay their own. When my husband taught at LSU I was amazed at parents calling him on behalf of their kids.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:17 am to DarlingClementine
Exactly
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:27 am to Potchafa
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Potchafa
Nice melt.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:30 am to lsuCJ5
I'd try to get her to a therapist if at all possible. And one that won't prescribe meds at the drop of a hat, but only as a last resort. Let her work through her anxiety with the help of her therapist and find out what triggers it. That's also a big deal in helping to curb anxiety.
Best of luck to you and your daughter.
Best of luck to you and your daughter.
Posted on 8/28/24 at 11:50 am to el Gaucho
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Posted on 8/28/24 at 12:01 pm to lsuCJ5
My oldest son was very shy and anxious around people when he was really young. We put him in wrestling when he was 5 and it was the best thing we ever did for him. He's 10 now and has no issues with confidence.
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