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re: Dealing with Teenage daughters
Posted on 5/29/24 at 11:29 am to GreenRockTiger
Posted on 5/29/24 at 11:29 am to GreenRockTiger
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Boys mostly are much easier to raise.
they are NOT!! That’s just some bullshite men spit out to make themselves feel better
They actually are easier and the proof is in adult behavior where a well adjusted man is not easily offended, does things he would prefer not to do because they need to be done and above everything takes care of his family. The same well adjusted woman is generally accepted to be one who is not demonstrably insane.
There is a simple reason for this. Men have to work at getting laid while any woman can do so anytime the urge hits. A man would hard pressed to earn a living fricking....almost any woman bent that way could. That means that a boy has fewer choices...either toe the line until they can make their own way in life or leave and make it on their wit and grit. Neither is easy. A girl, on the other hand, can find exactly what it is she is in need of - food, shelter, entertainment, merely by being willing to frick whoever is footing the bill. The immediate results is she is getting what she wants....in the long run the price is WAAAYYYYYY more than it cost the boy to make his own way and the girl, for the most part, has only learned to be bitter and hateful while the boy learned how to succeed on his own merits. That is a very dim view of the world I know but it makes raising daughters infinitely more difficult. Raising an emotionally stable strong woman in our society is infinitely more difficult than it is to do the same for a boy because all too many people are willing to step in and tell a girl what she wants to hear while no one wants a teen aged boy around except his parents if he is lucky.
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Posted on 5/29/24 at 11:36 am to AwgustaDawg
Yeah, you’re wrong and your reasoning is stupid
Not everything is about the quest for getting laid and obtaining possessions.
Never once in my parenting have I thought - oh daughter, you don’t have to pick up dishes because it’ll be easier for you to get laid when you’re older
frick off
Not everything is about the quest for getting laid and obtaining possessions.
Never once in my parenting have I thought - oh daughter, you don’t have to pick up dishes because it’ll be easier for you to get laid when you’re older
frick off
Posted on 5/29/24 at 11:36 am to AwgustaDawg
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This post was edited on 9/11/25 at 6:50 am
Posted on 5/29/24 at 11:40 am to BluegrassCardinal
quote:sorry you're going through that. i have a daughter (3) and dread this happening to me.
Pretty hurtful thing to say and hit me in the heart pretty hard. She’s talking to the Air Force recruiter soon, and, frankly, I think it’s best she sign up and hopefully grow up in the process.
I almost joined the navy in 04 but didn't due to my mom being super depressed about it. to this day i wish i did i needed structure i didn't have at home.
i hope she can find what she needs and grows up.
but i do know she said that to hurt you. that girl loves you more than anything.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 11:47 am to BluegrassCardinal
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I think this is going to be a long summer and we are gonna butt heads often
This is a pretty common thing the summer after HS graduation. The kids are trying to muster up the courage to leave, so they become big know-it-alls in the process. It's like they're trying to break up with us.
That being said 11 is a tad early to be home for that age, but I also wouldn't want my daughter out on the roads by herself later than that, or at 11 really either.
In 2-ish months she'll be moving out. It might be better to just wade through each event as it comes while y'all are still around to help her navigate situations from a safety perspective.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:02 pm to SmelvinRat
quote:My sisters had everything paid for by my father for their college. My dad expected the boys to pay their own way. My dad basically told me I had to figure it out, lol. It’s funny to me how times change. I didn’t even think about it at the time. It’s just what was expected of young men in my family. I was not coddled even 1 time, lol.
Yep. I have a 20 year old daughter that started this around age 18 because I wouldn't pay for everything. It's been a rough two years, but I've done what I thought was reasonable, fair, and correct. And of course, she thinks that her mother can do no wrong. Welcome to the club...
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:06 pm to BluegrassCardinal
Your 17 year old daughter who graduated high school wants to spend the night with her friend. Who gives a shite if the bf is there. Time to stop being a helicopter parent.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:09 pm to tigersownall
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17 year old daughter who graduated high school wants to spend the night with her friend
her friend was wanting the D, not a third wheel, OP’s daughter had a hookup with some D too, don’t be evian
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:16 pm to Indfanfromcol
My ex (her mom) says I have to be the adult not her friend because I let her pick out her outfits ( nothing crazy just a shirt and shorts that may not match), I let her pick our dinner and I apparently don’t discipline her.
In reality, I let her come up with her own style ( even if it’s laughable), I never have her throw a tantrum ( even though I say no a lot), and if she get in trouble with her mom all it takes is call your dad.
I dread teen years just hope I raised her the best I can.
In reality, I let her come up with her own style ( even if it’s laughable), I never have her throw a tantrum ( even though I say no a lot), and if she get in trouble with her mom all it takes is call your dad.
I dread teen years just hope I raised her the best I can.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:18 pm to BluegrassCardinal
Wait, she is just now telling you that? I have one daughter and she has been saying that she hates my guts for years. I just fear for those guys that have 3 daughters. My first thought goes to “oh shite, he has to pay for 3 weddings”
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:20 pm to rockford177
quote:I wonder if dads of lesbians getting married split the cost
My first thought goes to “oh shite, he has to pay for 3 weddings”
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:41 pm to AwgustaDawg
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A man would hard pressed to earn a living fricking....almost any woman bent that way could
this is either the most monumentally myopic and intellectually lazy take possible or I was seriously bamboozled by my high school guidance counselors... sex was never presented as an option for my future.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:52 pm to rockford177
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Wait, she is just now telling you that? I have one daughter and she has been saying that she hates my guts for years. I just fear for those guys that have 3 daughters. My first thought goes to “oh shite, he has to pay for 3 weddings”
Yeah the brides parents pay for weddings thing is basically dead below upper middle class, so punting on it isn't a big deal.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:55 pm to BluegrassCardinal
Have a 17 year old. Mine is now trying to back out of where she was planning to go to college. Yes there is a boy involved that is a great kid but I cannot let her do that. Had a great sit down with her for once and gave her a days heads up we would be having one. Tears were flowing.
I will tell you this though and I told my buddy going through a divorce this. The key to being a parent is very simple.
Be consistent.
Be the one when if shite hits the fan they call you first.
Consistency is the key there.
My situation is still not resolved with the college stuff. We ended the conversation for now but I heard her out and told her where I am coming from.
Not sure what else I can do. Just let what I said set in for now.
I will tell you this though and I told my buddy going through a divorce this. The key to being a parent is very simple.
Be consistent.
Be the one when if shite hits the fan they call you first.
Consistency is the key there.
My situation is still not resolved with the college stuff. We ended the conversation for now but I heard her out and told her where I am coming from.
Not sure what else I can do. Just let what I said set in for now.
This post was edited on 5/29/24 at 1:05 pm
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:56 pm to Slagathor
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sex was never presented as an option for my future.
I happen to be a guidance counselor,
sorry your school didn't provide full service counseling
Posted on 5/29/24 at 12:59 pm to Czechessential
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sorry your school didn't provide full service counseling
oh they did
I just realized I'm really really ugly
Posted on 5/29/24 at 1:01 pm to Slagathor
quote:you should have gone to a better school. My daughters have Mrs. degrees and actual degrees to fall back on in case their hooha fails.
I was seriously bamboozled by my high school guidance counselors... sex was never presented as an option for my future.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 1:05 pm to Slagathor
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oh they did
jk
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I just realized I'm really really ugly
doubt that
Posted on 5/29/24 at 1:19 pm to BluegrassCardinal
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Her 18 year old friend and her have been friends since third grade. Her friends bf ( where they were going to crash) is 20, with his buddies close by.
Not happening.
My daughter is only 4 so I have no idea how I would react to the situation you mentioned but she is about to go to college (or the air force) and be on her own. I think you should trust her to make good decisions unless she has proven otherwise. When she is on her own she is gonna do what she wants and you are just making the poor choices that much more attractive.
A good portion of the girls that run wild as freshman in college are rebelling against their strict parents. The other portion were never taught morals by their parents.
Posted on 5/29/24 at 1:20 pm to Bert Macklin FBI
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A good portion of the girls that run wild as freshman in college are rebelling against their strict parents. The other portion were never taught morals by their parents.
so you're saying it doesn't matter what you do?
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