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re: Should a married woman consult with her husband before cutting her hair off?
Posted on 6/5/17 at 9:54 am to Hangit
Posted on 6/5/17 at 9:54 am to Hangit
It is a super shallow and controlling thing to make a deal out of like you are making it. A person can wear their hair how they want it without the need for consultation. This isn't a major decision that bears discussion. It isn't like your spouse is going out and buying a car or house without mentioning it.
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Posted on 6/5/17 at 9:56 am to Peazey
Watch out. You'll get called a narcissist.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:02 am to Tarik One
How would my wife feel if, as a white guy, I decided to get cornrows without consulting her?
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:05 am to Aspercel
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killed her hair and she has to cut off the fried parts. Then what
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someone's wife gets cancer and loses their hair
That is not really a decision to be discussed or not. Sometimes life happens.
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Should I have kicked buzz cut husband out?
I am not aware of any deals you and your husband have. I do see how proud you are that you made your bitch aware that he was not to do it again. That post you made comes off as pretty controlling. You were sly with the heavy hand though.
Congrats?
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:08 am to Aspercel
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Watch out. You'll get called a narcissist.
The gays may have a different set of guidelines for what constitutes narcissism. I am unfamiliar with them and would not call him a narcissist based on no experience in that world.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:10 am to Peazey
My last post with the gay thing. I was just winding you and Aspercel up.
I know nothing of either of you and was just having a little fun.
Warm Breezes and blue skies,
I know nothing of either of you and was just having a little fun.
Warm Breezes and blue skies,
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:13 am to Peazey
Most aren't saying "consult" first more like have a discussion. The only time a surprise drastic change in appearance is good for a relationship built around attraction (physical attraction is a big part of the equation) is if you are fulfilling a known desire/fantasy of the partner that doesn't require discussion. If you discuss your change with your spouse, and he/she expresses displeasure in the idea, don't you think it should give you pause? Then you go and do it after said discussion, and expect happiness? Now what should a big surprise with a shite sandwich look like? I don't think communication, compromise, understanding and sacrifice has improved between the sexes much.
I also don't think as a man that it is oppressive to tell my wife that I prefer her with long hair. If she cuts her hair short, I may like it, but based on the women I see with short haircuts, I think I have a good idea that I would not be as attracted. Don't think it would effect our relationship much, but the whole idea of basically saying "screw you I'm doing it even if you don't like it" is disheartening and may raise doubts in her decision making to improve our relationship unless she had damn good reason for doing it. Also, a sudden change in appearance is a red-flag for infidelity... especially if drastic and not discussed.
It's like the old saying, "Women marry men expecting them to change, they don't. Men marry women expecting them to stay the same, they don't."
I also don't think as a man that it is oppressive to tell my wife that I prefer her with long hair. If she cuts her hair short, I may like it, but based on the women I see with short haircuts, I think I have a good idea that I would not be as attracted. Don't think it would effect our relationship much, but the whole idea of basically saying "screw you I'm doing it even if you don't like it" is disheartening and may raise doubts in her decision making to improve our relationship unless she had damn good reason for doing it. Also, a sudden change in appearance is a red-flag for infidelity... especially if drastic and not discussed.
It's like the old saying, "Women marry men expecting them to change, they don't. Men marry women expecting them to stay the same, they don't."
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:23 am to Aspercel
I get that women are pissed when a woman's physical attractiveness is the number one concern for men. It's a shame that with all women have to offer, their looks are all that counts to some men. If the tables were turned men would fail spectacularly. But men are hard-wired to be attracted to women based in large part on looks. I don't know how you combat a million years of evolutionary biology.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:25 am to Iron Lion
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Having a discussion is different than asking for permission. I've been married a long time and my wife has cut her hair fairly short a few times. We had a discussion about it and I told her I wouldn't be happy about it. She did it anyway. That's how marriage works. Asking for permission is for the kids not the spouse.
Same here. My wife asked what I thought about her cutting her hair real short, and I said I wouldn't like it. She did it anyway. She would still get mad at me afterwards when we would go somewhere and she asked me how she looked. I said stupid
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:25 am to Tigeralum2008
quote:Ehhhhh easier sure, but twisting the head and moving hair to the side is a big part of the BJ experience.
Plus it makes BJs easier for her.
This post was edited on 6/5/17 at 10:26 am
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:34 am to Tarik One
An absolute must. Mine did it and things were never the same. I felt it was just for spite since she knew that I loved it long.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:51 am to Tarik One
Obligated to tell him, no. Tell him out of respect, yes.
A few years a friend mine was at a family party and his nephew and a friend decided they were going to shave their heads. My friend made the comment that he should do that. His wife them proceed to tell him he he couldn't do it. He told his nephew to get the clippers. He shaved his head just to show his wife who the boss was.
A few years a friend mine was at a family party and his nephew and a friend decided they were going to shave their heads. My friend made the comment that he should do that. His wife them proceed to tell him he he couldn't do it. He told his nephew to get the clippers. He shaved his head just to show his wife who the boss was.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 10:52 am to 50_Tiger
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Just don't be all pissed off when your man leaves you.
If a guy leaves me because I cut my hair, it's probably best we got out of the way sooner than later.
I would probably ask his opinion on a shorter style, but it's just hair, it grows back. I've had long hair, short hair, pixie cut, blonde hair, highlights and lowlights, and nature's very own highlights. It always grows back.
Posted on 6/5/17 at 11:09 am to NoHoTiger
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If a guy leaves me because I cut my hair, it's probably best we got out of the way sooner than later.
I would probably ask his opinion on a shorter style, but it's just hair, it grows back. I've had long hair, short hair, pixie cut, blonde hair, highlights and lowlights, and nature's very own highlights. It always grows back.
I would hope as others have highlighted, that before you even get married that communication was on point and both have a general understanding of physical expectations.
I am extremely turned off by pixie cuts and short hair in general. My ideal woman at least has her hair touching her shoulder. There's so little women who can pull off the short hair cut and look exotic or attractive.
Dating on the other hand, this will happen. Women get dumped for dumb shite like this every day. I never said dating was some great thing or fair. When you are single, Winter is Coming
.Posted on 6/5/17 at 11:15 am to Tarik One
how is she going to get out of her cage without a consultation?
Posted on 6/5/17 at 11:37 am to Aspercel
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But, what if he happens to like her super blonde. Years of over processing have killed her hair and she has to cut off the fried parts. Then what? Or god forbid, someone's wife gets cancer and loses their hair. Should they have to sleep outside? This is just ridiculous.
Should I have kicked buzz cut husband out? Or is that different because he's a man? I'm adult enough to know that hair grows back.
Both different scenarios than someone doing it just to try out a hairstyle. If they need to cut their hair to repair it or because of cancer is a much different situation, would be more than understandable.
As I said before, I talked with mine before I grew out my beard. I don't believe it's a one way street. It's a courtesy thing for a open healthy relationship.
However, if you kick a spouse out for a haircut, there are other things wrong with the relationship.
This post was edited on 6/5/17 at 11:39 am
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