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I have a dilemma and this seems like the place ask...
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:50 am
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:50 am
Lately, I have been feeling like the Catholic Church has been speaking to me. I have been attending a Protestant church because my fiancé likes it, I think it makes her feel safe. I sit in the chairs, thinking of Christ but I see nothing but a dark room, no windows, no crosses, just a Pastor who filmed the Church giving out meals and a car at Thanksgiving. I listen to Mass everyday in my office, I want to attend a Mass everyday at 12 during my lunch. My Fiancé has told me she and I would be over if I continued. She threw away my Mass guide from EWTN she found in my truck. I cannot convince her otherwise that this is the way to go. I truly believe this is the only way for our family but I will lose her If I proceed.
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Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:52 am to SouthernHog
All churches are basically the same - live a good life, receive a prize at the end. Give us money until that end.
ETA: For a compromise, check out the Lutheran or Episcopalian churches. Still Protestant, but VERY close to the Catholic Church.
ETA: For a compromise, check out the Lutheran or Episcopalian churches. Still Protestant, but VERY close to the Catholic Church.
This post was edited on 1/6/26 at 11:05 am
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:53 am to SouthernHog
She sounds lovely.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:53 am to SouthernHog
10+ pages
If serious, someone willing to leave you for your faith is not a keeper
If serious, someone willing to leave you for your faith is not a keeper
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:53 am to Shexter
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All churches are basically the same - live a good life, receive a prize at the end. Give us money until that end.
No they are not, Jesus didn't play electric guitar or bass.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:54 am to SouthernHog
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My Fiancé has told me she and I would be over if I continued.
What's the dilemma? She told you where she stands, believe her. Mass or arse, your choice now.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:54 am to SouthernHog
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She threw away my Mass guide from EWTN she found in my truck.
She sounds emotionally stable and willing to compromise with your values. A real keeper right there.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:55 am to SouthernHog
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My Fiancé has told me she and I would be over if I continued. She threw away my Mass guide from EWTN she found in my truck
This sounds unhinged. I'd seriously reconsider marriage with someone who did this.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:55 am to SouthernHog
There are stats out there (that are probably incorrect but close enough for the point to remain) that when the father Leads the family into spirituality 93-94% of families follow when the father comes to Christ first.
When the mother Leads: About 17-18% of families follow when the mother comes to Christ first.
When a child Leads: Roughly 3.5% of families follow when a child comes to Christ first.
It's your Godly duty to lead your family to Christ but understand that the way to God is not through a building, its windows, crosses or pastors.
When the mother Leads: About 17-18% of families follow when the mother comes to Christ first.
When a child Leads: Roughly 3.5% of families follow when a child comes to Christ first.
It's your Godly duty to lead your family to Christ but understand that the way to God is not through a building, its windows, crosses or pastors.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:56 am to SouthernHog
I second the poster stating anyone willing to leave you for your faith is not a keeper.
It's one thing for her to not participate- but to actively prevent you from following what calls you is demented af, and I guarantee you that won't be the last ridiculous line she draws in the sand of your relationship.
tl/dr; ¡RUN!
It's one thing for her to not participate- but to actively prevent you from following what calls you is demented af, and I guarantee you that won't be the last ridiculous line she draws in the sand of your relationship.
tl/dr; ¡RUN!
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:56 am to SouthernHog
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My Fiancé has told me she and I would be over if I continued.
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She threw away my Mass guide from EWTN she found in my truck.
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I cannot convince her otherwise that this is the way to go. I truly believe this is the only way for our family but I will lose her If I proceed.
She sounds like a real peach.
You say "our family" but also that she's just your girlfriend. Do you have kids?
Couples can make it work being in different religions (my wife and I do it just fine), but some of her actions worry me way more than just being a different religion.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:57 am to SouthernHog
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Jesus didn't play electric guitar or bass.
Google says differently. Who do you think wrote the song "Personal Jesus"?
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:57 am to SouthernHog
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SouthernHog
Are you even saved Bro?
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:58 am to SouthernHog
This all sounds very healthy
Posted on 1/6/26 at 10:59 am to REB BEER
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Are you even saved Bro?
Saved in a Non-Denom church but it seems lacking. I don't like the feeling.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 11:00 am to Salmon
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This all sounds like bullshite
Posted on 1/6/26 at 11:00 am to SouthernHog
I say this as someone who converted to Catholicism four years ago.
I can certainly see how other faiths can be appealing over Catholicism, and I even understand a lot of the criticism the catholic church gets, but ALL faiths are imperfect and everybody on earth is too.
First, your fiance seems very closed minded if she would leave you over your desire to be catholic, and if this truly is the case, I suggest you have other conversations with her now before the wedding because there are likely other topics she will have major disagreements with you on (like child raising and other important stuff).
Secondly, what’s the difference between you living as a catholic and actually being catholic? The Eucharist! The Eucharist is by far the single-most important thing about being catholic to me. If you want to live your life the catholic way without the Eucharist, go for it and maybe one day she’ll come around and you can convert with her support. Otherwise this could be a massive dealbreaker for both of you.
Why don’t you contact the pastor of the church yall currently attend and schedule a conversation with him and your fiance to get his thoughts? If he’s truly in it for the congregation, he may say it’s ok to convert if that’s what you truly want and he could give you his blessing in front of her to make her feel more comfortable. One thing my priest ALWAYS says at mass, whether it's at the start or at the very end, is "we welcome those of other faiths who may be with us today". Catholic priests don't judge if you're attending mass from outside the faith, they just care that you're at church. If your pastor is truly in it for God and the spread of his ways, then he will feel no offense to you wanting to convert to Catholicism.
Just some thoughts. Good luck with this.
I can certainly see how other faiths can be appealing over Catholicism, and I even understand a lot of the criticism the catholic church gets, but ALL faiths are imperfect and everybody on earth is too.
First, your fiance seems very closed minded if she would leave you over your desire to be catholic, and if this truly is the case, I suggest you have other conversations with her now before the wedding because there are likely other topics she will have major disagreements with you on (like child raising and other important stuff).
Secondly, what’s the difference between you living as a catholic and actually being catholic? The Eucharist! The Eucharist is by far the single-most important thing about being catholic to me. If you want to live your life the catholic way without the Eucharist, go for it and maybe one day she’ll come around and you can convert with her support. Otherwise this could be a massive dealbreaker for both of you.
Why don’t you contact the pastor of the church yall currently attend and schedule a conversation with him and your fiance to get his thoughts? If he’s truly in it for the congregation, he may say it’s ok to convert if that’s what you truly want and he could give you his blessing in front of her to make her feel more comfortable. One thing my priest ALWAYS says at mass, whether it's at the start or at the very end, is "we welcome those of other faiths who may be with us today". Catholic priests don't judge if you're attending mass from outside the faith, they just care that you're at church. If your pastor is truly in it for God and the spread of his ways, then he will feel no offense to you wanting to convert to Catholicism.
Just some thoughts. Good luck with this.
This post was edited on 1/6/26 at 11:12 am
Posted on 1/6/26 at 11:02 am to SouthernHog
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No they are not, Jesus didn't play electric guitar or bass.
To be fair, he probably didn't parade around in gilded robes with an incesor and golden chalice either.
Of course, conditionally for me, a Catholic Mass feels more like the "right" kind of worship than an electric guitar playing protestant mega-church type deal.
Posted on 1/6/26 at 11:02 am to LSUballs
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This all sounds like bullshite
It's not, 2 years ago when we got back together I brought this up and she said we would be over and I caved.
Another thing, she hates football
Posted on 1/6/26 at 11:03 am to SouthernHog
She’s giving you a perfect opportunity to GTFO before you marry her and she makes the rest of your life miserable. Not a very religious person but a red flag like that before even getting married would scare the shite out of me. Doesn’t sound like she’s very invested into your marriage if she’s willing to leave you over something that stupid.
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