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Posted on 7/3/16 at 10:44 am to LanierSpots
At 32, I think of divorced girls as damaged goods. Would not date one
Posted on 7/3/16 at 10:51 am to ThatMakesSense
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It still counts.
Statistically? Sure.
But if you have 12 men, and 6 get divorced while 6 don't, it tells you there are a lot of pitfalls with marriage.
If you have 7 men, and 6 stay married while 1 gets divorced 6 times, you have the same 50% divorce rate. But the lesson to take from that scenario is that marriage is a bad idea for the one guy who got divorced 6 times and a good idea for everyone else.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 10:58 am to Hammertime
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At 32, I think of divorced girls as damaged goods. Would not date one
That does not leave you with a big pool of people to choose from at that age. They are either divorced, which you dont want, or they probably have never been married for a reason. Which is probably not good
I have a business where I usually have two people on my boat every day for 8 hours. Been doing that for almost 20 years. The fricking stories people tell me scare the shite out of me. Glad I got married very young and have stayed that way. If I was ever single again, I dont think I could ever find a woman
Posted on 7/3/16 at 11:00 am to CommoDawg
I don't care if people get married or not but many do it for the wrong reasons. I know quite a few men who get married, divorced and re-married again shortly after because they feel like they HAVE to be married. You don't have to have the picture book family to be happy or content -- it's not for everyone.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 11:06 am to LanierSpots
I'm not trying to date older women. My cutoff is 32. Most of the 32 year old women did post-grad, then either traveled for a while or moved to another country for a while, and are just getting established. 24-32 is my age range
Posted on 7/3/16 at 11:31 am to CommoDawg
I think if you get married for any other reasons other than a mutual love and respect for each other then chances are you are not going to have a 'happy' marriage. I have never been married but I used to think it was the most important thing in life. However, I see soo many loveless marriages where they despise each other,no sex,no affection and yet they justify being miserable 'because of the kids'. As if kids sign up for terrible examples of what marriage is suppose to be. I don't think it really matters how long someone knows each other. If you don't have the commitment, the integrity, and the willpower to stick it out then it's never going to work.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 11:33 am to Carlos Hathcock
I tend to agree with that. Or at least when they graduate college and have a sustainable income. I'm 27, better hurry up! ;)
Posted on 7/3/16 at 11:37 am to JombieZombie
So do you ever feel like you HAVE to be married? If you are, are you always happy?
Posted on 7/3/16 at 11:38 am to TbirdSpur2010
I agree. But it's much different now. Soo many chances to be unfaithful with the rise of technology and all. It's hard to trust anyone anymore.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 1:24 pm to Hammertime
If you date anything older than 32 you potentially run into Mom mode chicks that are completely crazy. I've had experience with this and talk about wanting to get married too quickly
Got out with the quickness.
Got out with the quickness.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 1:31 pm to Breauxsif
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If you date anything older than 32 you potentially run into Mom mode chicks that are completely crazy. I've had experience with this and talk about wanting to get married too quickly
Any profile can have potential shortcomings. Someone that age might be looking for a sperm donor. A single mom might be looking for a stepfather or an ATM. Someone available at that age might be available for a reason. You just have to get to know the person and make sure those problems aren't there.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 1:52 pm to CommoDawg
Teaching social mores on the Internet is trashy.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 2:19 pm to catinthedark
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So do you ever feel like you HAVE to be married? If you are, are you always happy?
No, not at all. We have a child together, but we would never stay together just because of that, nor would we torture ourselves with a completely empty marriage.
I'm seldom "happy" about anything and that has much to do with me, but whoever says they're always happy in a relationship are simply lying or delusional.
This post was edited on 7/3/16 at 2:51 pm
Posted on 7/3/16 at 2:21 pm to CommoDawg
You sound jealous. Let your stupid friend live his life.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 2:30 pm to JombieZombie
So what motivates you to want to stay married? I'm not trying to be nosey, but I would like to be married one day and it seems like even a lot of the people I know who have gotten married, are already headed to a lawyer.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 2:32 pm to CommoDawg
Well i went the untraditional route. Met someone online overseas on dating site. It is like this. If you put in quality time talking and getting to know someone, you dont need 2 years. Getting to know who she is, how she was raised, learning about her childhood, her mother's childhood, the dad, the grandma as well as getting to know her to see if you all are a lot alike can determine early on whether or not they are right for you. Being up front with each other about everything, no secrets, as well as both showing your bad side also is important. Want to know ahead of time whether or not the bad side does not outweigh being with someone. After all, you dont love just the good stuff, you have to love and want to be with the bad side as well.
Wife and i would chat and video 3-6 hrs a day for 10 months before i went to see her. 6 months i knew she was the one. Then went back 6 months later. then 15 months later, she immigrated to the US. during that whole time, we spoke 99% of the time everyday, 2-6 hrs a day. You talk that much to someone, you get to know the real person and see who they really are. You ask the right questions and keep eyes open for red flags.
Naturally, my case is my own unique experience but i can tell you, 6.5 years together, 4.5 years of marriage, newborn and never have we ever yelled at each other, cursed at each other, or have done anything vindictive to each other. We have had disagreements but never arguing. EVER.
1. Communication
2. Meaningful conversation asking about everything in their life.
3. No secrets
4. Both establish ground rules as to what is expected of each other
5. NO secrets, even if its bad
6. Someone that has is like you. Ex: Homebody, conservative/liberal, same views on marriage, abortion(prolife/prochoice), views on parenting, similar hobbies, etc.
Those are the things my wife and i have done with our relationship and we share same ideology on many things. If you dont know either way if they are the one after 6 months or so, then you aint asking the right questions or paying attention.
Just my two cents.
Wife and i would chat and video 3-6 hrs a day for 10 months before i went to see her. 6 months i knew she was the one. Then went back 6 months later. then 15 months later, she immigrated to the US. during that whole time, we spoke 99% of the time everyday, 2-6 hrs a day. You talk that much to someone, you get to know the real person and see who they really are. You ask the right questions and keep eyes open for red flags.
Naturally, my case is my own unique experience but i can tell you, 6.5 years together, 4.5 years of marriage, newborn and never have we ever yelled at each other, cursed at each other, or have done anything vindictive to each other. We have had disagreements but never arguing. EVER.
1. Communication
2. Meaningful conversation asking about everything in their life.
3. No secrets
4. Both establish ground rules as to what is expected of each other
5. NO secrets, even if its bad
6. Someone that has is like you. Ex: Homebody, conservative/liberal, same views on marriage, abortion(prolife/prochoice), views on parenting, similar hobbies, etc.
Those are the things my wife and i have done with our relationship and we share same ideology on many things. If you dont know either way if they are the one after 6 months or so, then you aint asking the right questions or paying attention.
Just my two cents.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 2:34 pm to CommoDawg
Marriage is the cornerstone of our society. If you're not married by your early twenties then you're actively undermining America and its greatness.
Posted on 7/3/16 at 2:41 pm to Hammertime
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At 32, I think of divorced girls as damaged goods. Would not date one
Dumb.
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