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Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:05 pm to liz18lsu
quote:We've gotten far away from that. I was responding to the idiot who thinks children are essential to a happy, fulfilling life.
I merely wanted to know how you decided, chose, made a conscious choice to have that child. Were you scared? Was it a mistake that turned in to a blessing?
To answer your question, it wasn't just "a decision" for us. When dating, we spoke about the possibility of kids. Neither of us were set on it or even a specific number. But both felt it would eventually happen when we felt that need.
About 3 years into marriage, we spoke about when the right time would be. My wife runs marathons, so we waited to start trying until she was through with her scheduled races. Even at this point, there's no guarantee something happens. When it does, you have 8/7 months to be scared/excited/anxious only to realize those feelings never go away.
As he gets older there's always something new. Good experiences, bad experiences. So far the good has vastly outweighed the bad. It was a blessing from the start.
Will there be a 2nd? IDK. We aren't the type to plan out every aspect of our lives until necessary. We've talked about it though and again, there's a time we're looking at to start again.
I'm extremely happy with my family. Without them, I'd be missing out on some great experiences. But the same can be said in the reverse. Without getting married or having a kid, I could have done other things which I'm now "missing out on". There's no right or wrong generally speaking.
This post was edited on 12/27/15 at 6:08 pm
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:06 pm to Lsupimp
you're an inspiration to us all.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:06 pm to Lsupimp
quote:I am not reading anywhere that YOU wanted kids. That is the entire discussion. Nobody gives a shite how well or not that you have done with your kids.
My wife told me she wanted kids when we were dating. My parents were divorced, I essentially raised myself, so I approached it like a man would.
Your seems to be a path of destiny martyrdom than an actual life plan and desire for children.
This post was edited on 12/27/15 at 6:07 pm
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:07 pm to Lsupimp
I'll give it another go....
Pics?
Pics?
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:11 pm to ell_13
ell_13 - That was eloquent, thank you. I was contemplating how terrifying it must be (my weak genes could never do it) and thinking of not only the superficial things (the whining and crying) but supporting another human, and the potential for tragedy (my grandparents have lost two daughters). And I wondered how much thought went in to the actual thought of creating offspring. They are a burden, but as most have said, a worthwhile one. Cheers to all the brave parents 
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:13 pm to liz18lsu
quote:
I am almost 35.
Well you probably don't have to worry about anyone wanting to procreate with you much longer, so take comfort in that.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:14 pm to liz18lsu
Are you married?
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:14 pm to uway
quote:
Well you probably don't have to worry about anyone wanting to procreate with you much longer, so take comfort in that.
Hahahahahahahahaha....ummmmm yeah
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:15 pm to liz18lsu
So glad I fricked up and got pregnant young. I never wanted kids either. They're very annoying for the most part
But somehow I had the coolest kid ever and I've never experienced anything that comes close to the joy he brings me daily
But somehow I had the coolest kid ever and I've never experienced anything that comes close to the joy he brings me daily
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:15 pm to uway
quote:
Well you probably don't have to worry about anyone wanting to procreate with you much longer, so take comfort in that.
She's got a solid 25 years left before I wouldn't beat buns.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:20 pm to ell_13
quote:
Are you married?
No I am not. I have performed several ceremonies (don't ask, friends wanted an easy wedding). Because of my profession, I resent marriage being a contractual (legal) document. I think it should be about the couple, and I believe people lose sight of that. When you look look at marriage contracts, and dowries, it becomes less about love and more about a financial move. I think that has changed a lot, in modern times.
I enjoy my relationship. I am in no rush to run to the government to make it official. Not knocking people who do. I may be lazy.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:22 pm to liz18lsu
So your significant other wants to have kids? Tell us more about your life.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:23 pm to Brian12
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So your significant other wants to have kids? Tell us more about your life.
Keep up, Brian. Stated earlier that he doesn't.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:23 pm to Rouge
Of course I wanted kids. That's kind of the point, right? The reality of being a parent was different than I thought.I was worried if I would be up to it. Would I be patient? Would I have a bad temper? And then it was all just intuitive and natural and easy. To me at this point, it's like I get to be part of their life, it's a gift they have given me instead of that traditional idea that a parent "supports" the kids and the kids are a whiny drag. My life has been improved immeasurably.
Not sure why that pisses people off so much. Ya'll so madz.
Not sure why that pisses people off so much. Ya'll so madz.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:24 pm to liz18lsu
quote:wtf
dowries
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:24 pm to liz18lsu
No one I know who's married did it for legal reasons... Signing the license was an afterthought to making an "official" pact.
My point was going to be that a marriage isn't much different. There's a ton of burden that comes with it so it takes a certain commitment. And again, it's not a decision that's just made one day or in a single moment.
My point was going to be that a marriage isn't much different. There's a ton of burden that comes with it so it takes a certain commitment. And again, it's not a decision that's just made one day or in a single moment.
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Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:25 pm to liz18lsu
Then stay single forever dude.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:26 pm to Lsupimp
quote:
Lsupimp
Because you have been a pompous asshat describing your love of being a parent. Even other parents are calling you out.
Posted on 12/27/15 at 6:27 pm to Paige
quote:
wtf
C'mon, fathers were so excited to be rid of their female children that they gave property to a man to take the woman off of their hands. Men accepted in hopes of a male child and the shite the dad was giving them. Barbaric? Yup. People were pissed they had girls.
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