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re: I'm not crazy, you're crazy - Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:02 am to Sam Quint
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:02 am to Sam Quint
Accusations from a narcissist (or cluster B disordered person, i.e. BPD) are actually confessions. She's probably gaslighting you, and it worked, because now you think it might be you who is the crazy one. I've heard good things about the book I Hate You, Don't Leave Me.
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Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:03 am to Sam Quint
BPD never gets better.
Removing yourself from the situation is the only solution
Removing yourself from the situation is the only solution
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:03 am to USMCguy121
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This post was edited on 5/26/24 at 2:38 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:05 am to Sam Quint
I dated a girl for 5 years with borderline and found at at around the 3 year mark. The mood swings were very difficult to deal with as well as depressive episodes and lashing out at others. She was a nice person but could become irritable, inconsolable, and prone to impulse. It's not an easy road to travel
Also dated a girl who is undiagnosed but had severe signs of either BPD or NPD and would gaslight the hell out of me, was verbally abusive, and occasionally physically abusive. She was raised in the Christian Science religion and I think the physical neglect (lack of modern medicine) in her childhood caused some deep trauma. This one really messed me up as she was very intelligent and manipulated, gaslit, and convinced me that everything she ever did or said was justified by my behavior. It really twisted me mentally and I am still struggling to recover
Somehow I always find the crazy ones
Also dated a girl who is undiagnosed but had severe signs of either BPD or NPD and would gaslight the hell out of me, was verbally abusive, and occasionally physically abusive. She was raised in the Christian Science religion and I think the physical neglect (lack of modern medicine) in her childhood caused some deep trauma. This one really messed me up as she was very intelligent and manipulated, gaslit, and convinced me that everything she ever did or said was justified by my behavior. It really twisted me mentally and I am still struggling to recover
Somehow I always find the crazy ones
This post was edited on 2/15/23 at 11:11 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:05 am to RockyMtnTigerWDE
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My daughter was diagnosed with this and the therapy made her worse. I do not trust this diagnosis and never did.
it's true that people, especially children, are often misdiagnosed, but it seems like you are in denial over this, BPD, or being bi-polar is a real thing, I used to feel like you when I was younger in that I thought that diagnosis was BS and all a person needs is a healthy dose of grow the frick up but I came to see and believe that this shite is real, it won't go away, it can be tempered with medication, and using alcohol or non-prescribed drugs is like throwing fuel on a fire, it's one thing to have a spouse or SO with this because you can run but having a kid with it is like a life sentence
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:05 am to USMCguy121
I was married to someone with BPD for five years. It was crazy af and up and down. Fights about shite I didn’t even understand. Having shite turned around on me constantly.
I didn’t realize I was being gaslighted and thought I was the one at fault.
It’s been 3 years since the divorce And it’s the best thing to ever happen to me
I’m now engaged to a beautiful woman who actually supports me and we support each other.
The fear that I was at fault in any way in the previous marriage had melted away.
If you are with someone who might have BPD, fricking run. Cut your losses and gtfo
I didn’t realize I was being gaslighted and thought I was the one at fault.
It’s been 3 years since the divorce And it’s the best thing to ever happen to me
I’m now engaged to a beautiful woman who actually supports me and we support each other.
The fear that I was at fault in any way in the previous marriage had melted away.
If you are with someone who might have BPD, fricking run. Cut your losses and gtfo
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:07 am to Sam Quint
you're trying to make her irrational (crazy) thoughts rational (logical) and it wont work. she might not be a "bad person" but it sounds like she's been making your life experience bad. get out.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:08 am to Sam Quint
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I read that a lot from the stories online, but I'm having a hard time applying that. I think my wife is a genuinely good person. But it seems like she has created in her mind a version of me and her memory of our marriage that just doesnt match what I remember or how I feel. But I dont think she does it because she just started hating me one day, because why would she? I think she genuinely remembers completely differently than I do.
Bro... I out myself enough as it is on this board. She's gaslit your arse over twelve years.
If you want to salvage this she NEEDS to go to therapy, and so do you.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:08 am to 777Tiger
Borderline Personality Disorder is not the same as Bipolar Disorder. There are medications for Bipolar but none have been proven to work for Borderline. BD is a mood disorder and BPD is a personality disorder.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:09 am to Sam Quint
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Borderline Personality Disorder
an excuse for woman to act crazy
similar to thyroid issues as an excuse for women to be fat
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:10 am to Sam Quint
Being afraid to have honest conversations that every married couple should have, because it would just explode into a massive argument is wrong.
BPD cannot really be treated. It's akin to narcissistic personality disorder. Treatment can at most make the person aware of their condition, but it cannot be "cured."
BPD cannot really be treated. It's akin to narcissistic personality disorder. Treatment can at most make the person aware of their condition, but it cannot be "cured."
This post was edited on 10/23/23 at 12:43 pm
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:10 am to LSUtwolves
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This post was edited on 5/26/24 at 2:38 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:11 am to Sam Quint
Pretty sure I've been in a relationship with one for the last 2 years. I close on a house Friday to GTFO.
I've spent too long wondering if I was crazy or if I was really as bad as they make me seem. Don't waste any more time trying to "diagnose" them, just GTFO and focus on healing yourself and making it so that you can never be put in this situation again.
I've spent too long wondering if I was crazy or if I was really as bad as they make me seem. Don't waste any more time trying to "diagnose" them, just GTFO and focus on healing yourself and making it so that you can never be put in this situation again.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:11 am to Sam Quint
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I read that a lot from the stories online, but I'm having a hard time applying that. I think my wife is a genuinely good person. But it seems like she has created in her mind a version of me and her memory of our marriage that just doesnt match what I remember or how I feel. But I dont think she does it because she just started hating me one day, because why would she? I think she genuinely remembers completely differently than I do.
There are different levels of BPD and no two BPD people are going to be the same. Buy that book and start seeking professional help from someone that is trained in DBT, it will help and in the meantime just remember that feelings equal facts for a lot of people with BPD.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:12 am to Sam Quint
Thaaaat's tough man. sorry
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:12 am to Dire Wolf
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an excuse for woman to act crazy
a lot of women want to claim the current popular "malady" of the day for whatever reason, sort of like a weird form of Munchausen's, bit BPD is a real thang baw
This post was edited on 2/15/23 at 11:14 am
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:13 am to Metrybaw
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BPD never gets better.
Mainly because the person diagnosed with it is really just a raging, spoiled, narcissistic woman who finds her anger a perfect tool to manipulate.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:13 am to bad93ex
Came here to post this.
My mother has it. My daughter also has it.
It was rough growing up in a single parent household where the only adult has this. I can't even begin to describe to you all the crazy shite my mother did over the years. It's why she lives alone in a house that I bought her and has no friends. She doesn't do any of the things you need to do to manage this: diet, exercise, treatment, medication, etc, etc.
My daughter was a nightmare growing up. Not a day goes by that I'm not amazed that she's alive. Seriously. She's made an amazing turnaround due to therapy, exercise, diet, and a terrific soon-to-be husband. While she still has her moments, she's lightyears ahead of where she was growing up.
The easy thing to do is run away. The hardest thing to do is to get that person to admit they have a problem and then do the things it takes to fix it. My daughter did and has been successful. My mother did not.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:13 am to tigerfive
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Accusations from a narcissist (or cluster B disordered person, i.e. BPD) are actually confessions. She's probably gaslighting you
Apply that knowledge to many political stories and the news becomes hilarious and horrific at the same time.
Posted on 2/15/23 at 11:15 am to Sam Quint
Serious question:
Is your wife on social media all the time?
Is your wife on social media all the time?
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