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Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:12 am to MasCervezas
I am divorced from reality. Happily so.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:13 am to MasCervezas
why don't you go on a trip instead and maybe when you get back you will appreciate your family more.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:14 am to Displaced
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have you tried to be proactive in making your marriage better?
Speaking for myself my wife wrecked 3 vehicles in one year and the last one she was drinking and totaled with my kids in the car.
Picked them up at the scene as she was being taken away in ambulance and drove straight to my lawyer.
In hindsight I'm positive I saved their lives because her life has continued to be a shitstorm 8 years later while I'm married to my dream woman now.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:14 am to lsusteve1
hand up. if there are children or lots of assets involved yes, and get a good one.
the first advice I'd have is that if it's something stupid like you pissing on the toilet seat or her playing Farmville all the time; get over it and work your shite out.
in my divorce, my ex and I both spend money on lawyers we didn't really have and in the end still hammered out the settlement sitting on the front porch one evening. Advice: don't let someone charging you $400/hr bait you into doing what's right and fair.
the first advice I'd have is that if it's something stupid like you pissing on the toilet seat or her playing Farmville all the time; get over it and work your shite out.
in my divorce, my ex and I both spend money on lawyers we didn't really have and in the end still hammered out the settlement sitting on the front porch one evening. Advice: don't let someone charging you $400/hr bait you into doing what's right and fair.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:14 am to CorkSoaker
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Seems like you have no idea how much this is going to cost you. I bet you change your mind once you find out how screwed you are going to get after all is said and done.
Exactly. Run the numbers. I know two guys who had reality checks and decided to go back to their wives.
Child support is expensive and divorce is hard on kids regardless of age.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:15 am to MasCervezas
Divorce is relatively simply. Louisiana provides for no-fault divorce. The ancillary issues (such as custody, support and community property partition) are what gets complicated. There are different types of divorce, but basically speaking, in order to get a final divorce decree, you must wait one year if you have children, or 6 months if you don't have any children. A lawyer would be highly recommended.
This post was edited on 10/2/14 at 10:17 am
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:17 am to CAD703X
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Speaking for myself my wife wrecked 3 vehicles in one year and the last one she was drinking and totaled with my kids in the car.
Yeah, I wouldn't have been talking to you the same way I'm talking to the OP. You did what you had to do. But there is no indication of this type of shite with the OP.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:17 am to Bistineaubengal
Don't let the money make your decision for you bro. Happiness doesn't have a price. I was terrified of child support when my ex left but I stayed diligent, got a got a good atty, fought for and got what was then equal time with my boys, highly bringing down the support #'s.
Now they both live with me full time.
Now they both live with me full time.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:18 am to Bistineaubengal
quote:That is no reason to live unhappy, though. The caveat is an amicable split and remaining civil with the expouse and continuing to coparent.
Child support is expensive and divorce is hard on kids regardless of age.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:19 am to bamarep
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in my divorce, my ex and I both spend money on lawyers we didn't really have and in the end still hammered out the settlement sitting on the front porch one evening.
As it should be. Lawyers should not be necessary for a divorce if people are reasonable.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:20 am to Artie Rome
I agree with you. I wanted to make it work.. I tried everything because I am not a quitter but I changed my tune real quick when shite spilled onto my kids. I think my divorce might have gone down as one of the worst in Nashville.
It's bad when judge calls for a special session just for you and starts out saying "this is the first time a divorce case actually kept me up all night"
I done my time in hell.
This post was edited on 10/2/14 at 10:22 am
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:20 am to MasCervezas
quote:This is exactly where I was a few months ago. Still fighting thru the settlement stuff. There's light at the end of the tunnel. And after it's all played out...you'll realize that it's worth it.
no, just realized i can't stand her
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:22 am to MasCervezas
I've had more than 1 divorce.
Times vary depending on everything: kids, who's filing, how pyscho she is, etc.
If you want the divorce, FIRST thing to do is determine if the marriage is salvageable. IF not tell her you want a divorce and why. She MAY make the process easier but don't count on it.
Times vary depending on everything: kids, who's filing, how pyscho she is, etc.
If you want the divorce, FIRST thing to do is determine if the marriage is salvageable. IF not tell her you want a divorce and why. She MAY make the process easier but don't count on it.
This post was edited on 10/2/14 at 10:24 am
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:22 am to TigerPanzer
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I am divorced from reality. Happily so.
Yep. I focus most of my time on my child, ignore most of what my wife says, and things are going great.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:26 am to The Sad Banana
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The Sad Banana
you get a divorce? that the reason for name change?
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:28 am to Wtodd
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If you want the divorce, FIRST thing to do is determine if the marriage is salvageable.
I am not speaking from experience, but wouldn't the OP want to contact a good attorney and/or CPA before even bringing it up to his wife? Seems to me like a little estate planning is needed before opening pandora's box.
This post was edited on 10/2/14 at 10:29 am
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:31 am to yellowfin
Name change was for work reasons as my old name was fairly obvious. I just thought the guy could use some sound logic here.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:32 am to Black n Gold
Before getting divorced, think about some other man raising your kids half the time, BEST case scenario.
Posted on 10/2/14 at 10:33 am to Black n Gold
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I am not speaking from experience, but wouldn't the OP want to contact a good attorney and/or CPA before even bringing it up to his wife? Seems to me like a little estate planning is needed before opening pandora's box.
1st the OP needs to determine IF he wants to salvage the marriage from his standpoint. If he's not happy, he needs to find out WHY he's not happy, i.e. is he not getting ANY at home so he's looking elsewhere and found someone that treats him better (this is just an example). Bringing it up to his wife won't change what will happen later as far as child/spousal support, who gets what, etc; he will get fricked!
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