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re: Affairs... (very long)
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:44 am to TigerDeacon
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:44 am to TigerDeacon
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as an attempt to excuse what he did.
I didn't read as such. I think he just explained the process of events. He still seems torn every which direction so i'm not even sure how much true regret he has yet.
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Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:45 am to throwaway082119
You should get your wife into hotwifing to make up for it
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:45 am to TigerFanInSouthland
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This is exactly the reason why.
That's not the reason...
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:46 am to TigerFanInSouthland
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This is exactly the reason why.
Also a good way not to get #metoo’ed
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:46 am to fr33manator
If you guys were cheated on, and it was a one time thing, would you want to know?
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:46 am to throwaway082119
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:47 am to throwaway082119
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Everything I learn about her infatuates me.
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Neither of us drop the L word but she says things like “if you look at me like that it will make me fall in love with you”.
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After this trip all text from me and her turn into “I miss you”, “I want to be with you so bad”, “I wish we could wake up together”, etc.
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I’m pretty much heartbroken but what do you do? T
What you are describing is called "limerance." It's a strong infatuation.
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So, the hypotheticals that get posted about would you do a 1-night stand, would you do this if you wouldn’t get caught…DON’T! I constantly feel like a piece of shite for doing this to my family while still longing for her.
You should. You had the ability to say no, but you didn't.
You need to find peace and happiness within yourself. Your kids, nor your wife, can offer you that. It has to come from within before you can accept what they have to give to you.
You also need to ask forgiveness of yourself --- and if you want your relationship to work with your wife, you should tell her. Most likely, she will be pissed, hurt, upset, angry, disappointed and scared --- and she may leave you --- and rightfully so, but you can get through this if you are honest with yourself and your wife --- and don't listen to outsiders (who may be your friends) giving you advice, because most of the time, they are broken themselves and only look out for one person and not the spouse as a whole.
This post was edited on 8/23/19 at 10:50 am
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:47 am to rexorotten
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If you guys were cheated on, and it was a one time thing, would you want to know?
Yup. Her shite would get packed a lot faster if I was helping
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:48 am to TigerFanInSouthland
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People like to act like Mike Pence and Billy Graham are/were insane for having the rule of never being alone with another woman that aren’t/weren’t their wife. This is exactly the reason why.
Not every guy is a pathetically weak man.
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:49 am to TigerDeacon
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He felt the need to try explain how much passion they had as an attempt to excuse what he did
There’s always a justification. Always an excuse to why the behaviour is somehow not their fault. Troubles at home, stale bedroom, stresses.
Because we don’t want to admit that deep down we are just weak creatures, that the temptation of the flesh is stronger than the vows we make.
It’s human. Flawed, but human
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:49 am to Thib-a-doe Tiger
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Yup. Her shite would get packed a lot faster if I was helping
No doubt.
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:50 am to Chad504boy
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I think he just explained the process of events. He still seems torn every which direction so i'm not even sure how much true regret he has yet.
He felt the need to describe exactly how many times they had sex. Why else put that in the story?
I think the only regret he has is that his affair seems to be over and he has nothing left to fill that time except think of what he has actually done.
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:51 am to fr33manator
Have you ever had sex and not caught feelings? Damn man, not everything has to be so serious
OP, don't say shite. Just be miserable for a while, and then get back to your normal, mundane life like everyone else in the world. You telling your wife is selfish. You're just doing it because you feel bad, and it'll ruin her and your children's lives. Keep your trap shut
Eta: Just to clarify....I've been on both sides of cheating as well. I easily admitted it, because I'm not a liar. To this day, it's the worst thing I've done to anyone IMHO
OP, don't say shite. Just be miserable for a while, and then get back to your normal, mundane life like everyone else in the world. You telling your wife is selfish. You're just doing it because you feel bad, and it'll ruin her and your children's lives. Keep your trap shut
Eta: Just to clarify....I've been on both sides of cheating as well. I easily admitted it, because I'm not a liar. To this day, it's the worst thing I've done to anyone IMHO
This post was edited on 8/23/19 at 10:54 am
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:51 am to throwaway082119
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she also has a child but is single
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She had her kid and her career and didn’t have time for a “real” relationship.
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“I want to be with you so bad”, “I wish we could wake up together”
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She never says I love you but throws the word around more often.
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her ex had been reaching out to her and she may give that another shot
Well, look who found time for a "real" relationship.
She's a single mother looking for a new daddy. It's a trap. Best to stay away.
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She has this indescribable happy outlook and positive vibe. Never in a bad mood when we talk or text.
Oh yea she's being 100% real with you
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:51 am to TigerDeacon
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He felt the need to describe exactly how many times they had sex. Why else put that in the story?
Cuz that’s how many times it was mentioned in the Penthouse Forums he took this from
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:52 am to throwaway082119
Do your self loathing on your own time.
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:53 am to TigerDeacon
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He felt the need to describe exactly how many times they had sex. Why else put that in the story?
I think the only regret he has is that his affair seems to be over and he has nothing left to fill that time except think of what he has actually done.
Withdrawal symptoms. Like I’ve said, it’s a high.
This is both an attempt to relive and capture some of that rush, and to anonymously try to alleviate some of his guilt. It leaves a hole that yearns to be filled by something, anything. It’s a deep, discomforting emptiness.
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:54 am to fr33manator
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It leaves a hole that yearns to be filled by something,
That’s how this entire thing started
Posted on 8/23/19 at 10:54 am to fr33manator
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If it’s dead and buried, leave it in the ground.
It's not dead and buried if you have to..
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suck it up and deal with the guilt privately.
It will always be festering just below the surface and will impact the relationship going forward.
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It’s to assuage your own guilt by absolutely destroying your partner.
No, it's to honor the commitment you made to your spouse when you married him/her. Your spouse put their full trust in you, and you broke that trust. They deserve to know that in order to decide if they wish to remain married and committed to you.
Posted on 8/23/19 at 11:00 am to The Spleen
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Not every guy is a pathetically weak man.
It’s best to never even be put or find yourself in the situation would you agree?
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