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re: Just got served divorce papers today
Posted on 7/14/15 at 4:47 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Posted on 7/14/15 at 4:47 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Child support out the a**!
But really good luck to you man. Go out and get some young college babe. Little bit of rebound love never hurts
But really good luck to you man. Go out and get some young college babe. Little bit of rebound love never hurts
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Posted on 7/14/15 at 4:53 am to SoulGlo
I'm so glad that I didn't get married or have kids with any of the ex girlfriends. There was 1 that I would have married,(OT 8.7) but that's over now.
I dodged some bullets too with that. Like neo in the matrix but yeah, some people can handle that kind of shite. I feel I've already dealt with too much in life, and it's hard enough already, to go through life being a decent person in this world. If I had to deal with the kind of shite the OP is talking, everyone would see me on the news. And there would probably be a 20+ page thread with a couple bans.
I dodged some bullets too with that. Like neo in the matrix but yeah, some people can handle that kind of shite. I feel I've already dealt with too much in life, and it's hard enough already, to go through life being a decent person in this world. If I had to deal with the kind of shite the OP is talking, everyone would see me on the news. And there would probably be a 20+ page thread with a couple bans.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 4:57 am
Posted on 7/14/15 at 5:24 am to SoulGlo
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Emotion, and all actions that typically occur as a result of them, should be left completely out of it.
Truth. Treat it as a business transaction and hope she makes it emotional. The number of children are going to be a big problem. Thankfully I didn't have that.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 5:32 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
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Been in counseling for 18 months. Every time the focus get too hot on her she decides to either change or has "scheduling" issues.
If this is true, what's done is done. Chances are the bullying excuse is just that. You don't just up and decide after 7 kids and 23 years that someone is a bully.
Chances are she's cheating. I'd take others advice and hire a PI. It can only help your situation.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 5:48 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
There is another man in the mix somehow.
Do not ever be alone with her again. She will accuse you of assaulting her to get an advantage in the divorce.
Do not ever be alone with her again. She will accuse you of assaulting her to get an advantage in the divorce.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 5:50 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
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Says she is afraid of me and I bully her. Never, ever raised a hand to her or even came close to doing so.
Do you talk down to her? Do you control her? Do you curse at her? There are different actions and attitudes that are attributed to bullying other than physically... I feel there's more to the story... Do you have an anger problem or are you an aggressive person? Just questions that would shine a little light on the subject...
Posted on 7/14/15 at 5:52 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Don't waste your time with counseling. It's expensive and she'll just use the time to continue her affair on your dime, stash money/assets, or build a case against you. The woman you loved and married is gone and she certainly doesn't consider you the same man she married. It's over.
Don't kid yourself and think it stops after the divorce is finalized. When she's not living the fantasy life she thought she would, she'll blame you and come looking for more $upport in more court proceedings.
If you got served out of Collin County, there is an appendix to the divorce papers called Standing Orders for Collin County or something like that. Read those items and make sure you don't break any of the rules or she can come down on you. Conversely, you can use them against her.
Like someone else said, prepare to be poor, especially in the short term. My ex was a shopaholic who blew through our money so my finances are looking better as a single parent. The thing that hurts financially is losing half of the retirement funds. She just sentenced you to having to work a lot longer than you planned.
You don't have to consider her your enemy but she sure is not your friend. Be a good dad and always be aware that emails, texts, written notes, TD posts, etc can appear in court.
Don't kid yourself and think it stops after the divorce is finalized. When she's not living the fantasy life she thought she would, she'll blame you and come looking for more $upport in more court proceedings.
If you got served out of Collin County, there is an appendix to the divorce papers called Standing Orders for Collin County or something like that. Read those items and make sure you don't break any of the rules or she can come down on you. Conversely, you can use them against her.
Like someone else said, prepare to be poor, especially in the short term. My ex was a shopaholic who blew through our money so my finances are looking better as a single parent. The thing that hurts financially is losing half of the retirement funds. She just sentenced you to having to work a lot longer than you planned.
You don't have to consider her your enemy but she sure is not your friend. Be a good dad and always be aware that emails, texts, written notes, TD posts, etc can appear in court.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:04 am to BobABooey
As said above, leave emotion out of it. With the divorce, treat it like a business deal where you know the other side is out to screw you. Protect yourself - and in doing so you can better help the kids.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:06 am to fr33manator
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Look friend. You don't want to hear this, I know. But a woman doesn't just up and jump ship without at least a lifeboat ready.
She's cheating.
Hopefully Muppet didn't strike again.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:06 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Situations like this piss me off
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:10 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
This may sound impolite, and I'm sorry if it does because you're obviously going through something bad, but I wouldn't be logging onto message boards and talking about this if I were you. Time for you to lean on your real life family and friends.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:11 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
7 kids , she's probably tired. Sorry man , that's got to suck. Fight like hell for the kids well being
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:13 am to stout
4 pages in and not a request of pictures of ex wife? The OT is loosing it. 
OP, sorry to hear this. No matter what the out come is, always make your life for your kids first as any great Dad would do.
OP, sorry to hear this. No matter what the out come is, always make your life for your kids first as any great Dad would do.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:16 am to stout
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Hopefully Muppet didn't strike again.
Thought the same thing. Dude is still bitter as frick towards women.
What cracks me up about this thread is the only possible explanation for the divorce is that the wife is cheating. She's an awful person.
....yet, we've only heard from one side of the couple and that side could be sugarcoating the frick out of just one reason they're splitting.
Who's to say that the OP is a complete prick IRL? I can't buy into this woe is me shtick because you never know the parts he's leaving out.
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 6:18 am
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:19 am to fishfighter
Sounds like she needs to be on medication. I bet she would be a totally different person. Kids can mess a woman up in the head going through that many pregnancies.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:19 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
You're gonna be eating ramen noodles after you get done paying child support.
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:33 am to BobABooey
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Don't waste your time with counseling. It's expensive and she'll just use the time to continue her affair on your dime, stash money/assets, or build a case against you. The woman you loved and married is gone and she certainly doesn't consider you the same man she married. It's over. Don't kid yourself and think it stops after the divorce is finalized. When she's not living the fantasy life she thought she would, she'll blame you and come looking for more $upport in more court proceedings. If you got served out of Collin County, there is an appendix to the divorce papers called Standing Orders for Collin County or something like that. Read those items and make sure you don't break any of the rules or she can come down on you. Conversely, you can use them against her. Like someone else said, prepare to be poor, especially in the short term. My ex was a shopaholic who blew through our money so my finances are looking better as a single parent. The thing that hurts financially is losing half of the retirement funds. She just sentenced you to having to work a lot longer than you planned. You don't have to consider her your enemy but she sure is not your friend. Be a good dad and always be aware that emails, texts, written notes, TD posts, etc can appear in court.
That's gotta be tough after 23 years to just flip a switch into that mode... But, I think that's probably the best option. Then again, I'm not in your shoes...
Prayers up for you bud.. Terrible situation
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:35 am to yellowfin
Look friend. You don't want to hear this, I know. But a woman doesn't just up and jump ship without at least a lifeboat ready.
She's cheating. If she isn't, she will be. I've seen the pattern from both sides of the coin. And the sooner you swallow that bitter truth, the better off you'll be. Get the emotion out of the way because at the end of the day you have to man up and be above her bullshite.
Best of luck. Lawyer up. Life ain't over.
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that's pretty close to it.
take the high road for the kids, her BS will pass. But she is about to turn into the devil herself. This person you used to know, is about to act a whole lot different.... So get ready.
the next important thing is who she's dating, and that your kids are treated well.
very few marriages are making it now, just add this one to the list. my cousin's high school sweetheart and marriage of 24 years just went down the drain this week, she left....
She's cheating. If she isn't, she will be. I've seen the pattern from both sides of the coin. And the sooner you swallow that bitter truth, the better off you'll be. Get the emotion out of the way because at the end of the day you have to man up and be above her bullshite.
Best of luck. Lawyer up. Life ain't over.
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that's pretty close to it.
take the high road for the kids, her BS will pass. But she is about to turn into the devil herself. This person you used to know, is about to act a whole lot different.... So get ready.
the next important thing is who she's dating, and that your kids are treated well.
very few marriages are making it now, just add this one to the list. my cousin's high school sweetheart and marriage of 24 years just went down the drain this week, she left....
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:44 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Man this really sucks I'm sorry to hear this. Hopefully this isn't just an out for her bc she's been seeing someone on the side. If she has an you can prove it you can probably get full custody of the kids
Also don't you have to live separately for a year before you can go through with a divorce since yall have kids?
Also don't you have to live separately for a year before you can go through with a divorce since yall have kids?
This post was edited on 7/14/15 at 6:45 am
Posted on 7/14/15 at 6:44 am to Mid Iowa Tiger
Sounds like she has watched gone girl too many times
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