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re: Question about maintaining sobriety
Posted on 6/3/17 at 10:53 am to DeltaTiger14
Posted on 6/3/17 at 10:53 am to DeltaTiger14
I feel sorry for sober people because when they wake up in the morning that's the best they will feel all day
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Posted on 6/3/17 at 10:57 am to deltaland
I bet you thought that up all on your own. How original
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:01 am to DeltaTiger14
I say you can do it without peer groups. I drank alot, on my 2 days off in between my shifts, I looked forward to those drinks in the evenings. I would start up around 3:30 and drink till I was seeing triple, had cold sweats and could barely function. After many years of that, I changed my diet and quit drinking because of my little one. I feel that a change in diet is a good first step. Once my diet changed, I started making other changes, including dropping the liquor. Whenever I look at my little one, it keeps me from falling back into my old ways. Good Luck!!
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:05 am to DeltaTiger14
Sober 34 yrs in august, I made a lot of meetings early in sobriety not much talking, but a lot of listening,
Everybody is different,what works for me may not be for the next guy. What's important is staying sober 1day at a time and remember what got you here, my worst day sober is not even close to my best day using
Everybody is different,what works for me may not be for the next guy. What's important is staying sober 1day at a time and remember what got you here, my worst day sober is not even close to my best day using
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:08 am to IonaTiger
Couldn't have been explained better man! Alcohol/drugs affect our minds and bodies diff than a normal person, as we cannot control what we do when we drink or how much we drink. I tried to do it myself or rely on church or this and that and it never worked. But this last time, they took us to AA every night at the treatment facility I was at in Nola. I was told just to go in and listen and be open-minded and that's what I did as I'm not a big "sharer.
Like you said, first realize and admit you have a problem. Because without that and I believe without hitting your own personal "rock bottom" which is diff for everyone, nothing will work until you want it to work.
This really is a serious thing though. Just while I was in treat, 3 people that completed the program died. Since I've been back in Baton Rouge, I've had 3 more friends pass, including a guy I grew up with and saw as a brother.
Like you said, first realize and admit you have a problem. Because without that and I believe without hitting your own personal "rock bottom" which is diff for everyone, nothing will work until you want it to work.
This really is a serious thing though. Just while I was in treat, 3 people that completed the program died. Since I've been back in Baton Rouge, I've had 3 more friends pass, including a guy I grew up with and saw as a brother.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:09 am to deltaland
quote:
I feel sorry for sober people because when they wake up in the morning that's the best they will feel all day
It's pretty damn awesome.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:12 am to deltaland
I never wake up feeling like shite like you do sometimes
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:17 am to eLeSyoU225
eLeSyoU225, my best to you and to all who take the personal responsibility of taking care of themselves on a daily basis. Those days add up! I always thought the sayings of AA were trite. I now realize how profound they are. I am truly grateful that I finally got the simple notion through my head that the people who had strung together numerous days may have something that could help me do the same. My way certainly did not work.
My first sponsor told me, "Be kind to the newcomer, he may be your sponsor one day!".
My first sponsor told me, "Be kind to the newcomer, he may be your sponsor one day!".
Posted on 6/3/17 at 11:52 am to IonaTiger
Cool to see so many Aa's in here. Made 3 years in April. What I will say is that it's not for everyone. I had seriously tried everything I could possibly think of to stop drinking and getting loaded and none of it worked. I was desperate and opened my mind up to "brainwashing" of aa. It's the only thing I've found to work for me.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 12:12 pm to IonaTiger
I've been real far down the rabbit hole of alcoholism. Lost everything that ever meant anything to me more than once. It nearly killed me. Today I trade an hour out of my day for my LIFE. I go to sleep sober at night and I wouldn't have it any other way.
This post was edited on 6/3/17 at 12:13 pm
Posted on 6/3/17 at 12:20 pm to DBama1
Yep. As I said in an earlier post, there is no need to get involved in the academic discussion of whether alcoholism is a disease, a weakness of character, or moral failing.
I subscribe to the disease model. I can't help but think that if I told people with cancer or MS that they could go into remission if they spent an hour at a meeting a few times a week that there would be lines around the block to get in. Alcoholism is the disease that keeps telling me that I don't have it. I consider myself lucky/fortunate/blessed, whatever word one chooses, to have gone to bed sober for a lot of days now.
I subscribe to the disease model. I can't help but think that if I told people with cancer or MS that they could go into remission if they spent an hour at a meeting a few times a week that there would be lines around the block to get in. Alcoholism is the disease that keeps telling me that I don't have it. I consider myself lucky/fortunate/blessed, whatever word one chooses, to have gone to bed sober for a lot of days now.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 1:06 pm to IonaTiger
You too man! And same to anybody else that reads this that's struggling or trying to stay sober. Yea I'm very grateful to get into the rooms at a young age (I'm 24 now and just made 2 years April 18th) Because the rode I was going down, the end would've been jail or death. Like I think you or someone else said, my worst day sober is 100xs better than my best day loaded.
I'm very blessed to have 3 sponsees right now. It's so amazing helping someone come from the same place I was and to see their life get better.
I'm very blessed to have 3 sponsees right now. It's so amazing helping someone come from the same place I was and to see their life get better.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 1:20 pm to NoSaint
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but it sounds like you were hoping to keep it a little bit compartmentalized and this becoming a lifestyle change for not just yourself but maybe your whole family being a part of the process might be worrying you?
Bolded because I agree that its key. I'm working on something similar to the OP and I've finally realized this.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 2:21 pm to ole man
Posted on 6/3/17 at 3:01 pm to deltaland
And I guess your not wity enough to come up with your own line! That ones been around since the 50's.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 3:02 pm to Recovered
Nice name
Posted on 6/3/17 at 3:21 pm to DeltaTiger14
I used to go overboard in college, but only because I could afford to waste the next day. I never spent rent/tuition/etc money on booze or drank before a final.
I quit drinking over time. Got out of school and started working, so I never had time for it. Then I quit drinking beer because I had to start putting effort into keeping my weight down.
My advice would be to stack your schedule so you don't have time to drink. Make Saturday morning commitments like youth sports or freelance work, so you can't drink on Friday night. The rest of the week is covered by your job.
Won't take long before you don't even think about booze.
I quit drinking over time. Got out of school and started working, so I never had time for it. Then I quit drinking beer because I had to start putting effort into keeping my weight down.
My advice would be to stack your schedule so you don't have time to drink. Make Saturday morning commitments like youth sports or freelance work, so you can't drink on Friday night. The rest of the week is covered by your job.
Won't take long before you don't even think about booze.
This post was edited on 1/11/21 at 3:28 pm
Posted on 6/3/17 at 3:25 pm to DeltaTiger14
quote:stop being weak
DeltaTiger14
Posted on 6/3/17 at 3:30 pm to DeltaTiger14
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Do you think long term sobriety be maintained without peer groups like AA?
Sure it can. AA is a crutch for weak people. I know someone who would go to meetings once in awhile just remind what he didn't want to be. He said the idea that they have that once a drunk, always a drunk and that they were recovering was a failing on them. Thinking like that and you will never win.
Posted on 6/3/17 at 3:48 pm to Ponchy Tiger
And for the record, Jack Lemmon was the originator of that quote. And here is his son talking about the day his dad finally got over his alcoholism.
He spoke publicly about his alcoholism and I wonder if you remember the night he gave it up?
He had a final night where it got out of control with broken glass all over the floor. He’d fallen down, hit his head, cut it open, had a bloody dishtowel hanging off the side of his head and finally the maid couldn’t take it. She called me and said, ‘You need to come over and talk to your father.’ When I got there, I didn’t need to say a word. He said, ‘I know.’ That was it. He never had a drink after that.
He spoke publicly about his alcoholism and I wonder if you remember the night he gave it up?
He had a final night where it got out of control with broken glass all over the floor. He’d fallen down, hit his head, cut it open, had a bloody dishtowel hanging off the side of his head and finally the maid couldn’t take it. She called me and said, ‘You need to come over and talk to your father.’ When I got there, I didn’t need to say a word. He said, ‘I know.’ That was it. He never had a drink after that.
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