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re: Spanking a kid--where do you stand?
Posted on 4/29/19 at 1:32 pm to SCLibertarian
Posted on 4/29/19 at 1:32 pm to SCLibertarian
quote:what ever you need to tell yourself to justify trailer park behavior...
Not spanking your kids leads to them being even trashier adults.
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Posted on 4/29/19 at 1:51 pm to lsufan9193969700
My son is 11, I don't recall ever spanking him when he was little, maybe a swat with my hand, but not like a real arse whipping like I got back in the day. My son is well behaved and I don't have issues with him, maybe I'm a lucky one. I am not opposed to it, let the punishment fit the crime.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 2:38 pm to Spankum
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Spankum
I think he/she should be the authoritative voice in this discussion.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 2:52 pm to keakar
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and thus the snowflake generation began totally unprepared to face adversity or ever be told they have to face the consequences of their actions or hear the word no in their life without dropping to the fetal position in tears
I am in the camp of spanking should be a last resort punishment that fits the crime. You shouldn't hit your kid cuz he/she is being annoying, it should be reserved for major offenses after other means of action have failed.
For instance, my son started biting at around 18 months. we talked to him, we pinched his lips together , we gave time outs, and whatever else we could think of. The issue was that he was to little to understand what we were trying to say/do. After about 3 weeks of being bit everyday, my wife smacked him in the mouth. nothing major, no blood or anything, but hard enough to get the point across. He has never bitten us since. Well that's not 100% true. About a month ago (he is almost 2.5 years old so its been about a year since he got smacked) he accidentally bit my wife while they were playing and he had the biggest look of guilt and sorrow that I have ever seen on his face. He immediately started crying and telling his mom that he was sorry.
Point of my story: when used sparingly and in the correct circumstance, spanking can have a lasting positive affect. But if you hit your kid every time he steps out of line, then your kid won't know the difference between being annoying and actually hurting people because the punishment in his eyes are the same so the offense must be equal.
All of this was for me to say that spanking and parenting are not the same thing. Sometimes a parent has to spank, but most of the time you can parent without involving any violence.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 3:15 pm to lsufan9193969700
In my house spanking is a severe tactic used when it appears nothing else is "landing" with the kid. Generally taking away toys or TV does the trick at this age (5 & 6), but there are times when I catch them doing some nefarious shite and I spank, on the spot, with no warning. The blitz is super effective.
Most of the time, punishment with a long talk as to why this is happening suffices.
So - middle of the road kind of family here.
Most of the time, punishment with a long talk as to why this is happening suffices.
So - middle of the road kind of family here.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 3:18 pm to lsufan9193969700
Spank when they're old enough to understand why, and stop when you can enact consequences that take precedence. Take a phone away form a 13 year old and it's like the world has ended.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 6:37 pm to lsufan9193969700
It has the following benefits:
A. It's character building
B. Attitude realigning
C. Enhances perspective
OTOH grounding works well, too.
BTW, spanking doesn't mean beating. Big difference.
A. It's character building
B. Attitude realigning
C. Enhances perspective
OTOH grounding works well, too.
BTW, spanking doesn't mean beating. Big difference.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 7:41 pm to ShoeBang
Spank sometimes but not often.
shite stops though when I do.
Its generally a last resort for something dangerous or disrespectful. A continual problem that toy taking and time outs did not solve.
Wife is not a fan but too bad.
Six year old needs a healthy respect and slight fear imo.
shite stops though when I do.
Its generally a last resort for something dangerous or disrespectful. A continual problem that toy taking and time outs did not solve.
Wife is not a fan but too bad.
Six year old needs a healthy respect and slight fear imo.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 8:34 pm to lsufan9193969700
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One party said it is never right to spank a child
Typical liberal idiot.
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Spanking a kid--where do you stand?
Thankfully, I dont have kids. But, I'd beat that arse if I had a kid and wanted to discipline him for acting out. You only have to do it once or twice - after that, you`ll only have to give them the eye.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 9:25 pm to lsufan9193969700
A parent should never be his child's friend. He should only become that when the child has reached adulthood.
A parent must be his child's supervisor. Reward him when he does well and punish him when he does something inappropriate. Sometimes that punishment can require spanking.
A parent must be his child's supervisor. Reward him when he does well and punish him when he does something inappropriate. Sometimes that punishment can require spanking.
Posted on 4/29/19 at 9:40 pm to JayDeerTay84
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I would like to fricking know what god damn studies you reference?
Here is an American Psychological Association article describing some of the studies which conclude that spanking is both ineffective and harmful. You are welcome.
LINK
Posted on 4/29/19 at 9:43 pm to lsufan9193969700
Ok... look at all the spoiled rotten entitled little shits that have grown up without spankings and ask yourself, do spankings have a place?
The answer is yes.
Pride is the one thing that spankings bridle, and pride is the one thing that’s is out of control today.
The answer is yes.
Pride is the one thing that spankings bridle, and pride is the one thing that’s is out of control today.
This post was edited on 4/29/19 at 9:46 pm
Posted on 4/29/19 at 10:25 pm to DCtiger1
quote:No one here is suggesting beating your kid. Maybe we all should be a good parent like you and just make our kids sit in their bedroom all day with no parental interaction. Thats sooo much better.
Spanking just shows how low of an IQ you have. You’re an adult and you can’t think of other ways to instill discipline and respect besides beating your kid?
Posted on 4/29/19 at 11:23 pm to lsufan9193969700
Science is pretty clear that spankings do more harm than good. Only reason to spank is in the event of a child who did something horribly dangerous that nearly got himself or someone around seriously injured. A kid crying in the grocery store doesn't need a spanking.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 12:03 am to lsufan9193969700
Wooden spoon or spatula on open hand. My sons had to wait a bit, we would talk about why it was about to happen, and they have to man up and put their hand out for it.
That way they know it's not out of anger, but that I'm calm and in the right place.
That way they know it's not out of anger, but that I'm calm and in the right place.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 7:17 am to lsufan9193969700
I took arse whoopins like nobody's business from my Dad. We danced around and my Dad swung his belt. If it hit you in the arse, leg, dick, wherever, it was on you for moving. I look back and laugh my arse off because I got a shite load of whoopins and it didn't mess me up mentally or whatever in any way.
HOWEVER. All kids aren't the same, and I do think there are different methods that work for different kids.
Clearly, I was the kid that needed a red arse.
HOWEVER. All kids aren't the same, and I do think there are different methods that work for different kids.
Clearly, I was the kid that needed a red arse.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 7:39 am to crazyatthecamp
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Wife is not a fan but too bad.
Maybe you should spank her to get her in line.
Posted on 4/30/19 at 7:41 am to lsufan9193969700
I stand off to the side a little bit, that way he's right in my wheelhouse
Posted on 4/30/19 at 7:45 am to lsufan9193969700
My son is WAY too young to understand punishment so it's hard for me to answer right now, I know I was spanked as a child but very rarely.
In fact, I was talking to my Dad a few weeks ago about how he would pop a leather belt real loud right before he spanked us with it and it was very intimidating.
He said that he NEVER actually hit us with a belt, the popping it was always enough to get us in line.
Psychological warfare I guess
In fact, I was talking to my Dad a few weeks ago about how he would pop a leather belt real loud right before he spanked us with it and it was very intimidating.
He said that he NEVER actually hit us with a belt, the popping it was always enough to get us in line.
Psychological warfare I guess
Posted on 4/30/19 at 8:39 am to lsufan9193969700
My kid is 12. I haven’t spanked him in a long time and that is because I spanked him early on.
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