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re: Just got served divorce papers today
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:37 pm to meauxjeaux2
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:37 pm to meauxjeaux2
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$30 a month monitor fee and you'll find out what you need to find out. Took mine 3 weeks exactly to hang herself
That seems awesome...until she takes her car to be serviced and I forget it's there...
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:38 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:40 pm to Bunk Moreland
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I always wonder how the wives spin it to their parents/relatives when it's her decision to leave for lame reasons like the guy being a bully, not in tune with her emotions, doesn't make her feel special anymore, etc.
In my case, she told hers it was for "neglecting" her emotions, not making her feel special, etc. Never once did I raise a hand, cheat, or bully. Imagine their surprise if the truth comes out...
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:41 pm to TheOcean
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Looks like it would depend on how highly ranked she is
In my wife's case, very highly ranked.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:42 pm to meauxjeaux2
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and $30 a month monitor fee and you'll find out what you need to find out. Took mine 3 weeks exactly to hang herself
And making out at the messengers Christmas. Did you eventually divorce her?
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:42 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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n my case, she told hers it was for "neglecting" her emotions, not making her feel special, etc. Never once did I raise a hand, cheat, or bully. Imagine their surprise if the truth comes out...
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Sadly the ability of men to encourage women seems to be a lost art these days. Men have abandoned the princess inside their women and have embraced them as mere coworkers. As a result,womens dreams have died and their loving hearts towards their men have withered. Women have become so accustomed to the routine,the roles,and the repetition in their lives that they are made to feel about as special as a piece of furniture.The myth we men embrace is that after the conquest,we can coast on the encouragement. That lie shows a complete disregard for how God created women,and it kills intimacy in the relationship.When a Manstops encouraging his woman and making her feel special she feels deceived and ripped off. Over time the painful truth-that it was all a game and she was simply the prize- begins to sink in. The result? A man loses his credibility and respect in his womans eyes. A woman cannot be fully intimate with a man she does not respect and even resents. SHE DID NOT SIGN UP FOR THAT. And she certainly did not dream as a little giirl growing up that this is the way her relatinship would turn out
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:42 pm to mikelbr
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:43 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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sit on all that info unless she forces my hand
I understand that this has been a very difficult day; and through the shock and sadness, you may not be thinking clearly.
Do not wait for her to force any issue, cover your bases now before its too late. Since you don't trust her, act like it. Gather info and do it now. You are already 3 steps behind her -she has had this in the works for longer than you care to know.
ITA FYI she and he probably know how to sweep her car for trackers
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 1:46 pm
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:45 pm to HaveMercy
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Do not wait for her to force any issue, cover your bases now before its too late. Since you don't trust her, act like it. Gather info and do it now. You are already 3 steps behind her -she has had this in the works for longer than you care to know.
Spot on. Have an upvote! And good luck to the OP, going forward. I really hope there is a silver lining in all this for you.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:48 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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This. Back in March, my wife said she wanted a divorce. We went - and still are - to counseling. Things were bad for a while and now seem to doing a lot better and maybe divorce is leaving the picture. By the way, we have 2 kids, ages 6 and 4. The normal question anyone asked when blindsided with this is "is there anyone else?", which anyone would ask. I did and she denied. When my suspicions started, she became angry and denied even more. All the time we were initially going to counseling, I thought she was trying to work on us - because I told her that the reason to go to counseling is to try to see if the marriage can be saved, otherwise it is a lost cause. A month after we started, I found a phone number in the vehicle. I sat on it while I gathered info. She left her FB open (after I found the number), so I snooped. What I found wasn't pretty. She searched for the number guy several times (he is married, with children - all info that is being kept just in case), but there was no contact on there with him. I did find messages from old boyfriends - both who live in states far away - that were less than desirable reads. Seems that she liked the attention. Oh, I have also looked at the phone records and guess what? That number was used to and from.
Jesus. Sorry to hear this. It's such a common tale.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:48 pm to HaveMercy
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Do not wait for her to force any issue, cover your bases now before its too late. Since you don't trust her, act like it. Gather info and do it now. You are already 3 steps behind her -she has had this in the works for longer than you care to know.
Other than watching - and maybe an occasional PI, what else could I do (besides the gps tracker)?
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 2:48 pm
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:49 pm to Spaceman Spiff
Are you in the military?
Because, Since she is in a deployable status you get primary custody of the kids and if you have hit the 10 year mark you also get half her retirement.
So I wouldn't get her kicked out of the military if things go south.
Because, Since she is in a deployable status you get primary custody of the kids and if you have hit the 10 year mark you also get half her retirement.
So I wouldn't get her kicked out of the military if things go south.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:49 pm to meauxjeaux2
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$30 a month monitor fee and you'll find out what you need to find out. Took mine 3 weeks exactly to hang hersel
How did you confront her on that?
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:49 pm to Count Chocula
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Well look who's back. Paige must not carry the stroke we all thought. She lobbied hard against you bro...
We decent men of the OT had to all join our swords together, crossing them gently, to summon the Great Clucker's approval.
fr33 better not frick this up.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:50 pm to Hangit
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After 23 years and 7 kids, her unit probably makes Hope Solo's look neat and pristine.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:50 pm to SoDakHawk
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Find a good attorney, listen to their advice, and work with them on your case.
This is good advice. Be sure to thoroughly read the documents prepared by the lawyers on both sides to make sure you understand them and they are accurate.
All of the talk of not giving up is great in theory but your wife might consider it bullying and intimidation. You never know. Trust your instincts.
Sometimes being the best dad you can be means CYA'ing yourself against worst case scenarios.
Just a thought - there are plenty of toll roads around McKinney that can be used to document a car's movement. Register the car at NTTA.org to get reports. When these get matched up to cell phone records...
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:50 pm to mikelbr
quote:We used to say that about you too
fr33 better not frick this up.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:52 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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Other than watching - and maybe an occasional PI, what else could I do (besides the gps tracker)? She knows that I know. And she knows what would happen if I told her command. I hinted at such when I told her that there is no way a civilian worker in her building (she commands) would come into her office. She got the hint.
Doesn't really sound like it's worth it to do anything but maintain your posture. It's mutually assured destruction at this point. Unfortunate that you have to deal with that.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:52 pm to Spaceman Spiff
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How did you confront her on that?
You have to look out for yourself first and foremost.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 1:53 pm to volnavy
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Are you in the military?
Because, Since she is in a deployable status you get primary custody of the kids and if you have hit the 10 year mark you also get half her retirement.
So I wouldn't get her kicked out of the military if things go south.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 5:19 pm
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