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re: Gaming addiction ...this is a epidemic
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:23 am to CorporateTiger
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:23 am to CorporateTiger
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I also love the notion of a bunch of people who spend significant amounts of free time posting on a message board (and probably watching TV) being upset their kids are way into electronics
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Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:31 am to MSMHater
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So fricking stupid! What does that even mean? OP, like me, basically admitted that the kid does what he's supposed to. He's got good grades, some extracurriculars, behaves well, etc...
But his preferred method of fun is drastically different then what we did as kids, or what some of the other kids are doing. So where is his lack of "parenting" coming in? B/c we perceive riding bikes and digging in ditches to be more rewarding for his development than 1 hour of gaming? Why?
Most parents tend to parent based on their own personal life experiences. But there are things available now that weren't available to us. That doesn't' make them inherently worse/better. Just like the shite we did isn't necessarily worse/better. I think it's fighting a losing battle to try and turn your kid into what YOU imagine they should be, and enjoy, as children.
I agree, the OP's concern over this shows me that he is parenting. Being a parent is a lot more than barking orders and exerting your authority.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:32 am to el Gaucho
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Honestly game consoles are much better than iPads. My friend is a child psychiatrist and he calls them psychopads. All the kids that come in for future serial killer behavior like starting fires and hurting other kids the parents basically just let them look at an iPad when they went places instead of loving them and talking to them
If you pay attention to the families with the kids on iPad all the time, the kid runs the fricking show. They are usually little shuts because the parents handed the keys to their brain over to an iPad. And then they are clueless as to why the kids misbehave... If they even notice it at all.
This post was edited on 3/5/18 at 10:34 am
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:37 am to Willie Stroker
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Separate correlation from causation
Leave science to the scientists
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:40 am to ApexTiger
I'd rather my son play fortnite then wanting to change his gender or being hopped up on pills.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:50 am to RogerTheShrubber
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Nothing wrong with a kid who likes to spend a lot of his/her free time gaming. It's when it's about all they do it's a problem. It can be an addiction like many other activities.
Not at all, just saying when it's every waking hour of free-time, it becomes destructive, especially down the road. I have an addictive personality of sorts, so it was definitely an issue at one time for me. Luckily, I recognized it and gave away my gaming systems. It was just an easy way to escape life when things got stressful.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:51 am to reo45
quote:We had an Atari in the 70s which was the birth but I know what you mean. Games were more fun in the 80s.
I grew up in the birth of home game systems with my first Nintendo in the late 80's around 88'
However it wasn't till the early 2000s that I got addicted with PCs.
This thread, dreamed last night that my mom was mad at me for playing too much tho a parent never was IRL. Haven't played a game in years.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 10:53 am to Big_Slim
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They are extremely addicting and it's one hobby that has no actual return for your time investment. People could get entire degrees with the hours some of them sink into games
One hobby that does not have a return on investment. Dude most hobbies dont have a return on investment.Its a past time activity that you do for enjoyment. That being said you can make money off gaming in lots of ways if you put the time in.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:00 am to Yat27
it kinda sucks knowing that no matter how good I get at anything in life, wasting my time on call of duty will end up being the best I’ll ever be at anything. It was honestly a sight to behold looking back on it I used to play with the same 5 guys in team deathmatch all day every day and our KD’s ranged from 3.5 to a legitimate 6.5. That’s kinda the trick to getting a 2+ KD anyway, just gotta play with a full team of really good people and it makes your life way easier lol
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:01 am to ApexTiger
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This is about personal development and growing
No, it's about parental engagement. It's easier as a parent to allow your child to sit down in front of the T.V. play on your phone, or play a video game.
It takes zero interaction, zero work, and allows you to accomplish your other items that need done after work.
That doesn't mean it's right, or healthy though. There are 50 things you could take your child out an expose him to in an evening, but it takes time and work.
I'm not trying to sound holier than thou, I struggle with the same shite, the reality is though we can guide and help develop, we just have to put in the effort.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:09 am to TennesseeFan25
Well I appreciate your comments I feel like my entire life is surrounded with the kid activities...
Our children attend private Christian School I'm driving to school everyday pick him up everyday take him to golf practice take my daughter to cheer practice take them to church feel like a taxi driver and I run my own business so we're both worn out
Our children attend private Christian School I'm driving to school everyday pick him up everyday take him to golf practice take my daughter to cheer practice take them to church feel like a taxi driver and I run my own business so we're both worn out
This post was edited on 3/5/18 at 11:11 am
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:12 am to AUsteriskPride
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Not at all, just saying when it's every waking hour of free-time, it becomes destructive, especially down the road. I have an addictive personality of sorts, so it was definitely an issue at one time for me. Luckily, I recognized it and gave away my gaming systems. It was just an easy way to escape life when things got stressful.
There are gaming addictions, but the OP said his kid otherwise functions normally and is even excelling in school.
I played a hell of a lot of video games when I was his age. I would've played more if I could. As an adult I could play as much as I want but guess what, I started becoming interested in women, and I developed other hobbies as well as new responsibilities.
The fact that the kid is doing well in school is a good indicator that he doesn't have an addiction and he is able to prioritize. He just doesn't prioritize rolling around in the dirt like maybe his father did. I did when I was in elementary school but as soon as video games became more prominent, I didn't go outside as much.
This post was edited on 3/5/18 at 11:14 am
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:15 am to ApexTiger
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so we're both worn out
And I appreciate that, like I said, I struggle with that as well.
That's just being a part though. You listed your duties as a taxi driver... what meaningful impact does that have on your children? Hopefully you guys have your little talks and bonding moments in the car, but ultimately that's just a transit from one activity to another for your kids.
Being involved, taking him to the driving range on Tuesday and Thursday after golf, etc etc lots of those little things that we can do, but just "can't because we don't have time."
We have to work to give our kids and family a life, not make work our life.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:19 am to TennesseeFan25
Plus OP said he’s 15. If your 15 year old (freshman-sophomore in high school, depending on birthday) is playing outside in the dirt, I think you should be more worried about that than a video game.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:22 am to TennesseeFan25
My parents never did all for me..
My old man worked...
Mom dropped me off...
I just feel overwhelmed to do everything and be a dad who has all this spare time...my kids are teens, Ive banked plenty of time when they were young...now they want independence
I enjoy driving my kids here and there...when my wife starts pushing my buttons, I start to resent this feeling of being disrespected or under appreciated.
The bottom line is you can't be a dictator when they're in their teen years you have to be a person of influence.
All I'm saying is it's a struggle...
It's worse when you and your wife begin to fight over this stuff
My old man worked...
Mom dropped me off...
I just feel overwhelmed to do everything and be a dad who has all this spare time...my kids are teens, Ive banked plenty of time when they were young...now they want independence
I enjoy driving my kids here and there...when my wife starts pushing my buttons, I start to resent this feeling of being disrespected or under appreciated.
The bottom line is you can't be a dictator when they're in their teen years you have to be a person of influence.
All I'm saying is it's a struggle...
It's worse when you and your wife begin to fight over this stuff
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:22 am to ApexTiger
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He said "we stayed alive, I didn't start a new game
Tried that on my girlfriend last night, and she asked me why my character was different.
But OP, my friends and I probably played COD from 6-11 every school night after practice for whatever sports season it was, and I turned out okay. I knew if I ever screwed up behaviorally or got a C on a test the first thing being taken away was my Xbox, that motivated me more to stay on my crap than some arbitrary time limits.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:23 am to ThuperThumpin
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Dude most hobbies dont have a return on investment.Its a past time activity that you do for enjoyment
It’s not like the fatasses I see at Top Golf are gonna be on the PGA any time soon. Nor are most people who play an instrument going to do it professionally.
People who are lucky enough to make some money off their hobby should be very thankful.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:43 am to ApexTiger
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I enjoy driving my kids here and there...when my wife starts pushing my buttons, I start to resent this feeling of being disrespected or under appreciated.
Have you talked to her about it?
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:50 am to ApexTiger
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My parents never did all for me..
My old man worked...
Mom dropped me off...
So despite my initial criticism, I was raised much like your kid. My advice and this is strictly from experience as the kid and now in my 30s, engage him more in home improvement, outdoor work, and vehicle maintenance.
My father did some but never made it interesting or taught me much. He had limited time so left me inside playing video games and not helping.
Fixing things and building things helps stimulate many of the same areas video games do, which is strategy, patterns, problem solving, etc.
The kid is only going to get out what you're willing to put in the time to teach him.
My dad used to sit outside and drink coffee in the mornings on weekends and we'd plan what we needed to get done. I suggest spending time with the kid and finding his interest and then inviting him to join you in whatever you decide to pursue.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:51 am to cattus
I definitely could have gone for atari and also this other gaming system called, bare with me now, Tandy TRS-80 Color Computer by DynaMicro. We played that and Poltergeist. I must have been 4. Scared the shite out of me playing those two games.
Just as you mentioned it really became as common to households as the family dog or cat when Nintendo came along. Why I used that time frame.
Still dont know why times have changed though. We didnt have to be forced out of the house, we did ao willingly and enjoyed it very much more than gaming. At night after playing all day we would all come home and play double dragon and mega man, battletoads, sonic hedgehog, street fighter, contra, metroid, ninja gaiden. Kid icarus, tysons punch out, f-zero, mortal kombat, etc...
Just as you mentioned it really became as common to households as the family dog or cat when Nintendo came along. Why I used that time frame.
Still dont know why times have changed though. We didnt have to be forced out of the house, we did ao willingly and enjoyed it very much more than gaming. At night after playing all day we would all come home and play double dragon and mega man, battletoads, sonic hedgehog, street fighter, contra, metroid, ninja gaiden. Kid icarus, tysons punch out, f-zero, mortal kombat, etc...
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