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re: Just got served divorce papers today
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:05 pm to FLBooGoTigs1
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:05 pm to FLBooGoTigs1
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You are right she served the papers and believe it or not she is riding cock somewhere else.
Some of you guys need to create a different version of the Dr. Phil show. A plainspoken show regarding marital advice. On the Country Music Channel. That would make a lot of money.
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:07 pm to genuineLSUtiger
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A plainspoken show regarding marital advice
It would be considered insensitive and sexist according to the SJWs.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:09 pm to Mid Iowa Tiger
There is no way I'm reading all of this, but there are at least two possibilities here. 1) You are an overbearing a-hole that doesn't beat his wife with his fists, but is too wrapped up in himself to see the needs and wants of the people that depend on him. 2) You are a great dad and husband but your wife wants another man.
Oh, I forgot the 3rd scenario. It's something between 1 and 2.
Oh, I forgot the 3rd scenario. It's something between 1 and 2.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:12 pm to TheOcean
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quote: You call it bitter, I call it experience. Could be wrong, but many people in this thread who think the guy should try and stick it out seem to be newly married. They're either still in the honeymoon phase, or they refuse to believe that their princess could ever leave them. Which makes sense--it's tough to believe that your wife could straight up just peace out one day (even though you believe everything is going well). But that shite seems to happen quite often.
It's hard to deal with it. They all wanna believe the Disney fairytale where it all works out in the end and everyone lives happily ever after.
But the truth is all too often more of a Grimm's fairytale. And in the end everyone is eaten by bears.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:22 pm to Mo Jeaux
But if she's that shitty of a person he's better off without her. If she seriously is leaving without giving counseling a chance despite having 5 or whatever the frick miserable number of kids they decided to burden themselves with, then she is a horrible person and I'd be happy to rid myself of her.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 12:24 pm
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:22 pm to SoDakHawk
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You call it bitter, I call it experience. I am pretty sure there are plenty of decent guys in this thread that have been crapped on out of the blue. We're just calling this as we see it because we've been through it and recognize instantly what is going on.
I was once incredulous upon hearing some of the horror stories, but it's real. In school I knew a married woman who was cheating on her husband with a classmate. She soon decided to separate from the husband after this began. She only went back to the husband once things crashed and burned after being with a couple of guys. I don't think the husband knew about any of it.
Saw another classmate whose wife just served him divorce papers out of the blue. She said she just didn't want to be married anymore. And this was the nicest guy in the world. That type of stuff scares the shite out of me. It's not always about a woman being emotionally abused or any other strife in the marriage. Sometimes they decide they no longer want what they signed up for. And of course this goes can go for married men as well.
Someone else said in these situations women are already two steps ahead of you and I have to agree. Women aren't planning to leave one relationship without some assurance of security on the other end. That is an essential need that must be met for them. She might not necessarily be physically cheating but her eyes are on greener pastures and there's no doubt someone else at least in mind.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:22 pm to fr33manator
quote:Well look who's back. Paige must not carry the stroke we all thought. She lobbied hard against you bro...
fr33manator
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:27 pm to Goldrush25
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Someone else said in these situations women are already two steps ahead of you and I have to agree. Women aren't planning to leave one relationship without some assurance of security on the other end. That is an essential need that must be met for them. She might not necessarily be physically cheating but her eyes are on greener pastures and there's no doubt someone else at least in mind.
Absolutely, 100% accurate. Agreed.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:29 pm to Goldrush25
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Someone else said in these situations women are already two steps ahead of you and I have to agree. Women aren't planning to leave one relationship without some assurance of security on the other end. That is an essential need that must be met for them. She might not necessarily be physically cheating but her eyes are on greener pastures and there's no doubt someone else at least in mind.
Witnessed this first hand. Women chalk this up to being normal, though.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:29 pm to Count Chocula
Count, where is the lunch thread? Have they been outlawed?
on topic...uh,well...sorry to hear this. What does your wife look like?
Purely out of curiosity, of course.
on topic...uh,well...sorry to hear this. What does your wife look like?
Purely out of curiosity, of course.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:34 pm to Mid Iowa Tiger
well if you haven't done anything then maybe that's the excuse she used so you cant mount a logical argument. I guess bully her into marriage counseling. Get the truth on the table and see what's what. She will soon learn the grass isnt greener
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:36 pm to TheOcean
How could a woman with like 7 kids (most of them young) have the time to lock down another man? That's insane
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:44 pm to SirWinston
Tinder, bro
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:55 pm to TheOcean
this is the kind of shite being pushed down womens throats now on Social Media every day.
And the weak minded ones that believe they can have what they see portrayed in their Mommy Porn books and movies
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Sadly the ability of men to encourage women seems to be a lost art these days. Men have abandoned the princess inside their women and have embraced them as mere coworkers. As a result,womens dreams have died and their loving hearts towards their men have withered. Women have become so accustomed to the routine,the roles,and the repetition in their lives that they are made to feel about as special as a piece of furniture.The myth we men embrace is that after the conquest,we can coast on the encouragement. That lie shows a complete disregard for how God created women,and it kills intimacy in the relationship.When a Manstops encouraging his woman and making her feel special she feels deceived and ripped off. Over time the painful truth-that it was all a game and she was simply the prize- begins to sink in. The result? A man loses his credibility and respect in his womans eyes. A woman cannot be fully intimate with a man she does not respect and even resents. SHE DID NOT SIGN UP FOR THAT. And she certainly did not dream as a little giirl growing up that this is the way her relatinship would turn out
And the weak minded ones that believe they can have what they see portrayed in their Mommy Porn books and movies
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 12:57 pm
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:55 pm to TheOcean
7 kids!? I hope you have one hell of a job or one hell of a prenup, preferably both. That child support wont be a joke, better fight your arse off for joint custody or you will be paying her to frick other dudes while your kids sleep in the next room.
7 kids!!??
7 kids!!??
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:57 pm to LCA131
quote:If I had one, she'd look like yours!
Purely out of curiosity, of course.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 12:58 pm to Mid Iowa Tiger
Women's Power Movement - prayers sent bro.
I blame the spice girls
I blame the spice girls
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:00 pm to BigB0882
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7 kids!? I hope you have one hell of a job or one hell of a prenup, preferably both. That child support wont be a joke, better fight your arse off for joint custody or you will be paying her to frick other dudes while your kids sleep in the next room.
prenup isn't going to help with child support
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:03 pm to Goldrush25
quote:
I was once incredulous upon hearing some of the horror stories, but it's real. In school I knew a married woman who was cheating on her husband with a classmate. She soon decided to separate from the husband after this began. She only went back to the husband once things crashed and burned after being with a couple of guys. I don't think the husband knew about any of it.
This. Back in March, my wife said she wanted a divorce. We went - and still are - to counseling. Things were bad for a while and now seem to doing a lot better and maybe divorce is leaving the picture. By the way, we have 2 kids, ages 6 and 4. The normal question anyone asked when blindsided with this is "is there anyone else?", which anyone would ask. I did and she denied. When my suspicions started, she became angry and denied even more.
All the time we were initially going to counseling, I thought she was trying to work on us - because I told her that the reason to go to counseling is to try to see if the marriage can be saved, otherwise it is a lost cause.
A month after we started, I found a phone number in the vehicle. I sat on it while I gathered info. She left her FB open (after I found the number), so I snooped. What I found wasn't pretty. She searched for the number guy several times (he is married, with children - all info that is being kept just in case), but there was no contact on there with him. I did find messages from old boyfriends - both who live in states far away - that were less than desirable reads. Seems that she liked the attention. Oh, I have also looked at the phone records and guess what? That number was used to and from.
So, I found the right time and confronted her about the number, searches, messages, and phone calls. A little backstory - my wife is active duty and a high ranking officer, who, if this is found out can get in major trouble career wise (I am leaving a part out just in case). She was very upset that I snooped, but it was justified. When I gave his name (first and last) and phone number, she admitted to an emotional affair - she said that she was feeling lonely and he made her feel better and just gave him her number. I called BS and said that no one ever gives a number - especially considering her position and station - without her making herself approachable. And she agreed. Due to her position, and the distance she drives, I do not think it has crossed over to the physical side.
The thing is, I did this at 4 a.m. before she could sort a story. And I recorded the conversation, which is legal if both parties are in it. Later in the day, I think that she thought about our conversation a good bit and tried to change the story a bit.
Protect yourself. I did but do not want to use it. I have checked (and researched) numbers on the bill and his wasn't called since april. She really seems to be working on us now and has talked of the future some. She also seems more at ease with the idea of us and does more of the little things that she used to do when we first got married and early into the marriage (9 years of marriage). I am cautiously optimistic. I have also been seeing a counselor of my own - I need to be a better person for me first. And that all trickles down to the family and everyone else. Good luck.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 1:09 pm
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:04 pm to meauxjeaux2
Social media is awful for relationships
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