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re: Gaming addiction ...this is a epidemic
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:56 am to ApexTiger
Posted on 3/5/18 at 11:56 am to ApexTiger
My 13yo plays it a lot, But...he makes really good grades, plays baseball on the school team, just finished wrestling and says maam and sir, thank you and you're welcome every single time. We set a hard bedtime and he has his "must do" things, like homework, dishes etc. So, if he chooses to play that game with his free time and maintains the other stuff, I am good with it.
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Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:01 pm to ApexTiger
So he's a kid? Christ don't break the shite you phsyco
Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:06 pm to ApexTiger
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This post was edited on 11/7/22 at 6:17 am
Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:18 pm to jivy26
But there hasn’t been a behavior issue. OP just said that basically this isn’t how boys his age spent their free time when he was his age. So If you go punishing him for essentially no reason, then there will be problems.
Based on what the OP said, I think he should just let this be.
Based on what the OP said, I think he should just let this be.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:23 pm to ApexTiger
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It's worse when you and your wife begin to fight over this stuff
Propose a different approach to her. Suggest that you both spend some time with him WHILE he plays video games. Invite him to use a bigger screan in the family room. Propose that you both set aside your personal time in front of a TV and replace some of that time with time with your son when he’s doing what he’s drawn to do.
While watching, make observations to your wife- identify the cause and effect relationships he is learning, the quick thinking he is learning, the fact that when in danger, he is not freezing, he is assessing and responding quickly.
Playing Halo with my kids gave me an assurance that if there ever was a school shooting, my kids were more likely to become survivors than victims. Instead of hiding in place like so many school administrators teach, they learned the value of being in motion and moving away from the threat. I saw how they learned to become persistent and try new strategies to figure out problems.
Back in the day, family night meant all 5 of us would get on Rock Band and kick arse together as a family. I love those memories.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:39 pm to ApexTiger
Instead of telling him to go outside and try other things, why not lead by example? Fortnite is a game about building shite and shooting guns. Have you tried taking him outside to build shite and shoot guns?
Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:43 pm to ApexTiger
Sounds like a typical kid. I did the same thing. All I wanted to do was play my PS2 when I got home from school. It’s not an “addiciton.” Be a fricking parent, and tell your kid to turn it off. You don’t want to be a “nag?” What the hell? Are you a pussy or a parent?
Posted on 3/5/18 at 12:56 pm to weadjust
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My mom would send us out to play and lock the doors so we couldn't get back in
On Fridays during the summer, my mom us to mop the house, she would make me go outside at 8AM. Let me come in at 1130AM to eat lunch then make me go back outside until 2:00PM.. If all the floors were dry..
Posted on 3/5/18 at 1:00 pm to BobLeeDagger
When I want my 13 year old step daughter to put her phone or computer away, I get off my arse and go outside with her. Do chores around the house, build a shelf, split wood, clean out the boat to get it ready for spring, etc.
If you're sitting on your arse, you don't have any room to talk.
If you're sitting on your arse, you don't have any room to talk.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 1:07 pm to jivy26
When your kids are 6 to 11 those are the dictatorship years.
In the teen years when they really need some Independence you need to allow them to make mistakes excetera you can't be a dictatorship and expect to have a relationship with your kids.
The teen years are the influence years... and hope for the best.
I appreciate the comments about nagging and so forth I didn't really explain all that but I do feel like my wife nags the heck out of my son and it drives him insane.. her timing is just not very good sometimes
She wants me to step in and be the enforcer after she's nagged him to death... with endless questions.
Somewhere between giving him some room and having strict enforceable guidelines is where we need to be more be consistent...
When the weather is cold and it's nasty and all his friends are indoors playing games this is the battle...
North Carolina has four full seasons here we have a real winter and growing up in the south I struggle with it I'm ready for warm weather
In the teen years when they really need some Independence you need to allow them to make mistakes excetera you can't be a dictatorship and expect to have a relationship with your kids.
The teen years are the influence years... and hope for the best.
I appreciate the comments about nagging and so forth I didn't really explain all that but I do feel like my wife nags the heck out of my son and it drives him insane.. her timing is just not very good sometimes
She wants me to step in and be the enforcer after she's nagged him to death... with endless questions.
Somewhere between giving him some room and having strict enforceable guidelines is where we need to be more be consistent...
When the weather is cold and it's nasty and all his friends are indoors playing games this is the battle...
North Carolina has four full seasons here we have a real winter and growing up in the south I struggle with it I'm ready for warm weather
Posted on 3/5/18 at 2:05 pm to ApexTiger
People say this all the time...and it is a struggle for sure. I have 3 kids, so I know where you are at. Mine range from 10-17. But you’re not their friend. You want to be. Everyone wants their kids to love them. Were your parents tough on you? Did you still love them?
It is OK to be a parent and not be a friend.
It is OK to be a parent and not be a friend.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 2:08 pm to Fratigerguy
My kid asked for a Nintendo switch this year for Christmas. He kept saying "I want a switch!" He sure was surprised when he opened the box and found a good ol whoopin stick. I hung it up in the front of the house so he knows it's there if he acts up
Posted on 3/5/18 at 2:41 pm to ApexTiger
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ApexTiger
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Maybe you’re not the best person to be lecturing him on screen addictions.
This post was edited on 3/5/18 at 2:42 pm
Posted on 3/5/18 at 2:43 pm to el Gaucho
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My kid asked for a Nintendo switch this year for Christmas. He kept saying "I want a switch!" He sure was surprised when he opened the box and found a good ol whoopin stick. I hung it up in the front of the house so he knows it's there if he acts up
Posted on 3/5/18 at 2:53 pm to ApexTiger
i have an 8 and 11 year old. i bought them a wii u a few years back for christmas, then they outgrew it. they wanted an XBONE and i told them if they could save up for it, i'd pitch in the last $50. they don't get any allowances, so they saved each and every single bday, xmas money for a year and a half and finally got enough.
i was really worried about it because we homeschool and the chance to play is greater, but they play maybe 30 minutes a day at most (if at all) and spend the rest of the day beating the shite out each other in real life or asking me to take them to play bball and ride bikes.
i was really ready to put limits on them, but they've never given me a need for it.
i was really worried about it because we homeschool and the chance to play is greater, but they play maybe 30 minutes a day at most (if at all) and spend the rest of the day beating the shite out each other in real life or asking me to take them to play bball and ride bikes.
i was really ready to put limits on them, but they've never given me a need for it.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 3:21 pm to Esquire
15 years...of posting
I enjoy TD...i admit
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I enjoy TD...i admit
Love LSU football and politics
Posted on 3/5/18 at 4:11 pm to ApexTiger
I played Playstation a crap ton growing up to the point my parents put a time limit on how much we played during the week. Weekends were a little different.
Set clear boundaries with your son and if he can't abide by them then sell the system. If you are clear with him and upfront, he should respect that. I know how it is when momma is on your back to do something about "your child". good luck man!
Set clear boundaries with your son and if he can't abide by them then sell the system. If you are clear with him and upfront, he should respect that. I know how it is when momma is on your back to do something about "your child". good luck man!
Posted on 3/5/18 at 4:52 pm to ApexTiger
quote:Ive got kids 6-20....I have never given it that much thought...like, ever.
When your kids are 6 to 11 those are the dictatorship years.
In the teen years when they really need some Independence you need to allow them to make mistakes excetera you can't be a dictatorship and expect to have a relationship with your kids.
The teen years are the influence years... and hope for the best.
All three are different, I am completely irrational at times just to keep them on their toes. It is kind of easy to keep me happy. Just do the following:
Listen to your mother.
Dont tell lies.
Do what you are told, you can ask me why a million times after you do it...but just do as your told for now.
Be polite and nice to everyone.
Be a part of the family, which means you dont always come first.
Dont tattle, no one likes a snitch.
We will figure out the rest as we go along.
Posted on 3/5/18 at 5:42 pm to ApexTiger
Is this really a thread about a parent asking how to parent? And we wonder why we keep having KiDS shooting up schools! If parents would start parenting then maybe shite like that would stop!
Posted on 3/5/18 at 5:59 pm to ApexTiger
quote:Personally, I blame the parents.
As a parent, We're trying figure out how to help our son...
He would play this fortnite game all the time if we didn't limit.
But its a struggle to get him to do other things. He pushes back...and it's hard not to be the nag...
Anyone else dealing with this issue?
Kids don't ride bikes and play outside these days, it's all different than when we grew up...phones and video games are taking our children down a dark path...particularly the boys.
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